Magzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
That’s a normal reaction because OCD lives to attach itself to your core values and make you doubt yourself. However, you must lead to retrain the brain to not necessarily like the thoughts, but your okay with them being there because you know you are not your thoughts. Thoughts are just thoughts. Since your responding in a negative way to the thought, than your brain than senses that your in danger and starts to give you anxiety symptoms. Which than in turn gives the the thought power and than the cycle repeats when you see another under 18 boy. You will than avoid this chic fil a or avoid anything that could have minors and again your giving this thought power. So in order not to give it power, just agree with it or say “maybe maybe not” changing your reaction to the thought will help your brain learn that this is just a thought not a crime, not a fantasy, not a horrible thought. It’s just a thought.
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
That makes sense. Pocd sucks I hate it with a passion. I wish I could be normal again. Thank you for the advice I appreciate it
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
You will be “normal” again. Lastly, don’t hope to go back “normal”, learn to manage it. If you keep hoping you will go back to normal and begin to ruminate on how you use to be before OCD, you will just start the cycle again. Be kind with yourself and learn to accept you for you and what you have. Just say this “I have OCD and I know it will never go away, however I will learn how to manage it in a positive way where it does not affect my daily life.” Than eventually the OCD symptoms will be so small you won’t even remember that you have OCD lol
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
I will definitely have to work on it. I’ve had it for almost 3 years now and I’m just getting worse but I feel like it has to get worse before it gets any better so. One day at a time I guess.
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
I just read your most recent post and just know your not alone in this fight and believe me I’ve been reading so many books and listening to so many podcasts in the past month, just trying to figure out what the hell is wrong with me. However, I’m slowly learning to accept the fact that this what life gave me. I must learn to manage it and I will never give up. No matter how shitty the day. I will learn to manage. This is my third time in 7 years that I’ve managed to relapse but I’m almost grateful I went through it the first two time because I learned from it. I really recommend looking into psycho education. It has helped me tremendously. In particular read a book called “untangling your anxiety” by Josh Fletcher. It really helps you understand what your actual brain is doing and helps you get more in touch with yourself. You don’t have to identify as the bad person anymore, your brain works in meticulous way to try and “protect” you however, just like everything is this life it makes mistakes. It’s our jobs to correct our brains from making these mistakes. By managing it. If you ever feel troubled please message me on here and I will help you.
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
If you would like I just posted about the thing that’s really bothering me most. I tend to overshare just hoping someone would understand and give me some peace of mind but I feel so bad just letting it out there for people to judge or misunderstand. So if you do come across it have a open mind. My past really haunts me. I will definitely have to check that out and see if it helps. Haven’t read much books about ocd or anxiety but I think I should start. Thank you for being so helpful. I truly appreciate it and if you are struggling as well, don’t hesitate to reach out
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
I’ll read it right now, don’t feel ashamed though that’s what OCD will do to you. Let me take a look.
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
Good Morning, I’m sorry I crashed last night lol. How are you feeling today? And care to tell me what it is you saw? Don’t feel shame either, understanding your triggers and creating ERP around them will help you tremendously!
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
It’s just still bothering me. I wish I could forgive myself and let it all go but it’s so hard to
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
I don’t understand. Why can’t I just let it go? Am I a monster? I don’t want to be I can’t handle this
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
Yea, I feel you on that. I want the pain and my mind to shut off at times. However, what I’m telling you remains the same. Whatever your OCD mind is telling you, literally just sit there with it. The more you fear it or the more you hate it, the more you show it emotions the stronger it gets. Call it out for what it is. Say “Hey, OCD I know that’s you giving me this, but I’m going to sit here and not do anything about it.”
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
finding someone cute don’t mean anything
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
Even If they are younger and I get thoughts that they are attractive?
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
No, that doesn’t sound to bad. I mean if he is working, I’m assuming hers over 18. So it’s not really falling under POCD? And I mean does the thought of you thinking a man over the age of 18 attractive like make you feel anxious? Maybe you just think he’s cute and your nervous what he would think of you talked to him? More context would be helpful. :)
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
Younger than 18 that’s why it’s freaking me out. Obviously if it was someone over 18 I would be fine
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
You know this for a fact?
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
Either or, my best advice for you is just tell your anxiety or OCD or intrusive thought. “Yes, I’m so happy that I thought that boy under 18 was so cute!” With a smile on your face. Trust me I know it sounds crazy, but your re-training your mind to not mind thought by giving it a different response. Keep doing it every time it pops into your mind, “yup, I’m so happy I thought that boy was cute!”
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
It just feels so wrong. I don’t think it’s ok to think that someone younger is cute or attractive. It feels gross and it makes me feel awful about myself. I don’t know what ok or normal with ocd especially pocd. Everything just feels weird and wrong
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
Of course that’s what we’re all here for! Did you need advice in dealing with Real Event? Or Pedo OCD?
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
It’s about my recent post. I think I posted it an hour ago. It’s about real event ocd
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
So first I would like to say, do you know what your triggers are?
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
Or what event is it that you keep ruminating on?
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
A mistake I made in the past. Maybe 4 or 5 years ago. I explained the whole thing in another post if you want to read about it. It’s embarrassing though
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
I read the post, it didn’t go into detail? Do you have an IG, if you would like to keep it more confidential? Up to you.
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
I definitely went into more detail but that’s ok. You don’t have to read it. I actually might delete it anyways it’s too much info and I don’t want anyone to judge or think of me the wrong way which is completely not true
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
It was further in the comments not the actual post itself
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
Okay so I’m reading that you have Real Event because of something you saw on I funny and there was something about a tickling fetish? So what exactly do you feel guilty about? The fetish? Or the thing you saw?
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
Yes. I feel guilty for all of it but mostly what I saw. Plus it had a lot to do with struggling with masturbation as well which brings on even more shame.
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
Hey, I’m here! Look I’m going to be honest with you. Literally don’t do anything. Like nothing stay in the present with me and let’s just talk. Let the anxiety just be there. Trust me your going to be okay. Okay so just talk to me
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
Did you read my comment though explaining it though?
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Just Breathe ❤️ Yes I just did. You are not at the end of your rope. This is your OCD mind just telling you, that you are. Lean into it. Trust me. If you feel like your having an urge of harming yourself, literally don’t do anything. Sit there with the anxiety and the uncertainty. This is a perfect time to prove to your OCD that you are you and it does not control you. I can explain to you exactly what your brain is doing right now with research I have done. If you care to hear. Look I may not know you in real life, but people love you and so do I! You can do this! I know you can! If your having trouble believing in yourself right now, well at the very least believe in me because I believe in you. You can do this!
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Andrewmz I’m not going to harm myself. I’m just saying I want the pain to end. I’m so tired. It really hurts. What have I done to myself…I feel sick and disgusted
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Andrewmz Why was I so stupid back then! I should have known better and I just did it anyways. I really am a horrible person 💔
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Just Breathe ❤️ Your not a horrible person either, the fact that you feel shame or guilt shows you have a heart.
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Andrewmz But you’ve read what I’m talking about right? I don’t deserve it. Forgiveness, healing non of it. I don’t deserve it. I loathe myself. I would do anything to go back and change things. I don’t want to be a horrible monster who needs to be punished. I feel like I deserve to go. I’m scared. I’m so so terrified what if this is going to haunt me for the rest of my life
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Just Breathe ❤️ It’s not going to haunt you for the rest of your life. Believe it or not, life moves forward. If you don’t move than life will move you. I know you deserve to be forgiven, however only you can forgive yourself and truly love yourself. What you did back than is in the past, let me ask you, how is constantly looking back or regretting it or any negative feelings towards something that happened in the past helping you? Is it helping?
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Andrewmz Well not but I feel like I deserve to be punished for it. Is it punishable I don’t know maybe I’m just overthinking all of it I guess I will let people who have read it decide. I know my mom knows about it and my dad knew about it before he passed and they both told me to let it go and forgive myself but I just can’t. I feel stupid. I don’t understand why it didn’t cross my mind that what I was doing was a mistake? That’s what I don’t understand is why am I so stupid
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Andrewmz I am a very sensitive person and I tend to take everything seriously and I overreact to literally anything. Is this one of those times I don’t know. If I didn’t have ocd would it be bothering me as much or even at all? I don’t know
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Just Breathe ❤️ To be honest isn’t life itself a “Idk” or a “what if”? I mean your answering your own questions. You can’t understand a lot of things in life, why is that free in the exact spot? Idk? So the same question to you would be: if you didn’t have OCD what you not be reacting the same? Idk and neither do you. That’s the point of ERP is to lean into the uncertainty because that’s what makes life enjoyable. However, I do know for a fact that you made a mistake and that’s all it is, no reason to keep chasing this thought down the rabbit hole.
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Andrewmz Is it too big of a mistake to move on from though? I had no intention of doing anything bad. It was just for the fetish itself not anyone in whatever it was I was watching or looking at, it was an innocent video that came up when you looked up the word for the fetish itself I’m just hoping I wasn’t a monster back then. I don’t remember how old I was. It’s kind of blurry to me but I was probably still a minor but that doesn’t excuse anything. How can I even accept the uncertainty of that? Maybe I was a monster maybe I wasn’t? To me that’s terrifying
AndrewmzAndrewmz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Just Breathe ❤️ You just answered your question again. You had zero intentions of doing anything bad. So again what is it exactly that you are holding onto that you can’t seem to let go? The fact that you saw something on mistake? You can’t blame a mistake on you. Right?
MagzzzMagzzz
- Date posted
- 3y
@Andrewmz I kept watching it though. And masturbation was apart of it too because of the fetish but it was because of the people in what I saw that makes it so much worse but it didn’t cross my mind at the time that “hey you might not want to do that”
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- Date posted
- 18w
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- Date posted
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