- Username
- cozymushroom
- Date posted
- 3y ago
And we live w two other couples and they seem to talk a lot more than we do
Try mixing it up a little bit! Not that staying in watching TV or playing games isn’t fun but find ways for you two to engage with each other in a fun way!
So you think this is an actual relationship problem?
@cozycat No not at all! It’s normal to have bored moments!
@cozycat That’s part of the complexity of a romantic relationship! Look at Awaken Into Love podcast :) they share good insight on ROCD in relationships!
@Anonymous Thank you so much
@Anonymous Omg yes agreed, kiyomi released a new video today about feeling connected with your partner. But pLS remember to not watch her videos to feel a sense of relief...
@cozycat try not to ask for reassurance!
Awww man I feel like this too sometimes, but I figured that we are just comfy together. Maybe do some fun activities like painting together, play a board game, go outside for a walk and take pictures of the nature together, go to an arcade together , bake a cake or cookies together etc! Me and my boyfriend play a lot of games too and sometimes we don't talk for hours. I know this might be reassurance but it's okay to not always talk to eachother and do nothing together. Your head is making a problem out of it. Try to sit with the feeling that it is a problem. It sucks and I think you know as well.
Thank you for your kindness!!
Omg I've been through this EXACT same thing. I believe that once you know someone really well, and you spend so much time together, conversation will naturally run dry unless you find new things to do. I dated my best friend for a while and we didn't speak as much after a while, and we also lived together. There comes a point where you spend so much time together where you tend to not have as much to say, and because you know each other so well you're comfortable in that silence. I had trouble with this too, it can be really, really unsettling and make you worry, but it isn't always an indication of anything awful, it may just mean you've been spending a lot of time together. One thing I did was take an interest in some of the things he exclusively did. Like, he liked animal crossing, so I gave it a try, and we ended up talking about that for ages! Don't panic though. Same thing has happened to me in both previous relationships I've had (and in both a lot of time was spent together). I think it's fairly normal :)
The fact that Im googling to see if that Im feeling numb towards my partner and that Im scared because I dont feel anxiety anymore so Im thinking my thoughts are real and that Im feeling that my partner is not real is normal could be considered as a compulsion? I think Ive been going through the backdoor spike for almost two weeks now and I dont even know what to feel anymore
Isn’t it so frustrating when you’re having a great day and in a wonderful mood (rare) and then all of a sudden, you’re triggered by something silly and now you’re anxious about something that keeps coming up over and over in your mind? I feel like this might sound silly (or many not). I’m scared to share in case everyone replies and just says what a big red flag this is but I’m so sick of being anxious about this so here goes... My partner and I will have been together for 4 years this year and he’s never posted about me on social media 🤦🏼♀️ on one hand, I feel so stupid for worrying about this (we’re in our 30’s for goodness sake!), but on the other hand, it still makes me extremely anxious when I think about it too much. We’ve had sooo many conversations about it, because I would get really upset that he was ashamed of me or trying to hide me. He always promises that isn’t why. He feels like posting on social media is like, the highest level of commitment lol. Last time we had this conversation, he told me he would feel more comfortable proposing to me than posting online. I know he was always uncomfortable with it, even when he was married. Apparently she would post photos of them from his account and he was always super uncomfortable with it. But yeah....I thought about it again today and it just makes me feel like there’s something seriously wrong with us. His family and friends all know about me, we’re always going out in public, but it just feels strange that we don’t post online. And don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I want sappy posts or anything....I just want the comfort of feeling like we’re “normal” and that it’s not just a huge red flag waving over my head. Okay, I guess that’s it. Thanks for listening! If you have any opinions, please be super gentle so I don’t totally freak out 😅 thank you!!
I haven’t really had real friends in years, except for my cousin which is like my best friend. But for all of these years at school when I would be alone with my school friends, I would constantly talk, but in my head. It was like my mind was my comfort place kinda. I didn’t really talk what was on my mind so I said a lot of it in my head. I would have thoughts such as “she’s/he’s cute” even when I wouldn’t think that and would say no in my head, but I would still constantly get these thoughts. Now, I have Harm OCD so it’s very tough because I feel like I can’t control my thoughts and it feels like sometimes I force these intrusive thoughts. What if my intrusive thoughts never go away and they just act like the thoughts I had before?
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