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- 3y
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- 3y
And i want to say that, yeah when i was hopeless in the past i thought that this will not be better and i felt like it a way out but after that i felt really bad that i think about myself like this, and i felt guilt that i would do this to my family, and i was so affraid of these that might happen. So idk what i have, i can feel the same what ocd sufferers feels, but i felt what people that had suicidal ideations felt but i feel ashamed and scared of this might happen and idk where to put it...and its interesting bc everytime i feel the urge to find out if i really would do it or no...
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- 2y
Going through da now
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- Date posted
- 18w
I have alot of problems with this and I question alot if I do avoid my emotions cause today everyone says to "feel your emotions, let them be" but it just makes me be stuck with suffering. Currently I have a problem at my job, it's really stressful and i feel like everyone thinks im stupid and a bad person and it's hard, I struggle with negative emotions and I rumminate alot about the things, what couldve happened,what will happen and sometimes it makes me feel helpless cause idk what to do. But when it happens I don't let myself feel helpless, I don't know why you should let yourself feel anything like hopelessness,helplesnees,or let yourself tell any story that will not help you. I acknowledge it that it came up, but I won't let it to continously be there. I never understood that when you have these feelings, sitting with them makes you just follow the story that is unhealthy. I feel things that are unhealthy for me and i tried to sit with it and made me feel worse being stuck with that emotion. I start to think that people who actually has avoidance problems they dont notice how they feel, when I do notice I just choose not to go on that path. I question grief too alot. Everyone grieves differently so that's why is difficult but I don't like when people say that grief will never end and if you feel better about your loss you are just lying to yourself... Ofcourse you will never feel happy about anything you lost in your life. When i dealt with grief I noticed it, back then i thought okay i have to sit with the pain but then it got worse and worse and I felt like im stuck in my pain. Then I decided I have to move and im not 100%over, i dont even know what that means cause as I said you will never feel happy about any loss you experienced,but thats a different thing, you can still live your life with that,but if its been years and you still think life sucks and nothing is good then youre stuck with grief. This is not judging anyone who is not over grief, But it's problematic for me when I say i wont let this emotion to rule my day, and then i feel like im supressing it... or when people say "just let it be there" then my focus is on that being there, so to change your focus to your life you have to ignore the feelings, and people say "no,you dont" but thats what you have to do... To choose that you will live your life and you will focus on something else no matter what means that you will ignore the feelings, you can still notice it but you give no power to them. That's called ignoring it... I have to learn what supressing feelings really means cause everytime I try to live my life I say i supress my emotions cause it feels like that. I hope someone will read this, either will help him or he will help me understand things more, so if you read this, thank you for your time! :)
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- 6w
i am new to thinking about OCD - keep that in mind when reading. for a very long time without realizing it i obsessed over what mental health issues i had even though i wanted to stop and i never came across OCD. i think i eventually came to a subconscious decision to stop thinking about mental health issues after a very long time but it came back in an abusive relationship where i am pretty sure they have OCD even more severe than me. i think they misdiagnosed themselves with BPD and they are just very traumatized and have OCD about rejection and many other things but it could be both. they convinced me that i had BPD and i still do not know about that and i want to stop caring about that because my obvious OCD and PTSD are bigger problems. they intentionally hurt me a few times - this was because they convinced themselves that they had DID and everything they did was just another person doing that and i tried to help them resolve their mental health issues. this eventually worked as they now recognize that they did not have did and they are genuinely sorry and genuinely understand how damaging it was for them to hurt me and them have them be the only person that comforts me. it is extremely difficult to get comfort from other people except them and i am obsessed with trying to process emotions from repeated damage they have caused me over a 8 month lifespan. i was trying to say "its okay" to myself or tell myself that they truly didnt mean it afterwards and im attempting to stop that. the thoughts keep popping up. i was taking a long break where i only communicated to them through a mediator (my partner is now being very respectful) and i felt like i was truly healing but a few days ago i thought about if i have ocd or not and it made me realize that i was entirely dependent on them for comfort and i miss that love feeling i want nothing except that love feeling back without the abuse. this made me spiral horribly and i begged the mediator to let me talk to them and then i started talking to them for a few days, regardless of how understanding and kind they were they still made me feel like i need to puke because of how bad i felt for them and how much pain is associated with them. i started actually dissociating a few days ago which they did a lot. things feel blurry just like how they described. i think i needed to do it in order to talk to them for an extended period. i ended up helping them by telling them about ocd even though im tired of helping them through everything and having them rely on me i just wanted to give them the tools to feel good but it made me feel terrible because i always used to help them and then feel bad and it made me throw up after i wanted to take a break. i was healing and talking to them set me back really far - i learned a lot about how they feel about this and i learned a lot about why i do this in the first place but it hurts so much and i cant let myself talk to them again. i keep trying to process my ptsd when the memories come back and constant dissociation is making it harder i hope that ends soon. im worrying that im suppressing my emotions all of the time because they thought that was why they originally thought i was feeling bad and not the trauma. i am trying to seek a psychiatrist and therapy soon but i am reliant on my mom for that and i dont know what to do or if shes going to do something thats good for me. im excited to see the psychiatrist though. im 17. i am at the point now where i just want to stop having the highs and the lows and just be neutral all the time but its so hard to break out of these patterns. its really hard to sleep enough. genuinely any advice for any information i have provided would be appreciated no matter how small
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- 5w
Hello, If anyone has experience with codiagnoses of MDD and OCD, how do you differentiate SI from an intrusive thought? How do you know when to engage with the thought (if it’s ocd) bs not (if it’s MDD) I added context of my situation below but no need to read it, you can also drop your experience or recommendations just addressing the question *** I haven’t been active here much since my OCD got significantly better after medical and ERP treatment few years back, but wanted to come on here for more specific help. About a year ago I started experiencing depressive symptoms which cumulated into an aborted attempt in April. Since early this year I’ve had a handful of minor crises (moments where I didn’t do anything but my god I really wanted to) and have been in the severe category for a few months. We’ve been approaching this as a separate entity (MDD as opposed to OCD) because of how different it is, but there are some similarities as well. I ironically years ago had a theme around suicide (except I was afraid that I was going to instead of genuinely wishing for it), so it’s a bit hard for me to tell. Part of the reason why this differentiation is important is because of how I should approach the thoughts. If it’s OCD, I need to expose myself to the idea of suicide, methods, mechanisms, locations, standing on an edge, etc.. If it’s MDD, then I technically shouldn’t engage in suicide related planning or actions because it allows an easy path during a crisis. Similarities: - the SI can appear in an intrusive-like manner of being seemingly out of nowhere - sometimes they are distressing, mainly because it’s annoying while I’m trying to pay attention to class and have a semblance of a good day - I want to do a certain action to make me feel better about said thoughts, which is looking up and establishing methods, planning letters, dates, etc., and resisting the urge to finalize my methods is both difficult and distressing. Differences - It’s MUCH more egosyntonic. And not in a “I’m worried that I want to commit suicide” way, in a literal I’m exhausted and I want out. If there was a bottle of pills that deleted me from existence to where no one would remember me, I’d take them in a heartbeat. I don’t have an inherent will to stay here, I’m only here because of my family and cats. Also ideal methods are kinda hard to access. - Sometimes I find comfort in the thoughts, like it’s always an available emergency way out. When I get distressed from them, it’s usually less because of the thought and more because I don’t have an established plan so I feel trapped to live. - Additional symptoms that appear with MDD and not always OCD (anhedonia, physical slowing, emotional blunting, hopelessness, weight fluctuations, random unexplainable bouts of tears, hypersomnia), like textbook MDD symptoms. - sometimes when the SI is bad it tends to “cancel out” typical blips of ocd I have. For example, I sometimes still have thoughts about contamination and getting in a car accident, except when the thoughts appear they don’t bother me in the slightest, and if anything I avoid compulsions and embrace the possibility of them happening because it’s a good excuse to hit the road. Feels like a bit of a catch 22 because if I engage in suicidal thinking/planning/rehersas, it either 1) could worsen my mental health if it’s from MDD, or 2) could help my mental health if it’s from OCD
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