I know I don't love him and I have never loved him. Everything telling me that. I'm terrified. I want to fade away. Do you have any motivation for pushing? Should I be pushing?

Are u feeling happy in general? Are u satisfied with life? Any redflags in your relationship? (Abuse/ emotional abuse/ sexual assault etc) How are u feeling about yourself? The thing with anxiety is that it's scared of the unknown. I hate my anxiety, it makes me feel weak.. but you know what? You can recover. It's hard now, I am going through a living hell myself with anxiety and possibly ROCD. But you know what? Fuck anxiety and rocd, I'm in the same shoes as you. I thought I didn't love him anymore. Turns out I am crazy and madly in love with my boyfriend. He means the world to me. But my anxiety tells me ' you should leave'. Sometimes looking at him or staring at him or doing ANYTHING with him makes me flare up and want to run and my thoughts are going wild. I am in general very unhappy, when I am happy... I have 0 to no thoughts and I enjoy my time with him. I hope I can motivate you to keep fighting. I know it's hard. And you came to this forum to write this out.. If you truly didn't love him, why would u go around asking? Why would u feel this way? I know this is a huge reassurance thing ( sorry NOCD). But I know that made me realise that my thoughts are lying and making my life a living hell. Keep fighting and don't make a decision right now. It's okay to cry and feel this way. You don't always need to feel happy and it's okay to not always be sure.

i read some of the comments to get some context as to what this post could be about. i dont want to give you any advice that would give you reassurance, but most relationships have ups and downs. you're not always going to be in love with him. some days you're just going to tolerate being with them. relationship OCD will tell you that this feeling doesn't exist and unless you have this blissful feeling all the time then they must not be "the one". but good news is, you get to pick your person every single day! when you start to get these thoughts "i dont love my partner" "hes not good enough" etc, instead of trying to find answers as to why you might have these thoughts, take time to just acknowledge it for what it is - just a thought. it doesn't need answered! it is a crazy good feeling when you get these thoughts in a relationship and continue to pick your partner anyway. you can always think of some worst case scenarios also of what life would be like if you didn't leave him and didn't love him. how bad would it be? i hope this helps!

If you know 100% you don’t love him then you need to tell him. However OCD can make you think you don’t love him when you do. Sometimes I look at my boyfriend and feel nothing at all and then I panic that I don’t love him because all my other relationships have sailed so smoothly and I don’t understand why I have doubts about my feelings for him when he is the most amazing boy I’ve ever been with. however I know deep down that I do love him and there is something keeping me with him, I just tell myself that if I didn’t love him I would have left him months ago. it honestly depends if you know you love him or not and if you’re willing to stay with him, you will know when you’ve met the right person. Itll all be ok❤️

Hi! I know your feeling. I had been there too. My first advice, actually my therapist's advice, is to DON'T TAKE any decision when you are in a rocd flare, (when you are really in anxiety, really sed, depressed, frustrated etc.). There is a possibility that rocd is making you feel that way. (You should embrace uncertainty, maby maby not! But i'm telling you, it is possible that it is just rocd messing with your feelings) You are not pushing your relationship. You are pushing yourself through rocd, to get YOURSELF a better and easier life. My motivation, to overcome rocd, is that! Decisions like this one, should be easy and spontaneous, without fear, anxiety; guilt etc. It should be like if I ask you "do you want a glass of water?" I can bet that you would just answer yes or no, without even thinking about it! I want to achieve that in my life!! Remember also that love is a choice; not a feeling! And people could live an happy life even without love; that doesn't mean nothing per se!

Just remember that with therapy/exercise/healing things can get really really better! And eventually you would get even closer! There's no a proper way to love. I also used to think " I'm surely not in love with my friends, but I would like living with them, it would be fun!" Than why can't I leave with the person that I want to leave with, because maby I don't love him enough! I can, and I will!

It feels like I don’t love my husband of 18 years for around 3 years now. I want to love him and I’m always feeling depressed when he’s there and when he’s not there bc I’m always feeling tortured that I don’t love him. It’s as if I’m forcing myself to stay. We went through so much together. Have 2 girls and had a son who passed away at 5 days old. I can’t take these bad thoughts and feelings anymore.