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I know that feeling. I could be completely enjoying myself with my husband but my brain tries to trick me. It’s bizarre
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Yup it really sucks
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I don’t mean to trigger either of you but I have a question. I’ve been imagining uh…female parts. In an unfortunate amount of detail and imagining doing stuff guys do. And it’s not like doing anything for me necessarily at all actually but I was wondering if either of you have experienced this because just yesterday I was very much happy over dick if you know what I mean. Now I keep imagining things and HD to put it in another create and I keep making these weird facial expressions like I am but I’m not interested in my body is like work dude I don’t know what you’re on but we’re not into this and now I can’t imagine a guy parts but I can’t stop Imagining the alternative. Does this happen either of you? I’m literally at work and I feel like crying
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Ok seriously I’m so sorry for burdening your guys with this. You’re both already dealing with enough 😣
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No you’re okay you’re not bugging! I also have moments of intrusive thoughts and actions and urges with things such as this, it’s common in this theme
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@PinkLotus Thank you. 🥺 Thank you for not being mad I’m driving all my friends and family crazy. I just looked at a coworker and imagine her naked and said not but I wanted to be bad and I felt weird and warm in my chest like but it’s not hot and I’m so sorry thank you for letting me talk about it because it just feels strange. I’m like I said I’m pretty innocent action wise you know I haven’t done much but I’ve always been going crazy especially their parts well I mean I have to have some amount of brain above the waist otherwise I’m not gonna do anything with the dude but I’ve always liked the parts in their bodies like not just sexually but like I feel like male bodies On my thing and now I act like they are when they’re not nasty. Thank you so much for understanding. I just want my guy feelings to come back in this other shit to go away because what kind of street person I feel so weird and warm in my chest saying not see it I want her to go back to being bad but straight person talk like this it’s just so I’m imagining stuff that I don’t like things I’ve made myself watch and I keep feeling hollow in my chest saying when it’s not hot. Ok I’m shutting up.
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@Bookworm91 Yup this is all very common in soocd, I know it’s difficult and it feels horrible but hang in there. Try to let the thoughts pass by, theyre just your brain trying to scare you
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@PinkLotus I’ll try 🥺
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I really don’t want to be sexually involved with a woman but this makes me feel doomed
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I don’t know if my hormones are extra wild this month or what, but I have been having so many POCD thoughts lately. It feels like I enjoy them in the moment, and then a few seconds later, I get this tiny flicker of *wait I don’t think I actually want to enjoy that.* It’s scaring me a lot. I was watching adult videos for the first time in about a year, since I had been avoiding them because of my OCD. I know they are not good for anyone, but I felt like i could (ironically it felt like a tiny win that my OCD had calmed down enough). But while watching, I had like 3 separate POCD thoughts. And it felt like I liked them. Like genuinely *liked* them. I don’t know if maybe my body was mixing up physical pleasure and mental pleasure, and then my brain inserted those not okay thoughts into the situation, which got tangled up with the pleasure responses I felt mentally and physically. It is all really confusing. I just feel so scared. I know OCD thoughts are supposed to feel real, and that once you get desensitized to the anxiety, they lose their power. But this feels like I am *actually enjoying* the thoughts, and that makes me want to cry. I’m scared that I actually like these thoughts when I’m really aroused :( Please help.
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I pleasured myself to my intrusive thoughts while I was high as a teen and it felt so real like I genuinely wanted it and leaned into it, it genuinely felt like I enjoyed it and desired it but I’m not sure if I misinterpreted a groinal response and false arousal for desire and did it I don’t even want that stuff in reality nor do I seek it out but I feel like it stains me forever and I cannot be loved or accepted or be a normal human anymore and that my life is over, I don’t know what to do, it felt like it was automatic and it all just happened and then I “snapped back” into reality once it was done and it all hit me like a truck. Does anyone else know if this is a thing or if they’ve had similar experiences? Please help me it feels like I’m dying here. I want to die
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This is going to be long and all over the place. To give some context I’ve dealt with SOOCD for a long time now and it had very bad effects on my past relationship. I had a hard time being intimate with my past partner because I was always subconsciously checking if I was getting aroused enough, if I was attracted to him, if I truly liked him, or if I was lying to myself (yk the whole deal). I literally felt nothing but anxiety when we did things which made everything worse. I was also extremely depressed which made my libido and attraction towards men completely vanish (still have low libido and my attraction is kinda the same). Me and the guy broke up and a couple years ago we reconnected. When I saw him again I was extremely attracted to him, romantically and sexually. This made me so happy because I finally felt some confirmation that I knew who I was and my thoughts weren’t real after years of being tortured by them. We didn’t end up lasting because my feelings started to shift but I truly blame that on the fact that it was just a dumb old high school relationship, he was a terrible boyfriend in the past, and we had nothing in common. However while we were together, I had dealt with really bad relationship anxiety. I found other people attractive which gave me reassurance, but also made spiral because I thought it meant I didn’t like him anymore, I was lying to myself about my feelings, and I questioned everything about the relationship. Fast forward to now, I am now in a new relationship and I’ve known this guy for a long time. I developed a crush on him which again made me really happy bc I haven’t had a crush in a VERY long time. I made a couple of posts on here about how I started to overthink everything (pls read those to get more context I don’t want to make this even longer). I started to get really anxious and had more intrusive thoughts about lying to myself about my feelings/and sexuality, not really liking him, not being attracted to him, yk all that. I was able to manage it by watching a video about rumination where the guy basically just said “stop thinking about it.” He said to just let it float there, don’t engage with it, don’t try to solve or understand, don’t try to replace it, don’t say a mantra, don’t be mindful, just let it be there and move on. I also went on reddit and this guy said to stop hyper focusing on the attraction/ the “right” feelings bc the more you try to look for them the less you will feel it. Anyways, I took the advice and the next time we hung out I felt comfortable and just so much better. It was the sweetest date and I truly had a fun time. However, when we kissed I immediately started over analyzing and questioning everything. I had bad experiences with my ex because I kept trying to analyze my feelings like do I really like this kiss? Am I actually attracted to him? Why am I not feeling super excited right now? Why did all these good feelings just go away? It was so annoying and heartbreaking for me because I just want to be normal, I want to truly enjoy this relationship. I want to stop automatically checking and over thinking everything. We’ve discussed sexual things and it automatically made me hyper analyze everything making me feel more anxious and unsure about the relationship and my sexuality. There have been times where we talked about them and I’ve thought about it with no worry, and I even got turned on by it (tmi i’m sorry). But I’m worried that I’ll have the same bad experiences I did with my ex and it’ll ruin how I view the everything. I was so excited for this but now I feel so scared and anxious again. I really want to enjoy this, he’s truly an amazing person and I want to be with him without being bombarded by this shit 😭. Sorry if none of this made sense. Please give me advice if you have any!!!!
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