My daughter has OCD (13) and we are still learning about it. I know she has reassurance OCD and Just right OCD. But it is possible to be obsessed with one friend? I don't know if it's because her OCD has ruined all the peer friendships she once had- they don't want to be around her anymore and find her numerous questions very annoying. So when she does get a new friend she really really puts everything into the relationship and not in a healthy way. It's more in a possessive weird way:( Any thoughts or suggestions on how to tell her to take it down a few notches?

Just right is a specific theme but reassurance seeking is a compulsion. There’s relationship ocd (rocd) which is another theme and it can be any type of relationship. In short, anything can be an obsession… Very common to have more than one obsession and they can change like for years I could have harm ocd as my main obsession and down the road it could be contamination ocd. I’m sorry about your struggle. Be strong and educate yourself. We, as a fellow ocd sufferer, can do a lot of damage if we’re not managing ocd well.

To answer your final question, is she in ERP therapy? It’s hard but not impossible and she has to want treatment bc some of our compulsions are mental, internal and undetected by our friends and family. And some external compulsions can be subtle too… so the sufferer has to be the one monitoring for improvement

Hi! I struggle with ROCD, and when I was your daughter’s age (and up until … well recently!), I did the same thing she does. I felt like that one friend was the person who would fix everything - be my best friend, my supporter, my world and any questions I had (all the reassurance seeking, all the secrets I wanted to share, all the thoughts I had) would be answered by them. It’s like a way-too-excited puppy when they see their owner. From my experience, I think it’s important to have someone you trust tell you if something is starting to get too much or a little weird. When I was 13, I had one best friend I would get SUPER jealous of her when she hung out with other friends and would monopolize her time when we hung out with groups. I would hug her, sit on her lap, hang out with her always, talk about her a ton… we did everything together! My mom (we are close, I trust her a lot) pointed out it was a lot, and probably not fair to her or me. It was calm, it was in a kind way, just expressing her concern. I think it would be a good idea to point it out depending on your relationship with your D, but find the right moment or situation. Use facts and not feelings. Maybe tell her not to put all her eggs in one basket, it’s important to have healthy space in relationships too. I agree that she has to want to fix the problem herself, and ERP would really help. From experience, I turned out okay without OCD therapy and struggled similarly; I have a lot of friends, several boyfriends, have healthy relationships with the people in my life, and am successful in my own life. I just started OCD therapy a month ago (I’m 24) and it has been really helpful but I think the path here wasn’t unmanagable with ROCD as a teen, although it was hard. I’m so sorry your D is struggling and you are too. She will be okay!