- Username
- cozymushroom
- Date posted
- 3y ago
And we live w two other couples and they seem to talk a lot more than we do
Try mixing it up a little bit! Not that staying in watching TV or playing games isn’t fun but find ways for you two to engage with each other in a fun way!
So you think this is an actual relationship problem?
@cozycat No not at all! It’s normal to have bored moments!
@cozycat That’s part of the complexity of a romantic relationship! Look at Awaken Into Love podcast :) they share good insight on ROCD in relationships!
@Anonymous Thank you so much
@Anonymous Omg yes agreed, kiyomi released a new video today about feeling connected with your partner. But pLS remember to not watch her videos to feel a sense of relief...
@cozycat try not to ask for reassurance!
Awww man I feel like this too sometimes, but I figured that we are just comfy together. Maybe do some fun activities like painting together, play a board game, go outside for a walk and take pictures of the nature together, go to an arcade together , bake a cake or cookies together etc! Me and my boyfriend play a lot of games too and sometimes we don't talk for hours. I know this might be reassurance but it's okay to not always talk to eachother and do nothing together. Your head is making a problem out of it. Try to sit with the feeling that it is a problem. It sucks and I think you know as well.
Thank you for your kindness!!
Omg I've been through this EXACT same thing. I believe that once you know someone really well, and you spend so much time together, conversation will naturally run dry unless you find new things to do. I dated my best friend for a while and we didn't speak as much after a while, and we also lived together. There comes a point where you spend so much time together where you tend to not have as much to say, and because you know each other so well you're comfortable in that silence. I had trouble with this too, it can be really, really unsettling and make you worry, but it isn't always an indication of anything awful, it may just mean you've been spending a lot of time together. One thing I did was take an interest in some of the things he exclusively did. Like, he liked animal crossing, so I gave it a try, and we ended up talking about that for ages! Don't panic though. Same thing has happened to me in both previous relationships I've had (and in both a lot of time was spent together). I think it's fairly normal :)
The fact that Im googling to see if that Im feeling numb towards my partner and that Im scared because I dont feel anxiety anymore so Im thinking my thoughts are real and that Im feeling that my partner is not real is normal could be considered as a compulsion? I think Ive been going through the backdoor spike for almost two weeks now and I dont even know what to feel anymore
I am trying to understand that just bc I don’t always wanna spend time with my bf and hat sometimes it’s boring that there’s something wrong in the relationship how do I deal with these thoughts!!
After so many months of stress and rumination I just don’t even feel like that crazy about my boyfriend anymore. I feel super distant and just like put off. I have been ruminating for hours though at this point. I hope I can just chill and stop worrying. When I think about living without him I start to cry though. Sos guys lmao
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