Have any straight people with SO-OCD successfully gone through ERP and experienced relief from intrusive thoughts? I’m starting next week but am terrified that it is just going to make me realize I actually am gay even though that is not at all what I want. Just feel like I could use some extra encouragement to get through this.

What do you mean by this? I have always been straight and want a straight future, but I’m having these intrusive thoughts making me doubt and question that. I feel nothing like myself anymore.

But it can make them realize they they are gay later on in their lives?

@cf05 Like hocd can’t convince you. People who are truly gay come out gay because they want to be gay and can’t get an erection for the opposite sex. In other words your thoughts cannot change who you are. I can think I’m a different skin colour than I am but at the end of the day I am still white. Just like if I think I’m gay it doesn’t matter. I’m still straight. In other words sexual orientation like skin colour doesn’t change and it isn’t by choice your mind cannot change who you are. Hope this helps. Best way to get over OCD is to face the fear subject. Ex, read a book about the subject. Etc. Also, ERP helps people learn how to realize thoughts are thoughts. I use to get gay thoughts or thoughts to come out. Best way to deal with it is to tell yourself you are or you not and that you don’t need to know if you are gay or not. After doing this my mind would allow me to relax. By relaxing the thoughts would slowly go away. To present that I don’t really have to deal with them a lot and haven’t had a panic attacks in awhile. Anyways just trust your gut.

@Imaan7 It can and can’t. At the end of the day no intrusive thought changes you.

@Allstar07 My thoughts dont feel intrusive they feel like my own, I think hocd made me realize im gay

@Imaan7 I feel as if that’s your own choice. I can’t get hard to the thought of being with another man. So I realize my thoughts are just thoughts and that I have always been a heterosexual. A good article for you to look up is hocd hope. http://www.ocdhope.com/2014/03/youre-not-gay-homosexuality-anxiety-in-ocd/ Link for it.

@Allstar07 I cant really relate to hocd articles anymore, Been dealing with it for a while and I dont think its just hocd anymore.

@Imaan7 Nothing wrong with being gay. Choose what you think is best for you. God bless

Just don’t pay attention to the thoughts. Easier said than done. Look up OCD tips. Also, gay who are gay don’t do anything people do with SO OCD to find out their sexual orientation.

Did you know you where gay before HOCD?

Yes. I agree with that. Nothing wrong with finding another male good looking. Nothing gay about that at all.

This is so triggering

@missbluesky It’s ok to be attracted to males, females, etc. Don’t let your mind confuse you into being a bad person for thinking that.

@Allstar07 I don’t think being attracted to both men and women makes someone a bad person, I’m saying it’s triggering for someone with SOOCD.

@missbluesky Trigging to someone who overthinks. There is nothing wrong with it. I’m not trying to give people anxiety. I’m trying to teach them to relax with actually facts. How they interpret my comment is up to them.

@Allstar07 You clearly don’t understand SOOCD.

@missbluesky No I do. Don’t take my advice then. God bless ya.

How so?

@cf05 Well I’ve been straight all my life and had gay dreams 4 nights in a row when I woke up I had some arousal but then when I wake up and watch gay porn I feel no more than a tingle those dreams I fear are evidence of my homosexuality or bisexuality and I’m not going to stop watching porn till I get access to it or realize it’s not real

@ocdman Stop giving into what your mind tells you to do.

@Allstar07 What do you mean

@ocdman Stop checking to see what your sexuality is and just let the thoughts flow.

@Allstar07 I just want to feel like me again

@ocdman You can! You just have to relax and not care. I stopped caring and I’ve went back to myself. Somewhat lol. Anyways believe and you will achieve.

Does therapy help? I found my session made it worse.

@Allstar07 With ERP, it is common to get worse before it gets better because you have to face the fears head on. This is super common.