If I am stressed about something he did/didn't do (thinking that he couldn't be the one for me because of that), than we have a fight where I cry; we didn't solve nothing, but after I feel much better; is that fight a compulsion??

It isn't going really well for me too :(

Especially for the last part, my situation is EXACTLY THE SAME! also because he gets annoyed by keep fighting, and he want more distances, that's triggers me more and more! I would love to be "near" him! The problem is that the more I want attentions; the more he take distances! How did you get out from this situation??

@Saraa It’s called the anxious avoidant dance, you should look it up. But i’ll give you a basic summary :he gets triggered whenever you seek reassurance from him or seek to get closer, this triggers his need to be independent and to not be smothered. When triggered he will feel an intense urge to leave and distance as this is how he copes with such feelings. On the ither hand, this will trigger you as you need to be “near” him. Your way of dealing with such feelings is to get closer, (unlike him who needs to distance). You must respect his need for space no matter how badly it hurts. You cannot take it personal. Think of it this way, would you rather he stay with you than distance himself when feeling anxious? I bet you’d say yes to that. Well if I asked him the same question, would you prefer if she backs off when you feel the need to close? His answer will be yes. The difference lies between how you bith cope with distressing feelings and you both need to work together in healing thise aspects if yourself. On your side you need to respect his space and find more reassurance from yourself. On his side, he needs to learn to not distance himself when feeling smothered but it’s easier said than done as it is a trigger response and comes from the subconscious mind.

Aww no worries gal, I just know because i’m very similar to you

Both cases! I mean even if he doesn't nothing wrong! For example we had a date tonight and it went really well. We watched a couple of episodes of a series, and than he said "this is the last one". Now I knew that in less than 5 hours he have to wake up, that it is really late for him and he has to go. But my mind says "he said it's the last one because he doesn't want to hang out with you anymore" :(

@Saraa I’m pretty sure if he didn’t want to be around you he wouldn’t be watching TV with you

@Bookworm91 I know, you are right!! But my head is screaming that to me, and I can't stop feeling super anxious and annoyed...

@Saraa Well I’d suggest maybe going off by yourself for a while that way you don’t pick fights with uim

@Bookworm91 *him

That's what's I am trying to figure out!! But if it isn't, and we keep fighting, that means that we can't get along... or solve our problems!