i don’t how to just “let the thoughts and feelings be” without trying to solve it or distract myself. does anyone have any tips to not give into mental compulsions (mental reviewing certain times in my life, event, situations and ruminating) ?

Make room for thoughts/feelings to be there. “It’s okay that the thought are here. I don’t have to like it, but they can hang out until they are ready to leave on their own.” Then I go on and do what ever I was doing before the thoughts/feelings showed up. It’s just background noise.

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I do find it difficult not to ruminate, or if there’s something that I’m uncertain about. I may go on the internet and research, which opens up a can of worms. Causing anxiety, worry and fear.