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I think reassurance question! Has it any importance why you feel attracted? You felt it! If you were happy, there's no importance in why!
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But just because It felt nice( I dont even think thats true anymore) dosent mean it was true.
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@Imaan7 Exactly. That's why I'm so nervous lol. But with all the girls I felt really attracted to, it felt right. They felt right for me. I could envision myself having a future with them. And these visions made me happy. I was always excited to see them and talk to them. But like you said, and like the question I pose, could it all have been because of what I was conditioned to feel growing up? That's what's tricky
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@RandomRob11 Atleast you were able to envision a future with them, I wasnt able to, I never even talked girls or had a single close female friend. My attraction was only from far away. I had trouble picturing myself with them too which I why I think my attraction to them wasnt real but it depresses me so hard bc I always wanted to fall in love with a girl but Im afraid It was just bc i was conditioned to believe in
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@Imaan7 How long have you had SO-OCD?
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@RandomRob11 Started In may 2020, may have had symptoms as early as January 2020 though
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@Imaan7 Who cares if it's true or not! If you are happy (because it felt nice) there are no problems! And also, I would love to tell you that if you want something, you can have it even if feelings make you feel the opposite. I had rocd, i still struggle sometimes, but at first I was destroyed. I was soo sad that I stopped seeing my friends, going out of my room or my bed. But I wanted to stay with my boyfriend, even if my rocd feelings told me to RUN. I stared therapy! Now it is really better (I still have a lot of things to learn tho). I understood that if you are happy; enjoy the moment; enjoy whatever you are doing without asking nothing to yourself. Do what make you happy, without ruminating, without trying to understand if this is what you really want, or not. That will make your real feelings go away only anxiety stay! Surely anyone is different! But for me that was the key of biggest part of situation! I'm sure you will find something that works for you!!! Sorry for my English, I'm an Italian girl haha
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I would say to try your best to not analyze this as it can lead to emotional reasoning. It really begins with consistently practicing foundational steps whatever that looks like for you. Educating yourself, learning with a NOCD therapist, attending webinars, etc. I read an article yesterday by a Dr. Greenberg about rumination and it really covers how even asking things like this are typically forms of rumination and analyzing. So instead how about you sit with the doubt, discomfort, anxiety, and get back to whatever it is you were doing before. Were you reading, eating, exercising?… good, go and do something for yourself, not to avoid thoughts…but to focus on what actually matters to you.
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Have you suffered from OCD in the past? Or just anxiety in general?
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I dont think so, I might have had ocd like traits growing up. Ive experienced anxiety before although back then i didnt know what that feeling was.
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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