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- 3y
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- 3y
What is Cheating ocd?
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- 3y
you’re ruminating just sit in anxiety, you’re not helping yourself by trying to check your feelings just relax
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- 3y
With ocd AND adhd I feel like you’re mocking me with that word 😅 What is…relax?
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Oh for what it’s worth. Your ocd is trying to tell you things you didn’t do. You’re not a cheat
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- 3y
it’s the fear of cheating or that you have already cheated and mine is the second one, but I don’t think I did it’s just me over thinking false memory basically
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- 3y
So it’s a sub type of a subtype? Like it’s a subtype of false memory OCD which is a subtype of OCD
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@Bookworm91 yes it’s hell
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@Anonymous I’m sorry 🥺
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@Anonymous Can I ask you something? It’s pretty triggering but I need someone to talk to
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@Bookworm91 sure
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wait I’m confused
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- 3y
It’s ok. I deleted them. What bugging me more now is that I was trying to watch A comedy skit and this guy was saying that this other guy he knows was so gay that it radiated onto him And that the gay guy gets away with saying whatever he wants and people just think it’s funny. And the comedian goes onto seeing gay guy works at a five star restaurant And some customers like hey so and so, because I can’t remember the guys name, how are you doing and the gay guy goes “ i’m OK just looking for a dick quote and the guy thinks it’s hilarious. And I‘s keep saying that I do want when I don’t want the opposite of dick and I don’t understand if I’m straight why would I repeatedly say that when I don’t want the opposite of it and I act like it is when it’s not gross I mean granted the reproductive organs aren’t meant to be pretty but don’t want the opposite of deck and for me to say I want the opposite repeatedly I did keep insisting I do so strongly but I want the opposite sex I don’t want the opposite of dick and it’s not nasty to me and I definitely don’t want the alternative but for me to smile and act like oh I do I I don’t . I only watch this video because I was trying to deal with the word gay because I don’t even like the word you know and I lasted pretty long and then I said I am I’m not the same I don’t want I just said I don’t want the opposite sex I do I’m so confused! I keep thinking of the gay guy saying I’m not the same as him but I am because I ask I want the opposite I almost insisted that I want the same but I want the same thing that a gay guy wants. And I myself I’m not get out I keep insisting it but I don’t want the opposite of dick has happened to you before? I keep saying no like I’m really mad and shaking my head of the negative but I do want the opposite sex I don’t I even just now said it again I’m so confused! I said that I want the opposite I don’t want the opposite of dick and I don’t get this and I hate it because I just wanna be able to watch something funny without freaking out. I keep insisting I do with this huge smile I can’t even said it again now I but I don’t want the opposite of dick and I try to say the same but I don’t want the same sex I don’t want the opposite of dick I want the same thing the gay guy wants and now I just imagined it with a huge smile I said some but I don’t want boobs squeeze I don’t understand why can’t I just be normal. I can’t stop making a face like I don’t but I want dick I don’t want the same sex. I don’t want I don’t understand why making that hand gesture I don’t want boobs I don’t want something to squeeze if that’s what it is and I wish I could talk and express myself without going crazy and not making sense and it’s just if I’m so straight how can I say something like that some boob with a smile I don’t want boobs to squeeze I’m sorry for bothering
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- 24w
I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.
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- 18w
As a 20+ year OCD vet and OCD conqueror. I wanted to share some tips and tricks that help me. 1. A thought is not the same as a belief. You can think something, and not believe it in the slightest. 2. Thoughts DO NOT represent ANYTHING. They are not indicators to who we are as people, they are pop up ads for the brains computer. 3. We DO NOT control our thoughts! The average person has about 60,000 ( yes, 4 zeros) a day! NONE of which are controlled. 4. We DO have control over which of those 60k thoughts are important. i.e. thought A. I could murder my entire household- survey says? not important ( because yea, sure, you could, but you probably don't really want to) thought B. i need to do my laundy-survey says? important... unfortunately, i hate laundry. which brings me to number 5. 5. Emotional reasoning ( where you let your feelings impact your decisions) is a COGNITIVE DISTORTION. It is a flawed thought process and should NEVER be used. "wanting to do something" does not mean you SHOULD do it, same and sometimes NOT wanting to do something doesn't mean you shouldn't do it ( picked what is important) my brain might tell me i WANT to break up with my husband, ( unimportant) and it might also say i don't want to get up and go to work in the morning ( important). 6. YOU-ARE-IN-CONTROL. Not to be confused with HAVING control. We don't control our thoughts, we control which ones are important, we don't control our feelings or emotions, but we control how to react (or not react) to them. We don't control our OCD, but we can control how it affects our lives, and that can mean that is has all the power, or none. 7. If the action you want to do ( confess, get reassurance, check, analyze, avoid, re-do) are to gain relief from anxiety, IT IS A COMPULSION. DO NOT DO IT. Sit with the anxiety and train your brain to realize its not dangerous or important with ERP ( this takes time, but practice makes perfect) 8. Know your enemy. NOCD has a HUGE amount of articles and information on ALL subtypes of OCD and how to respond and how to treat them. OCD is MUCH easier to combat when you understand how it works. 9. BE PATIENT. BE KIND to yourself. Prioritize healthy habits, a healthy body is better equipped to handle OCD. Good sleep, whole foods, sunlight, social interaction, exercise ( walking especially). When the mind feels weak, make the body strong. 10. You are not alone. OCD is classified by the World Health Organization as one of the top 10 most distressing disorders. Reach out to people, seek medical help. Medication is not evil, it can be life-saving, TALK to people. Bonus Tips * if the question is " What If" its OCD. * Total certainty does not exist, be content with 99%* *"But this feels different, this feels like its not OCD, that its real*- emotional reasoning... its OCD. Hang in there. You got this. Im here for any advice, questions, or support. Today is a great day to have a GREAT DAY.
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- 5w
I still do not have an OFFICIAL diagnosis (I dont have the means to do so) but given my symptoms, past and present in my life hugely suggest OCD is what I am dealing with. I cannot be 100 percent certain but after searching for answers and researching for a long time now, I am fairly certain and confident this is what I am struggling with. Given this step forward, I am making more effort into giving up compulsions. at the current moment I believe to be dealing with ROCD, as I have been having several intrusive thoughts that conflict with my relationship. For starters, recently over the past month or 2, I have been struggling with intrusive thoughts like not being over my ex, being attracted to someone else, losing feelings for my partner and not being in love, etc. I can consciously identify that I dont believe these thoughts to be true but it causes me so much distress and anxiety. It gets extremely unbearable some days, and I have leaned into 2 main compulsions. I have relied on thought checking and googling as my source of relief. At first the googling was genuinely to start finding answers; hence why I have made some of the discoveries I have about OCD including this site. But it developed into every time I was anxious, I would whip my phone out and start googling strictly to find an answer that would reassure me or calm me down. As for thought checking, it acted as a way to reaffirm my love for my girlfriend in my head when I have had the thoughts that collide with my relationship and how I feel about my girlfriend. It worked at first but developed into a compulsion where every time a bad thought got me worked up id either do my normal googling or Id think about that in my head to calm myself down. Over time these compulsions have gotten less and less affective and now when I do them it only gets me more anxious and desperate for reassurance (strengthening the cycle or whatever it is lol). I did some more research and finally have accepted the very real fact that I am going to have to sit in heavy anxiety and not give into compulsions for a while in order to treat this. I have to sit in the thoughts that make me feel all this hightened anxiety and distress without giving into compulsion. to be honest I am scared, the thoughts are more rampant than ever, but I am ready to commit to this. I dont think I am gonna be able to go cold turkey on my compulsions so I am ready for the reality I might relapse on the compulsions sometimes, But am gonna keep going until I can break these shackles OCD has on my life right now. I wanna ask, what is everyones methods they use to avoid giving into compulsion when the thoughts get loud? any advice is welcome :)
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