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So it sounds like you’re worried about not being worried about the thoughts. This is a completely normal part of OCD. I think it’s called a kickback or something. It’s part of the loop of OCD. You freak out, your brain adjusts (not meaning you’ve become what you’re stressing about; just that your brain has learned to handle the thoughts better), you freak out because you’re not freaking out, repeat. It’s definitely not fun, but it doesn’t mean the thoughts are true. Wishing you the best! I know it’s tough.
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So is this whole thing is normal?
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@Angel_Marin16 Well if it’s not, then you and I are both abnormal together haha I don’t want to give you reassurance, but this has happened to me (and many others) multiple times and I never became or did anything I was worried about. I hope you feel better soon, friend!
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I’ve felt what you have. Still do from time to time. I know it’s hard. I really understand your pain. What has helped me out (when I’m not having my panic attacks) is doing word searches or some type of focused based activity. It’s not for distraction, thoughts will probably still be there, as they have for me. But what I have noticed is that I tend not to worry about the thoughts as much when doing the word searches. They’re there, I say “yup.. cool story bro” and continue doing the word search. Put a show on in the background and try it out. Hope this helps friend. Stay strong. You’re not alone
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Oh thank you 🙏 you really don’t know how much this helps I’ve been dealing with this for about 2 weeks and I’m only 13 years old and I’ve stopped doing the stuff I love since. I might go to a physiatrist maybe this week. Also, since I’m young I feel like this stuff is not normal, it’s changed me and my mind my one wish is to be happy for thanksgiving and for Christmas, I don’t want to live like this. I’m new to this app and to this OCD so idk what I’m doing 😂 I’ve never been attracted to men my entire life, and since I’ve had anxiety for years now, I guess I have the tendency to overthink and other stuff. And again, thank you. 😁
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@Angel_Marin16 Seek help. If you can talk to your parents and see if you can get a therapist. Sorry you’re going through this at a young age and can’t imagine how difficult it must be. Talk to your parents and see if you can get some help bud. Stay safe
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@Anonymous Thanks! 🙏
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@Anonymous Also, I have another question, can this OCD turn you gay? Becuase like I said earlier, I’m not attracted to men. So, can this OCD turn you gay?? Because I’ve been searching and I’ve gotten results 😂
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You’re looking for reassurance and that will only make it worse. Normal for OCD. But trust me, you don’t want to fall deeper in this hell hole. Stop researching. If you feel you have to look up stuff, sit with the anxiety and uncertainty. Go for a walk, talk to someone, anything... but don’t search. Be strong bud
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Oh ok sorry I didn’t know that
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@Angel_Marin16 It’s okay 😊 Believe it when I say that reassurance doesn’t help. If it did, none of us would be here lol. Stay away from the internet, don’t read forums, don’t look up stories, don’t compare. None of that. Don’t push the thoughts away, acknowledge the thoughts, say “yup, cool” or “yup whatever” and move on. The deeper you get the harder it is to get out. Trust me. Talk to your parents to get some professional help. That’s always best. Stay strong
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@Anonymous I just have one more question, (it might be unimportant to the OCD or something idk) why do I feel like I will get an erection even though I’m not thinking about the intrusive thoughts?? Or is it just my body lol
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@Angel_Marin16 - That's called "groinal reaction" and it happens sometimes.
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@djh123 So for example: if I see/think about a man, my groinal response feels likes it’s starting to have an erection or it has one even though I don’t like these thoughts that I’m having
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@Anonymous What does it mean when you sometimes don't get aroused when you see or think about women when you have HOCD. I’m heterosexual, and I’m not gay. But I sometimes I can’t get aroused by women. Is this my fault? Or is it the OCD???
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So pretty much I’ve been dealing with intrusive thoughts my entire life, I had no idea could’ve been symptom of OCD until maybe a year ago , I have this fear right now that I don’t actually love my fiancé and I’m not attracted to men. I am attracted to men. Let me be clear. I’m not attracted to females. I never have been and I never will be. But it’s one of the scariest thoughts I’ve ever had that I don’t actually care about the person that I would sacrifice anything for that I would do anything for. He’s pretty much the closest family that I have and I just wanna be with him for the rest of my life. A couple months ago was that I just didn’t care at all, and I didn’t have any feelings and everything that I felt was me being fake in that nothing was real. But I eventually got over that and the new thought is that I’m actually gay even though I know I’m not. And in the world we live in now where it’s be yourself be you if it comes across your mind. That’s the obvious truth. Be yourself… It’s kind of scary to think about. I just want it to leave me alone. I’m actually so scared that eventually I’ll believe it because some thoughts that I’ve learned were intrusive. I ended up starting to believe and it turned into a whole catastrophe for my life. I met this girl and she felt a certain way about her husband and then she told me that eventually I’ll feel that way and ever since then I just I haven’t gotten over this fear that I’m gonna end up feeling the same way she is. Also, I recently got over a few themes. I’m not ready to share, but I’m so proud that I got over those and I just I’m waiting for this one to leave me alone and it’s not and I’m starting to get really scared that it’s true and I don’t want it to be true. and just to be very clear I don’t care who you love what you love who you like what you identify as because you can in fact be yourself but this just doesn’t feel like me. I’m genuinely reaching out to try to get help for this because now it’s messing with our personal life. We’ve never argued so much in our entire relationship and now I realize that it’s mainly my fault because I’m detaching myself from all emotion just so that I can get over this thought I’m detaching myself from all intimacy and that’s even scarier because what if it’s not me detaching myself and it’s me just not being attracted that’s another thought I’ve hadI’ve gone all long enough so thanks.
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2 nights ago I saw something on my phone and it has now spiraled into me scared of being trans or being gay because i don’t want to be… now i have a huge fear of what if i am gay and am attracted to woman or what if im not comfortable in my body and want to turn into a man. It’s freaking me out - my ocd always makes me question my character! Has anyone experienced this 😩
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i had recently been triggered to have so-ocd. its been on my mind non-stop. (i am a heterosexual female) and my mind has been all over the place questioning if i have been in denial the entire time. ive always had people tell me they sort of got that vibe it it never really affected me until my own mother had her suspicions. so i would constantly get triggered un public around the same gender, while knowing my true sexuality. ive always been attracted to men but as of recently ive been having super bad anxiety to where i cannot eat or sleep and feel weak all the time. it was like that for a week or so. now im in the calm where i have been trying accept the uncertainty but it still isnt fair as im getting triggered. im a little worried because it feels like i have been lying to my parents the entire time although ive never had the desire to be with the same gender. and i keep getting intrusive thoguhts that make me feel anxious and uncomfortable. its all starting to affect my friendships as im constantly getting triggered with the intrusive thoguhts. i feel a little less anxious compared to how i was a couple days ago. im really scared on why im having these thoughts now when i have been having romantic feelings for a guy the past year or so. ive also been struggling with false attraction and loss attraction to men. it makes me feel uncertain of my life the entire time
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