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Hey do not worry ! Thank you about telling this aesthetic attraction thing because that is what I guess I had a long time. I always loved to flirt with women and imagine how I would be with them but I never would really date one romantically or sexually it is just a interesting thought to explore and there is nothing wrong your sexuality won’t change from that :)
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I also think some women are really sexy and pretty and I was like „Yes If I was a guy I would 100% date her“ but I‘m not a guy (even my gender OCD tells me I am I guess because of these thoughts) so do not worry just go on dating girls :)
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Yes that’s exactly how I feel, I thought that I was alone, I keep thinking yeah he’s handsome and I’d imagine the same thing, but in reality I won’t date one, thank you very much ❤️❤️
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Does your hocd try to make you think you actually like them ?
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@Tan??? Yes, although Ik I don’t, and when it does I get very anxious
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@KAI_17 That’s how my hocd is my main trigger is masculine women I am a straight girl but anytime I see a masc lesbian I get triggered and start to get thoughts saying oh you are attracted to her.... I just don’t desire a relationship or anything. With a girl
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@Tan??? Sameee, it happens to me with male kpop idols, and I keep thinking that I’m attracted to them, when Ik that I’m not
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And I also keep reassuring myself that I’m lesbian
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