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Ope
10d ago
  • Sexual Orientation OCD

I still feel so numb and not right with my husband. I try to feel attracted and happy and I can’t. Meanwhile, I had a dream with a woman and I’m obsessing if it was a groinal or real desire

BK
7d ago
Hi Ope, like intrusive thoughts, your can’t control your dreams, so much like not being your intrusive thoughts, you are not your dreams either. Try not to let your dreams fill you with doubt or ruminate on getting definitive answers or reassurance for what your dream meant, that’s just what the OCD bully wants. Since OCD likes to make us doubt what we care or cared about most, naturally it latched onto your relationship as it knows that will get your attention (and cause you distress) the most. Not to pry, but I’m guessing there is another reason, besides the dream, causing you to feel numb and not right with your husband. Has it always been this way with him or is it something new? By all means, you don’t have to answer, I’m no therapist, just trying to help in any way if I can. Stay strong against your OCD bully, I know it’s not always easy.
Ope
7d ago
It’s really just been ocd. Like I keep feeling like I can’t possibly like him, so when I try to make myself feel something I can’t. And meanwhile, there’s so many feelings about like women. Like it feels arousing but in a really concerning way. It’s been a lot. But the intrusive feelings of arousal don’t feel very good