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I need help!!

Im in a distance relationship for a few months now and I came to visit him yesterday and even thought we came sexually close after that intimate moment i was thinking that i am wasting his time/using him because yet again it feels like i am in denial.

Anyone ever had a friendship end because of your OCD, specifically ROCD about the friendship/other person?

i cant help but feel like a bad friend. i love my friends so much but i don’t tell them things anymore, i don’t have much energy to be happy, and i don’t feel like i deserve them. i see how they are so happy with their other friends and i feel like i’m dragging them down. i don’t want to tell them this because i feel like i’m victimizing myself. they’re trying to reach out to me and i do try to let them in, but i just shut down sometimes. i miss the old me and i miss when i was laughing and giggling. now i feel so gone. i feel like i cant receive love.

Hi guys, I wanted an opinion on my recovery, I've been suffering from ocd more specifically rocd for a year, and since the beginning of this year I've been trying to recover on my own, it was working very well, I had great months with few instructive thoughts, and for a while ago I met my new boyfriend, who I love more than anything, at first everything went well, without intrusive thoughts or anything like that, until I had my first relapse, which left me very bad, but I tried my best not to pay attention to thoughts and continue living my life without letting the ocd get in the way, and it worked, everything went back to normal after a while, but now I'm having another relapse normally, which is seeming harder to get out of, it's feeling more real this time and it's leaving me worse than it did before, but still I keep trying to ignore these thoughts, pretending they don't scare me anymore, and I know that these ups and downs are part of the journey and that it's ok to feel I feel bad sometimes, but it's so hard, sometimes I wonder if I'm doing the right thing, I really want to get back to being well and to be able to feel really good, even when the thoughts were in the background I felt good, but now with the relapse the ocd seems so real i don't know what to do, can anyone tell me if i'm on the right track? if all this is normal?

I feel that social media contributes to my ocd and my intrusive thoughts. I want to be comfortable on social media but I don’t know how to not let it consume me so much. I just deleted all the apps again. Let’s see what happens

I found this so interesting which led to me feeling I had relationships ocd along with other things I read. Whenever I speak to a coworker that I find attractive I shut down and hate myself because I’m in a relationship

I found out about relationships ocd about 5 hours ago on Reddit and it absolutely changed my day. I was having a really really bad day fighting my intrusive thoughts and felt I had to end things with my bf to relieve this pain I create for myself. Currently, we are long distance and deal with religious differences, but we have grown together and have learned to communicate in a way that is helpful for our situation. The future of our relationship terrifies me and I find a lot of comfort in relationships ocd and this app. I truly feel so at piece and myself. I haven’t felt like myself in almost two months and now I feel like I’m back. Thank you.

I am someone that cares a lot and very deeply. Right now I feel like I don’t care. It’s so scary. I know I care and love my partner but I don’t feel it and I am very concerned. I know OCD is against your values so it makes sense it would make me feel a way that I don’t agree with, but it’s so hard because it feels so real.

Does anyone else get really bad false memories that they cheated on their partner after a night out of drinking (a little too much) with friends or a party that your partner wasn’t at?

I have this friend, we used to be best friends, hung out atleast three times a week and did everything together. However, we haven’t seen eachother in months now. We arranged that I’d stay the night tonight and I agreed in desperate hopes to grasp onto what little friendship we used to have. She’s different, we took the train with her friends and she acted like I literally didn’t exist while they were there. I just feel sad, but it’s be rude to just leave. What do I do? I feel sick to my stomach. I wish I never agreed to this. I wish I never forgot how she treated me like a ghost in front of her stupid boring friends.

When I think about it, it just seems like why would I want to be with someone who makes me anxious? And then I stay even though it’s not working? It feels like it’s doomed just because I’m having these thoughts.

Now I'm over analysing

Rocd is the worst.. and i think it’s bad because I had no intention on making my current bf my bf, i didn’t like him at all at first & then i started liking him.. & now i wonder if i forced it or something & if i made a mistake.. rocd is so tricky & i really wanna love him like he deserves :(

has any felt that weed has helped lower their ocd and anxiety?

In ERP therapy, basically doing things that will make more people hate me. Anxiety is through the roof. Does it get better? Everyone’s gonna leave me during this ERP therapy. Brutal.

Iv been doing a lot better with treating my ocd, the one thing that has helped me was just by not paying attention to the thought and allowing it to pass on its own, but yesterday I had an intrusive thought that bothered me and it was a thought saying "if your not paying attention to these thoughts then these are your authentic thoughts" this thought increased my anxiety and made me ruminate, does anyone else have a similar experiences ?

how can I trust someone if all the relationships I had were crap in some point

Really wanna text my ex boyfriend, who was awful to me after we broke up btw, and I know I shouldn’t because all I am doing is looking for reassurance and I have to deal with not always having that reassurance but it’s so hard

So this is not reassurance seeking but basically me and my boyfriend are long distance but not too far (an hour flight) but it means that we’ve been seeing each other every two weeks which was hard in itself because I have a pretty high attachment style and the OCD makes thing super hard too. He feels like he has no routine with the flying back and forth and he wants to push back to only seeing each other every 3 weeks (me go there, then 3 weeks later he comes here etc). This has caused huge arguments over the past few days because I know I’m going to struggle with this so much with the OCD. I still have HOCD / ROCD when with him, the thoughts and anxiety don’t go but they’re way worse a lot of the time when apart and they get progressively worse the longer we’re apart so this situation is really triggering and upsetting me I haven’t stopped crying for days and then in turn I get quite nasty with him and he doesn’t understand. I don’t know how to move forward with this and be happy with seeing each other so infrequently with no end in the near future (neither of us wanna move to the other for at least another year or two). Any help with how to deal with this would be appreciated.

feeling the need to seek reassurance from a friend but posting on here instead because I know if I do it will only feed my ocd

false memories are so hard because it’s like you know what actually happened but your mind tries to tell you that your just saying that it happened that way to avoid the truth of what actually happened or that you’ve remembered it the whole time and have just been in denial

I feel like I have like a hundred intrusive thoughts a day. Mostly regarding my relationship but some not. Anyone else?

So I don’t know if any of you experience this, but whenever I get a new obsession, I also see it in my dreams. Last year I was scared my boyfriend would cheat on me and so I would watch the same nightmare every single night for a whole year. Each time my boyfriend would cheat but on a different setting , and I couldn’t get the nightmares to stop. It makes me lose my mind. Now I am watching that I am the one cheating , even though I love my boyfriend of 3 years and have never thought of another guy, I keep having these nightmares of me being intimate with random guys. I cannot sleep anymore So, any advice ?

Is normal sfter some time in rocd and socd to all triggers me with gf and id rather go out with friends than with my gf is it normal ?

Hi! I'm new here, and I am glad to know there is a platform where I can share muly struggles. I feel blurred in a pool of thoughts that always cause me to feel "low" or "incompetent". Mine is a worry about being a person of good status in life, constantly worrying about betrayal, If I bore people... Then I choose not to worry at all. The cycle returns. I just don't know how to maintain a relationship, I feel like I think too much about details of comfort, that I just feel repulsed by confrontation.

is the Relationship OCD support group still a thing? I don't see it on the schedule for this week

I’m struggling if this is ocd or not anymore. I have a hard time feeling attracted to my partner lately. I love him but I keep getting this pit in my stomach around him and I feel like this urge to break up all of the time. I’m scared I’m ignoring how I truly feel. It used to feel this way only when I wasn’t with him but now when I’m around him I’m triggered. This makes me so depressed….it’s been going on for so long. It gets worse when we go on trips together or during milestones. I’m so confused and depressed. I don’t want to lead him on when I can’t stop thinking of breaking up. I think the holidays have been really triggering. I don’t know anymore please if someone could give some advice. I started working with a therapist but her philosophy is to focus on your feelings because they all have meaning. And that our brains feel like they are in control when really our heart is. She agrees I have ocd tendencies but it doesn’t sound like she knows much about erp. NOCD doesn’t have any availability in therapists for me in the last couple months. If anyone could give me advice. Felt really close to breaking up with him today and just feel like I would be really confused and depressed if I actually go through with it😔😔😔

This summer I decided to go off of Lexapro, my obsessions were very manageable while on it. I am now in a period where my obsessions are taking over my life and are constantly happening, like I’ll get over one and then a new one will pop up within hours. What sucks is I’m supposed to be in a happy place, I just got engaged, I’m graduating college and about to start grad school. I’m super excited about all of that but I feel myself becoming depressed again from my ocd. Could all of these life changes be fueling my ocd? I don’t want my ocd to overshadow all of the good things going on in my life. This freaking sucks

Do you guys think it is a bad idea to get pregnant while struggling with OCD? My mental health is a little better than what is was before…I mean I used to not be able to function at all. But I am doing quite a bit better. Do you think pregnancy hormones would make everything worse? Or do you feel that it wouldn’t be bad?

So much buzz around self acceptance and accepting/embracing your truth and how it’s hard to admit it to yourself and it just DOESNT HELP.

My ex and I rekindled a tiny bit. Just talking and being cordial. But I can’t help but start feeling all that guilt all over again. And it’s making me so fucking mad and feel like I could never be with him. My ocd has taken away everything I love. Foods and snacks and my favorite restaurants cuz I’ve felt like I can’t go there anymore and now it’s making me feel like I could never be with him. And when I say guilt, I mean it makes me think of any fucking lie I have ever told or makes me feel like I am constantly hiding shit from him. For instance, my bestfriends brother (who is 6-7 years older btw) and I hooked up when I was 16 years old before I even met him. It was not consensual, I told him no repeatedly but he kept insisting and I just did it so he would stop. Unfortunately I can’t avoid him, because my bestfriend and I are close like she is my rock. I am fine being around him I’m not uncomfortable anymore I barely see him but I am okay I feel I’ve processed it and got through it and even spoke to her about it. But I feel like my ex should know about this. Because he knows who the brother is, they’re not friends or any of that but I feel bad that he doesn’t know? Isn’t that fucking stupid. It’s not even a good memory, and it happened before we even met! But yet my ocd is tying it to “well he should know everything especially if this person is around you” like dude can I just keep some stuff for myself? Because even if I told him, he would not wanna hear that. We literally broke up because my ocd kept finding old lies and bringing them up.

It’s making me see him a different light for no reason it’s making me believe it’s over It’s making me believe he isn’t who he is or who I thought he was which is so stupid It’s taking away all of my emotion , it’s taking eveything out of me . I’m gone

I keep feeling guilty over a thought I had a while ago. I feel like I don’t deserve to be with my bf because this one time I was annoyed with him and imagined what it would be like if I had broken up with him and was dating my ex again. I know it’s so wrong that I fantasised about it for a minute but immediately after felt guilty. I have been thinking about it since and I don’t know if I should confess to my bf?? I don’t want to be back with my ex but I shouldn’t have thought of him like that. I feel like an awful person.

Does anybody with hocd cant have sex because of hocd and introusive thoughts?

I start getting over the idea that I cheated on my bf but then it comes back and makes me question everything. Ocd is convincing myself I have an std:( this is so embarrassing

Y’all, i’ve been triggered.. sometimes I don’t feel like being bothered with my bf and it sucks, i’ve had one great month where my ocd didn’t bother me.. and then me and my sister ex bf was arguing and he made this comment like “you don’t even like your bf” and i’ve been sad ever sense cus he really threw what i’ve been dealing with in my face

Literally me lol

Not today ocd…not today!

I feel like i dont see more future with my gf i feel like everything gone i feel like we are the worst couple on the world i think that our relationship is over i dont know like i want to break up but i dont wantt i cry and cry🥺😭😭😭😭😭

I’ve been struggling with relationships issues for nearly 2 years now and I’ve had 2 relationships with 2 amazing girls but in both I’ve had these extreme feelings of discomfort in my throat and chest and it makes me so sad and I feel guilty that I don’t love my partner so I end the relationship. Then I go through a period where I miss her so much and then as soon as we try to fix things I get these feelings of anxiety inside me again and it’s horrible and it’s making me hate myself. I don’t want to go through this my whole life and I need some help on how this can stop and allow me to stop overthinking and ruining relationships.

I know if ROCD is at play here, seeking reassurance is doing more harm than good. However, I need someone to tell me if this counts as possible ROCD. My relationship is going great. Absolutely great. I don't lack anything and I have a wonderful partner. Yet, my latest anxiety inducing thought stems from a friend. I told them about a dream I had where my partner told me they're not happy in the relationship and it broke me. My friend then asked me if I dreamt that because I'm insecure that it's true or if it's because I want my partner to be unhappy so we can break up. I know the lattest is not true. Why would I want that? It would mean I am unhappy in the relationship which objectively is simply not true because why would I be? But part of me keeps wondering "what if" and it's causing me great concern. Even if there are facts stating that there's nothing lacking and that I am being loved and love someone, my thoughts keep asking me what if it's true? What if I'm just trying to find a way out? I need someone who's looking at this from the outside to tell me if there is a possibility of this being ROCD. I don't even feel that anxious anymore, I just have this feeling that something is weird (had it my last episode as well I think but it passed).I don't have the income to start looking for therapy, but if it's indeed ROCD, I want to at least dive into online self help tools.

Our one year ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

does anybody have any tips on thoughts to fill your brain with instead of all the intrusive thoughts

did anyone’s rocd go from being overly obsessed with them and anxious that they don’t love you to your intrusive thoughts telling you that you don’t love them? I had this recent thought that that means i never loved them in the first place and it was my ocd the whole time and i can’t get rid of it

does anyone’s rocd make them more agitated at their partner? like we could be having a normal conversation and i will just get annoyed for no reason he isn’t even doing anything

can ROCD also include obsessive irrational thoughts about someone who is not ur partner? my ocd has become fixated on this specific person and has me convinced i like them and that they will ruin my relationship even though i feel no genuine attraction. however the thoughts are hard to ignore and come with intense anxiety. has this happened to anyone before?

I’ve been more depressed lately and not really believing that what I’m feeling is ocd. I’m scared to have thoughts and I don’t have the energy to get through the anxiety so instead I just choose not to think or feel anything, kinda involuntarily but anytime I try to get myself out of this depressed headspace I feel like I go back to anxious. Anyway, I’ve been bringing my boyfriend down with me lately and I think im pushing him away. I think im doing this subconsciously. I keep doubting everything. But then in doing so, he’s getting frustrated and upset and I don’t think he feels appreciated. I haven’t been nice to him at all lately. And then all day today I’ve been just so sure that all of this is because we aren’t compatible and we don’t work. Or that since it’s taking so much work and I don’t have the energy when im depressed then he isn’t going to be able to handle me when im at my worst which means it won’t work.

What are some common ROCD thoughts?

Any of you ladies notice that your OCD symptoms are worse during ovulation?

Does anyone else experience searching for a certain feeling with rocd? Like how do you know if you want to be with this person if you can’t feel the feeling of missing him? I feel like my brain just constantly is trying to find the right feeling to make it okay. I know this is a compulsion so I try not to engage in it, but it just makes me confused when I don’t feel certain things. I can’t let go of the fact that maybe my rocd means something with him because it’s never really been an issue in the past. Any advice?

getting diagnosed with ocd and joining this app has been so nice. I’ve had thoughts that i labeled as “weird” all my life. I just thought I there was something wrong with me. Who knew it was ocd.

I’ve been doing AMAZING but the last three days have been a little sticky with anxiety and some intrusive thoughts slipping in and me engaging them. I was like thinking why is it more difficult right now, Checked my flo~app and apparently my monthly friend starts in four days, LOL. Idk if that has anything to do with it but it makes sense!

Feeling much better ocd is trying to fight my mind but im just letting it ther and im better is this going in erp?Or maybe that is real sexual fantasy?

Minimal intrusive thoughts but loads of anxious sensations. Ugh.

My boyfriend has had anxiety about our relationship from some time and i realize its my fault i guess after the honeymoon phase i kinda felt numb like ik i love him but i just dont know how to demonstrate it, today he cried about not ever wanting to loose me and i felt numb almost nothing but i love him now im questioning everything and whats going on because i love him but why is it so hard to connect with him emotionally rn. It used to be so easy to be emotional with him and tell him i love him but now its hard and im so lost i dont want to believe i lost feelings because i do love him but why was i feeling so numb 💔

The anxiety and the ocd makes me feel physically sick.

my parents are spilttting up and idk how to cope with it and my ocd is making me feel like i could’ve done more to prevent it and more to do to to prevent it still but my mom won’t even come home anymore. i’ve always been the middle man to help them in the past but this one is not like the past she’s not coming back until the house is sold.

I feel like I just had a break through my false memory. I thought to myself wow my dreams feel so real and the details of stuff I’ve never seen or stuff that’s never happened. If that can happen while I’m sleeping then it can happen while I’m awake

Reoccurring thought that “im trying to love him but I just don’t” I can’t shake it… puts me in such and anxious mood. I feel so weird around my partner sometimes, and then I have moments of clarity like yesterday was such an amazing day.

I haven’t used this app in months but my obsessions about my partner not being able to experience what I experience as a black woman (ie racism etc). Even though he is actively trying and doing the work. I see monoracial couples say how much better and easier it is to be in a monoracial relationship and that triggers me even more. And then I find myself judging him for being different and how he speaks differently from people of my race😞 not that he should talk like anyone but himself. And then it feels like I’m longing and missing out on being with someone of my race. I feel like I’m dying inside. It feels like I’ll never be okay that he can’t experience what I experience and that nothing will ever be good enough and it kills me. I try to be gentle with myself and understand that these things are challenging etc but I just wanna be in peace. I just wanna love my partner and see how hard he’s trying. Can anyone help?

Curious and wondering what some of you with ROCD do for exposures. I usually watch some triggering videos, or imaginable, i will script my worse fears etc. I’m wondering if you all have any that ofcourse suck in the moment but help in the long run? My current obsession is questioning whether I’m in love or not. It’s painful and annoying cause I tell him I love him, I feel like I love him, but then when I overthink it I’m like why don’t I feel any magical poof extreme flashing light of a feeling.

It’s too much ans too real. I’m not gonna make it

Does anyone get scared that they don’t feel exactly the same for their partner or that their partner likes them more thank you like them??

It’s frustrating how numb medication makes me feel because it makes me feel like I don’t love my partner when I do. Some days I’d almost rather the constant panic and obsession because I was able to go off of my feelings even though it wasn’t healthy for me. Does this make sense??

Hello, I don’t really know where to start but I need to get many things off my chest so I can possibly find help. I am 17 years old and I have dealt with ocd ever since I was around 6-7 years old. I’ve never been too open about it but close friends and family members know I have it. They do not know how serious it is though. This is because I don’t know how to explain it. I’ve let it take control for over a decade now it’s got so specific of what it tells me to do that it seems unexplainable. For example. It started when I was around 6 and it would simply be a step on a crack break your moms back type thing, not terrible. Now it’s advanced to where certain numbers letters etc bother me on a daily basis and I can’t use them without stressing about it the rest of the day, I can’t really even look at them. I can’t use certain words, if I do something wrong I have to go back and do it right and I’m looked at like I’m crazy. It affects everything I do on a daily basis. Now I have done things to take control of it. Instead of listening to it I’ll ignore it for the rest of the day or if it’s before I go to bed I’ll just go to sleep and wake up and see nothing happened. But for most cases this doesn’t work. Because if I am capable of going back and doing it the “right way” my ocd forces me to do it right or it will stress me the rest of the day. If anyone has dealt with this or other types such as religious ocd or contamination ocd, which I deal with and any other relations you can make to this, please try to send me any methods you’ve used. Thank you.

I hate going on tiktok and seeing these videos about how being with your partner causes you anxiety all the time is a bad sign. But he's been nothing but amazing!! I'm just scared that I'll loose feelings for him even though I love him a lot!!

A few sticky thoughts regarding if I know what love is or not and if I truly love my partner, and suddenly I’m anxious. Trying not to engage with the thoughts and just acknowledge the anxiety and how it makes me feel but it still sucks. How can I be perfectly content with our life together and the relationship we have, and then have these intrusive thoughts.

I’ve been dealing with the same theme for months now. The fear I cheated on my boyfriend while drunk? Is it normal for a theme to stick around this long and bother me as much as it is?

It's so hard not to. It feels like I'm a horrible evil person and liar. And I need to confess everything. I'm so tired. I can't handle this anxiety and guilt.

We want answers, we want to know for sure, we want to see progress. But by constantly expecting something like that to happen, aren't we actually preventing it from happening? I know it feels hard. I really wish someone else could just give me an answer, or that the answer would come to me by itself. When I manage to stop ruminating, I'm thinking: "Now I'm not ruminating. Now I should already know the answer. So why don't I know the answer yet?" This impatience eventually makes me go back to ruminating. In a way, ruminating feels comfortable. It's something you're familiar with and going into compulsions gives you the relief that you're after. But it's TEMPORARY. What has ruminating given you so far? I don't know about you, but for me, it just makes me feel very anxious and prevents me from living my normal life. And I always reach the same outcome anyway - so what's the point of doing it over and over again, isn't it time to try something new? Instead, leaning into not knowing. Whatever you feel is alright, whatever you think is alright. You can observe your thoughts and feelings, know that they are there, but know that they don't have to be the ultimate truth. Sentences like "If you know, you know." are scary. Sure, useful for some people - but if you've been obsessing for a long time, you can't rely on your thoughts and feelings. Now, I don't want to reassure you that your feelings and thoughts aren't true. They might be true - and they might not be true. But obsessing over them won't make them disappear and won't give you answers. We're in this together❤️ I hope this has eased someone a bit, I'm trying to have a better mindset and not go into ruminating that often. Thinking about the things I wrote above helps me, so I hope it helps someone else too. Be patient and compassionate with yourself❤️

Okay so this isn’t so much about the card of whether or not I’m attracted to my bf. Where it is hard is hearing how love is a choice but then when my bf is excited per say and tells me how much He loves me sometimes my stomach will turn and it’ll make me scared when I’m not feeling that excitement. Am I putting too much pressure on myself to how I feel love for him when it comes to us getting married and being together forever?? Sometimes I get scared that it’s a sign of me not loving him enough but I think it’s just fear as a whole?? Any of those with ROCD and are married how was y’all’s experience??

I think I have OCD, but I’m not too sure, but I always have sudden thoughts of “maybe I should leave my boyfriend and see how I feel” or “maybe I’m missing out on other people” or that he doesn’t like me even though he’s wonderful and perfect and literally the best guy I’ve met. But I think it’s gotten to the point that I don’t know how I feel on him and I’m not sure if it’s just me since I’ve doubted everything or if I’ve actually lost feelings. I don’t want to. I love him I think but I’ve never been sure if I’ve ever loved any of my partners and I don’t want to lose him. He’s the best thing I’ve ever asked for and I know I’d never be able to feel this much for anyone again. I’m not sure. I’m just really hoping I’m not actually over him. I guess I want someone to tell me it’s just the possibility of the possible ROCD? I don’t know.

Days like this make me remember last year when I was happy with my partner and now that I’m single I obsess about him and our relationship even more than I feel like I did in the relationship. I’m so lonely today I feel like I’m gonna spiral… and my friends are sick or id go to their house. I want to talk to my ex so bad I miss having someone but the really fucked up thing is I feel like I miss having his reassurance the most, he assured me things literally all the time and it made me feel better in the moment but perpetuated the problem of course (we didn’t know I was OCD) anyway … just feeling like I’ll never get over him

I was getting ready to spend thanksgiving with my partners family when I started spiraling. She left and now it’s been 4 hours alone and a Xanax for dinner. I feel very upset with everything and I can’t stop crying.

I’m so confused as to if I love my partner or not. I started questioning love because of ocd and it just had manifested into reality. I feel like I don’t love him and so I rationalize every reason in my head why that’s ok and why I do feel love etc. it’s constant rumination every hour of the day and I feel like I’m lying when I tell him I love him and I can’t write him sweet notes because I feel like every word of it is a lie. It’s killing me. I just want love and my brain makes me feel like every reason I “love” him and want to be with him is bad and selfish and makes me feel like a bad person. Any advice?

Ocd convincing myself I’ve cheated is ruining my life. I haven’t had a good day in so long

i feel like more people shpuld talk about how difficult it can be having ocd whilst in a relationship 😭

some of my course mates at uni are getting weird about my relationship because my boyfriend is the grade/year below me but im 03 and he’s 05, however it’s only 1.5 years between us. im getting really anxious about what they’re thinking of me, i never thought it was weird because we’re only one grade apart but now im getting nervous:/

I’m already a lesbian.. and that I like it… i hate it.. someone else?

I’ve been dealing with the fear that I cheated after a night of drinking of the last 3 months. I asked a friends who was there and she said nothing happened at all. I can’t get the thought out of my head and I start creating images of it happening. I don’t even know what the truth is anymore and I’m so sad.

Thoughts, or another voice?

And my anxiety is worse. Is sleep a trigger?

How will I ever know if my false memory is true or not? I’m so upset

If it could've been feelings for someone during my relationship at some point, or could've just been thoughts about dating someone else about a year ago, but I dont think it was even during my relationship. Should I confess it to my partner?

It takes me a while to get courage to share things that people did that upset me or I’m concerned about. Once I do, sometimes my concerns are dismissed as “non issues.” When they are legitimate (not intrusive thoughts). But shortly after that point, my ocd does come in saying, “I should apologize I was mean or in the wrong.” When deep down I know I’m allowed to have those feelings and they shouldn’t be dismissed. Not sure if it’s really an ocd issue as much as self esteem. But I’m upset and lonely bc of a situation like this tonight. Does anyone else ever have a situation like that? Thanks for reading.

I’m not sure if this is OCD, but does anyone here ever do/say something that they are not sure was socially “cool”/acceptable and then think about if for hours after? I think it’s a bit of OCD combined with social anxiety- but having a hard time being berated by constant thoughts that who I am is inherently wrong. Appreciate any feedback or similar experience:)

I've confessed some things to my gf and have been told this is likely a compulsion by my therapist, however I still feel guilt because there are some small but potentially significant details I left out, in addition to somewhat relevant mistakes from my past. Because so much of my anxiety comes from me being worried she'd leave me for these things, I feel like if I just told her everything, my guilt would actually go away. But I'm worried this is just my OCD and these things are only self destructive to tell her. But can't it be good to tell her if I can finally have some peace by telling her every single little detail/concern? I'm so tired of feeling like a monster

dont rush into a relationship yall your trust issues and need for reassurance will become your biggest triggers 😭😭😭😭

Anyone else dealing with just a negative mindset. After having multiple ocd themes everything feels so negative. If I see something happy my mind automatically turns it into a negative thought. Does anyone know how I can change this ?

I feel like my OCD gives me this need to dig around and find answers and it can cause me to just live inside my head for hours, even days on end. I found this article and it’s helped me a lot so I thought I would share it here: https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com/how-to-stop-ruminating/

Anyone else fear that if they do ERP they’ll find out they’re false memory is true:(

Does anyone have tips on how to accept your anxious feelings/thoughts? For me I usually have anxious “feelings” and my mind links it to a thought. So I’m working on accepting my feelings/thoughts rather than being scared or trying to figure it out. I would say things like “who knows why I have this intrusive feeling, oh well, I’m not gonna figure it out today! I hope it stays!” I know that by saying “I hope it stays!” Or “see you again tomorrow anxiety!” In a more fun and joking way is a part of ERP. But is there any other statements any of you use when you have these feelings or Intrusive thoughts? Ex: “I love this anxious feeling! Who knows if I can handle this for the rest of my life, oh well!!” Any thoughts?

Anyone else struggle with the adjustment from long distance to living together?

Feeling guilty for finding other guys attractive/enjoying attention from other guys while in a relationship

I can feel like an awful girlfriend often. I got confident with my relationship and how I love him and get to choose him. And how love isn’t always a feeling but this week it’s been a rotation of how I don’t love him or if I’m not feeling super intimate somethings wrong with me etc. how do those of you in long term relationships deal??

Evening when I’m not ruminating my brain still tells me I cheated??? Help

I was feeling fairly well for about 1 week, then this morning I woke up and can barely even look at my wife because I feel like im not attracted to her. This is exhausting! Also, does anyone experience anger associated with their OCD? I catch myself upset at nearly anything my wife does or says.

The anxiety is too much. I don’t think I can stay with him anymore because I’m just so exhausted. And I’m starting to think my anxiety is stemming from actual issues that idk if can be resolved. I feel so defeated but like exhausted and almost just ready to end it. The only relief I feel is when people tell me that all of these things can be worked through and then minutes later I’m back in my cycle.