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And we live w two other couples and they seem to talk a lot more than we do
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Try mixing it up a little bit! Not that staying in watching TV or playing games isn’t fun but find ways for you two to engage with each other in a fun way!
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So you think this is an actual relationship problem?
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@cozycat No not at all! It’s normal to have bored moments!
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@cozycat That’s part of the complexity of a romantic relationship! Look at Awaken Into Love podcast :) they share good insight on ROCD in relationships!
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@Anonymous Thank you so much
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@Anonymous Omg yes agreed, kiyomi released a new video today about feeling connected with your partner. But pLS remember to not watch her videos to feel a sense of relief...
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@cozycat try not to ask for reassurance!
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Awww man I feel like this too sometimes, but I figured that we are just comfy together. Maybe do some fun activities like painting together, play a board game, go outside for a walk and take pictures of the nature together, go to an arcade together , bake a cake or cookies together etc! Me and my boyfriend play a lot of games too and sometimes we don't talk for hours. I know this might be reassurance but it's okay to not always talk to eachother and do nothing together. Your head is making a problem out of it. Try to sit with the feeling that it is a problem. It sucks and I think you know as well.
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Thank you for your kindness!!
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Omg I've been through this EXACT same thing. I believe that once you know someone really well, and you spend so much time together, conversation will naturally run dry unless you find new things to do. I dated my best friend for a while and we didn't speak as much after a while, and we also lived together. There comes a point where you spend so much time together where you tend to not have as much to say, and because you know each other so well you're comfortable in that silence. I had trouble with this too, it can be really, really unsettling and make you worry, but it isn't always an indication of anything awful, it may just mean you've been spending a lot of time together. One thing I did was take an interest in some of the things he exclusively did. Like, he liked animal crossing, so I gave it a try, and we ended up talking about that for ages! Don't panic though. Same thing has happened to me in both previous relationships I've had (and in both a lot of time was spent together). I think it's fairly normal :)
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I honestly can’t tell when thoughts are being affected by OCD. Sometimes I think I have what I think are normal “grey” thoughts, but then OCD adds so much weight to them and I spiral. I had this thought that I wished my boyfriend was more confident or independent. I felt so guilty for thinking it. I told him, and of course it hurt him. He told me it’s a normal thought to have, I just dwell on it too much. And that it’s the kind of thought most people keep to themselves. That’s the thing. I don’t know what’s okay to keep to myself and what isn’t. I think sometimes I say things out loud not just to relieve anxiety, but because I genuinely don’t know what’s okay to think or say. I do not know the line between a normal grey thought and something that’s “bad” to think. I don’t know how to tell if it’s something I should process privately or something I need to be ashamed of. I get this confusion with intrusive thoughts too, but those are easier to spot and evaluate. This is harder, because again, it is *my* thought. That makes it harder to sit with. Maybe the intrusive part is the voice that questions what kind of person I am for even thinking it. I don’t have the same telltale signs anymore. My physical anxiety isn’t there anymore, it’s all in my head and that makes it so much more confusing. But I don’t know. The line between honesty vs compulsion is so blurry. I just feel lost
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I think I’m in the recovery stage as my thoughts have settled so much & I only get intrusive thoughts on occasion and get worse only when I’m anxious, but the quietness in my brain feels so weird & I feel awful saying that because all I wanted was the thoughts to stop. This is the most quiet it’s been it’s over 7 months, so to go from non stop thoughts for a long time to quietness I don’t know how to take it. Has anyone else felt like this in recovery
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i’ve just been feeling so off lately. i’m okay right now, but a couple hours ago i was in this mood where i felt anxiety creeping up. like i will feel like there’s danger when there isn’t. i just get this really uncomfortable feeling that something feels wrong even when it isn’t. and i’ve been feeling derealization/depersonalization. just really disconnected from myself and the world. i’ve also been unmotivated to where there are times when the thought of doing things upsets me. and i’ve been having existential thoughts that do not mesh well with harm ocd. i get the thought “if people aren’t real then it’s okay to hurt them”. it sucks because there are times where i just don’t even care to ruminate and find reassurance that that’s not the case. furthermore, i’ve just been really aware of my existence. i will get moments where i’m so aware of my existence and it freaks me out. like the fact that i’m a living human being is crazy to me. then there are times when i’m not even anxious about anything which then has me questioning and ruminating on that because i ALWAYS have something i’m worrying about. i’ve also been feeling really nostalgic and bittersweet of the good memories from the past. i keep thinking about good times i’ve had and really wishing i could relive it. for example, last summer was a pretty good summer even with my ocd. and i just wish i could relive some of those moments, but i obviously can’t. and it’s been upsetting me because this month has been shitty with my anxiety. as for an update with my room change to those of you curious, i still have anxiety over it and my mom is taking it as me being ungrateful with what i have when it’s my ocd making a huge deal of it. that upsets me especially since i’ve told her what’s been going on and she was really understanding of it. anyways, life has just been a bit much and i’ve been dealing with more to my anxiety that i don’t appreciate. while worrying about constantly throwing up with my contamination ocd is incredibly exhausting, it’s so normal to me that i’m used to it. but when my harm ocd kicks in along with other themes that aren’t usually common for me, i freak out and feel like i’m going insane. i genuinely wonder how people have dealt with taboo topics of ocd without treatment for years on end. i’ve had harm intrusive thoughts since i was little, but it didn’t get to any extreme until 2023. i feel like i’m drowning in it when it decides to hit me and the thought of having to deal with it for the rest of my life?? i’m scared something in me will flip and i’ll become what my thoughts are telling me i am. i apologize for the mixed thoughts that are all over the place but i feel safe posting on here about it and want to hear how y’all are doing
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