Magzzz
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Wildflower76 Wildflower76
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- 3y
If your best friend makes mistakes do you think they’re a bad person? How about a family member? Grace, my friend, is what you need to give yourself. It’s like carrying a 50lb ruck sack around every you go. In life you would consciously choose to unload the ruck sack so choose to unload your mistakes and live with GRACE instead of shame, self hate and loathing. It’s a much lighter road on the side of grace ❤️
MagzzzMagzzz
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- 3y
I would forgive a friend or family member in a heart beat but I can’t seem to forgive myself. I feel like the mistakes I’ve made were too bad to be forgiven. I never hurt anyone but because I was young and stupid and unwillingly did it but it was on purpose makes it so much harder to forgive. Hopefully that make sense. I’ve posted about it before and I’ve been told to let it go but I can’t
Wildflower76 Wildflower76
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- 3y
@Just Breathe ❤️ It’s not just about letting go, it’s about acceptance and moving through it. Accept that you made mistakes. I don’t think forgiveness of yourself is what you need, I think you need grace and acceptance. Do those mistakes make you a bad person? No one truly knows that answer, not even you. You can’t sit around trying to figure out if your a good or bad person. Bottom line is your human and as humans we ALL make mistakes. Pretty excellent that we aren’t the only people making mistakes. You can’t go back and fix the past but you can live here in the present and live a happy life.
MagzzzMagzzz
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- 3y
@ocdcycle Huh?
MagzzzMagzzz
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- 3y
@ocdcycle Ohhhh ok I was gonna say how was what I said beautiful but I get it now
MagzzzMagzzz
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- 3y
@Wildflower76 Thank you for the advice but I don’t think I could ever accept it. I absolutely hate myself. I don’t know why I was so stupid back then. I would never do that now. Ever
OCDHaver OCDHaver
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- 3y
@Just Breathe ❤️ I would say the fact that you would never do it again shows that’s you aren’t that person nor are you a bad person. EVERYONE has done something bad and has made poor decisions, it’s what we learn from it and how we choose to move forward that shows who you are
MagzzzMagzzz
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- 3y
@OCDHaver I understand but it tells me that I am a horrible person who needs to be punished because it also keeps telling me that it was equivalent to something a bad person or monster would do and it’s making it really hard to shake
OCDHaver OCDHaver
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- 3y
@Just Breathe ❤️ I understand, do you have a therapist at the moment, maybe they can help you process all of this. But just know, I don’t think you’re a bad person
MagzzzMagzzz
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@OCDHaver I do have a therapist but because I haven’t payed in a while because I’m having a hard time affordeding it, she’s not really helping me so. Thanks I appreciate it. I really hope I’m not one
OCDHaver OCDHaver
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@Just Breathe ❤️ You’re not a bad person, and I’m sorry you’re having trouble with the cost, I’m in the same boat, specialists are expensive. I hope you can find something more affordable. And I have a lot of tough times trying to feel like a decent person, but I’m just scared I’ve done something truly morally unforgivable on the dating apps, people tell me it wouldn’t be my fault if the worst case scenario did happen, but I still would never forgive myself for it. So just know that you’re definitely not alone
MagzzzMagzzz
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- 3y
@OCDHaver It just hurts so much. I did something so stupid and there’s nothing I can do to change it. The guilt I feel every single day is so hard to deal with but thank you I appreciate it
OCDHaver OCDHaver
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- 3y
I’m going through this right now, I’m struggling with a lot of stupid things I did when I was 18, I was so naive and stupid. I’m constantly reminded of everything I’ve done as well. Last night I got really triggered and today hasn’t been so well, I’ve been giving into a lot of compulsions which just make me feel worse. Real Event OCD is the worst.
MagzzzMagzzz
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- 3y
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