Hi Ope, like intrusive thoughts, your can’t control your dreams, so much like not being your intrusive thoughts, you are not your dreams either. Try not to let your dreams fill you with doubt or ruminate on getting definitive answers or reassurance for what your dream meant, that’s just what the OCD bully wants. Since OCD likes to make us doubt what we care or cared about most, naturally it latched onto your relationship as it knows that will get your attention (and cause you distress) the most. Not to pry, but I’m guessing there is another reason, besides the dream, causing you to feel numb and not right with your husband. Has it always been this way with him or is it something new? By all means, you don’t have to answer, I’m no therapist, just trying to help in any way if I can. Stay strong against your OCD bully, I know it’s not always easy.