My obsession if I’m aro/ace is so terrifying. I’m in despair because I managed to recover from HOCD so successfully for so long but this theme feels different and real. It’s so confusing because I see so many posts online about how aromantic people hate their sexuality and feel uncomfortable in relationships but wish they didn’t and that’s similar to me (idk if I feel uncomfortable in relationships I have minimal experience but I am a little scared of them/commitment). I don’t know where to go from here. Doing the OCD recovery work feels terrifying because it feels as if I’m in denial. I rarely see anyone talk about this theme. Please please someone help.

I’ve looked into avoidant attachment and I relate to it a little, but I’m secure in all my other relationships and had a great childhood so I doubt it could be that? It’s like every conclusion I come to of why I could be anxious about getting into a relationship my ocd makes me doubt it and makes me feel like I’m in denial. Maybe I have some form of rocd? Idk. It’s so confusing and whatever conclusion I come to makes me depressed.

Are you saying you are now aro/ace? Or do you have a theme around this?

@Soph Ahh I see. Well it sounds like you might have some rocd and maybe perfectionism ocd as well? Both highly treatable :) I have so-ocd, ocd can't change your sexuality but it can make you feel like your sexuality is changing. Hope this helps! 😊