My obsession if I’m aro/ace is so terrifying. I’m in despair because I managed to recover from HOCD so successfully for so long but this theme feels different and real. It’s so confusing because I see so many posts online about how aromantic people hate their sexuality and feel uncomfortable in relationships but wish they didn’t and that’s similar to me (idk if I feel uncomfortable in relationships I have minimal experience but I am a little scared of them/commitment). I don’t know where to go from here. Doing the OCD recovery work feels terrifying because it feels as if I’m in denial. I rarely see anyone talk about this theme. Please please someone help.

I am here to tell you that you are not alone, my so-ocd can be telling me I'm a lesbian, bisexual...and then when I've calmed down and am feeling secure in my heterosexuality, I am now aro/ace. 😂 just remember that ocd is going to attack everything that means anything to ya. Don't let it win! It sounds like you may have an avoidant attachment style though. Might be beneficial to look into that, good luck! 😊

I’ve looked into avoidant attachment and I relate to it a little, but I’m secure in all my other relationships and had a great childhood so I doubt it could be that? It’s like every conclusion I come to of why I could be anxious about getting into a relationship my ocd makes me doubt it and makes me feel like I’m in denial. Maybe I have some form of rocd? Idk. It’s so confusing and whatever conclusion I come to makes me depressed.

Are you saying you are now aro/ace? Or do you have a theme around this?