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And we live w two other couples and they seem to talk a lot more than we do
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Try mixing it up a little bit! Not that staying in watching TV or playing games isn’t fun but find ways for you two to engage with each other in a fun way!
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So you think this is an actual relationship problem?
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@cozycat No not at all! It’s normal to have bored moments!
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@cozycat That’s part of the complexity of a romantic relationship! Look at Awaken Into Love podcast :) they share good insight on ROCD in relationships!
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@Anonymous Thank you so much
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@Anonymous Omg yes agreed, kiyomi released a new video today about feeling connected with your partner. But pLS remember to not watch her videos to feel a sense of relief...
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@cozycat try not to ask for reassurance!
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Awww man I feel like this too sometimes, but I figured that we are just comfy together. Maybe do some fun activities like painting together, play a board game, go outside for a walk and take pictures of the nature together, go to an arcade together , bake a cake or cookies together etc! Me and my boyfriend play a lot of games too and sometimes we don't talk for hours. I know this might be reassurance but it's okay to not always talk to eachother and do nothing together. Your head is making a problem out of it. Try to sit with the feeling that it is a problem. It sucks and I think you know as well.
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Thank you for your kindness!!
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Omg I've been through this EXACT same thing. I believe that once you know someone really well, and you spend so much time together, conversation will naturally run dry unless you find new things to do. I dated my best friend for a while and we didn't speak as much after a while, and we also lived together. There comes a point where you spend so much time together where you tend to not have as much to say, and because you know each other so well you're comfortable in that silence. I had trouble with this too, it can be really, really unsettling and make you worry, but it isn't always an indication of anything awful, it may just mean you've been spending a lot of time together. One thing I did was take an interest in some of the things he exclusively did. Like, he liked animal crossing, so I gave it a try, and we ended up talking about that for ages! Don't panic though. Same thing has happened to me in both previous relationships I've had (and in both a lot of time was spent together). I think it's fairly normal :)
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I actually didn't realise this til now because I just assumed it was a coping mechanism from when I was really young. But when I tend to get stressed out or overwhelmed, I'll often start talking out loud to myself (which mostly means just whispering to myself because if i spoke really loudly, my mom would hear me lol). But nowadays with my fear of being surveilled, I keep having to catch myself because it's such a habit at this point for me to whisper out loud. Especially with me trying to reason through my false memories or really bad intrusive thoughts. Another compulsion. And then I keep thinking omg did I have my phone with me when I said that. Is anyone watching me rn? What if this person (that probably doesn't even exist) thinks my thoughts are true? What would everyone else think? And then I spiral afterwards. It sucks because I feel like I'm policing myself even when I know these are all just things I'm saying out loud and they don't mean anything— they're just thoughts after all. But I have this worry that if someone overheard me or all of this was suddenly revealed, that it might change how people see me or people might hate me or think i'm a bad person. And then I worry about me being worried about that because then I ask myself would a good person be worried about this? Anyways, another long post with me waffling and rambling. Thank you for taking the time to read this ❤️🩹
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