Relationship OCD Based on my past experiences with toxic relationships where I have experienced disloyalty and trust issues, I have carried them into my healthy relationship ( now of two years. )Sometimes I get these obsessive cycles where I just think my boyfriend is going to leave me because of my relationship anxiety and my obsessive thoughts about being hurt emotionally by the relationship. I also worry a lot about his phone even though I have no reason to. (Found out I was cheated on in the past in my exes phone) Does anybody have any strategies to help remove these thoughts or cope with them?

Omg I have the same feelings and thoughts! Yesterday actually I had a bad ocd jealousy spike but I just sat with the feeling and cried my eyes out tho but I didnt do any mental compulsions, such as recalling the nice reassurance things my boyfriend has said to me, so the feeling passed and now I feel a bit better.

Also communicate with your partner about your feelings without them reassuring you

Thank you for sharing your similar experience with me! I never realized that a) this is probably a lot of jealousy OCD that I’m experiencing and never thought about it that way B) that jealousy ocd is even a thing. Can I ask, are you doing therapy and/or medicated for OCD? I really need to consider both or either

Yes I have started therapy and got medication, Sertraline (zoloft). It has helped but now im a bit more anxious about my thoughts but idk if I want to rise the dosage because I dont kind of feel numb and I want to exposure myself to my thoughts and get stronger with lower dosage. Idk if its wise but yea