SOS pls. someone respond

I can relate to this. Understand that it is okay to find other people attractive and to connect with other people. As Much as we wish we’d only have eyes for our boyfriend, it’s bound to happen that eventually we will find someone else that is attractive to us or that we get along with etc. but OCD loves to latch onto this because somewhere along the way we unconsciously taught ourselves that this isn’t okay. I went through this same thing and had false attraction, convinced myself I even had a crush on said person too because I was constantly in thought loops about it. It didn’t help that the guy actually was attractive too so it was all very confusing and it made me feel so guilty, depressed, terrified, etc. I’m also in a 4 year relationship so I’m in the same boat as you. Also rmemeber I’m long term relationships it is extremely normal to feel this way for other people and have little crushes here and there but our brains will blow it out of proportion because we don’t want that & we want the thoughts and fear to go away.

Well basically I am at this dude who is super cool and super nice and I thought really excited to talk to him because he’s like super funny and nice I have no idea what his name is and the only time we ever even talk is about our dogs when they’re playing however I just felt like I was laughing a lot and had a great time but now I feel guilty because I think about my relationship with my boyfriend and I think I’m focusing on the bad parts right now and comparing and I’m about to hang out with him and now I’m freaking out because I just wanna have a good time with him and I feel like I can’t because I feel guilty for having a good time with this guy but it wasn’t even in a bad sense it was in a sense of This guy is really funny and nice and his dog is literally so cute. I just feel guilty and I feel like I need to tell him but maybe I’m just overthinking it please help me I don’t know what to do and I’m freaking out and I’m scared that I’m having false attraction to someone and I don’t want to have that because I love my boyfriend we’ve been to gather for four years

What do you need? I have ROCD too so I can relate and help!

The answer is not to confess to your boyfriend as hard it is. Say “ maybe I am attracted to this other guy”. Sit with all that discomfort and don’t run from it.