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roselily
6d ago
  • Relationship OCD

i met someone online last year and finally got to meet each other a few time this year. as we facetime and chat i know i have feelings for him, like they’re “more than friends” feelings, but when i’ve seen him in person i honestly don’t feel a cosmic connection you know, and idk if that could be rocd because i’m trying to prove myself that i do feel something spectacular when i’m with him but it’s honestly not as big as i’d thought it would be! can anyone relate and give me some advice please? thanks<3

Jesse Miller
Yesterday
Hi! I will try to give the best reply without reassurance :) It’s amazing that you met someone and enjoy them so much. I hope he feels the same feelings you do. I would say to definitely just take your time with it! I don’t think we really have to feel a spark for it to be real. It’s honestly a better feeling in my opinion when you don’t because you’re not entering into a relationship with rose colored glasses. You can see past the perfections and see who they really are. It sounds like you’re enjoying yourself, so just keep going! Follow your gut intuition. Does he have similar values? Does he appreciate you the way you do him? Pay attention to red flags, but enjoy the little gushy feelings too. ROCD will make you feel like you need an answer as to why your relationship doesn’t feel perfect, but imperfect relationships are the most real and all emotions are acceptable.
roselily
19h ago
hi!! omg thank you so much for answering. that helps me a lot :)
Jesse Miller
19h ago
@roselily Of course!!! Hope it goes well :) 🧡