I can completely relate to being in similar scenarios, often and for a majority of my adult life before work (especially related to class), and before any other kinds of big events. My therapist has had me doing a lot of ERP exposures around perfectionism like stopping something midway (yikes, I know? Literally closing my laptop, or stepping away physically), when I’ve maxed out certain time limits I set. Clearly, she doesn’t want me to loose my job, and my ability to manage my time has gotten a bit better (except for when I feel my ADHD really kicking in.) The thing is, it’s better to force yourself through ERP exercises put work away at night and be with the discomfort of the unfinished work and wake up earlier to do it. And I know those morning moments can feel like a pressure cooker but the pressure cooker kind of weeds out the extra compulsion loops overtime, and the exposures help feeling like a lot of those compulsions are necessary. It’s all really hard, and stressful, and I still struggle but last night I managed to sleep by 1am before a big day at work, and I was kind of shocked..thinking, wait, what? What’s the catch? And it was the first time when there was no catch! And a lot of the stuff my anxiety said I had to do last night, I don’t feel is necessary this morning. The power of sleep! And progress from those exposures.
Sorry for this big blob of text! I need to get ready for a meeting but can type more later.
(Another thing my therapist is having me do is not re-read my messages or over edit. Super hard! She also wants me to stop apologizing but I’m not there yet! Seems like a common courtesy for my rambles!)
PS..easier said than done, but try to work on self forgiveness with the sleep deprivation. You’re working on things! ❤️