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I have ROCD and exposures I’ve done is thinking and repeating out loud one of my intrusive thoughts as I look at a picture of my partner. I also watch romantic movies or shows as ERPS. I watch videos of couples giving advice on how you know you’re with the right person. All of that triggers me. But again your ERP tools and triggers could be totally different than mine and it’s not one size fits all. this is just telling you what I’ve done. Hope this helps :)
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The best way to do it, is think about what makes you feel the worst towards your relationship or what scares you the most, and do it. Over and over. If saying out loud." I don't really love her" gets you feeling bad or panicky, say it till it bites you.
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I listen to a song called true to myself by Ziggy Marley which always gets me and do something similar to tarot cards where I ask if questions like, am I lying to myself? Am I in the right relationship? Do I really love her? And regardless of the answers I get, I pick another with the same question, until the answer doesn't affect me much anymore
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Have either of you looked into Michael Greenberg’s method of Rumination Focused ERP?
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I have not, do tell.
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There is a lot digest. He has a lot of resources on his website that I have found valuable. https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com
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Go to the articles tab and you will find everything
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Let me know what you think
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I shall, thank you man.
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- 21w
Hi all! I was wondering if anyone being treated with ROCD and/or SOOCD has some advice on how they handle the things *with* their partner. For context, my ex and I were together ~7 months before we broke up a year ago, in large part due to my severe anxiety from untreated ROCD/SOOCD. I’ve gotten a lot better through NOCD treatment and we’ve been friends since then. But we’re currently in a “situationship” kind of stage, where I think we’re both trying to figure out if the relationship is still feasible, and I’m finding that I’m a lot more triggered as the relationship nears becoming “serious” again. We’re both really trying to figure out the healthiest way to handle when things get hard for me. Does anyone have input about what they’ve learned or found what has worked in their own relationships? Some specific questions: - I’ve found that when getting really triggered in my own head, I have no clue if I should explain how I’m feeling to my partner or how we should address it together. How do you differentiate between communicating versus falling into the confessing/reassurance trap? - Related to the above, my partner and I are both a bit lost on the best way for him to respond when I’m really paranoid (for examples, I have major I’m-being-cheated-on paranoia and overanalyze if I’m enjoying sex enough), or if I’m overreacting to feeling rejected/misunderstood (e.g. “he didn’t respond to my comment just now, he doesn’t care/he doesn’t get me/maybe we shouldn’t be together…”) - How much does your partner know about ROCD/SOOCD in general? How much have you shared with them about your thoughts and experiences? I’ve explained both subtypes and some of my thought processes to him, but definitely not all of it, and I’m not sure how much is helpful for him to know. Answers to any or all of the questions are very much appreciated. Thanks so much in advance! Hope you’re all well 💗
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