Hey! I have relationship ocd both the types. If you want you can text me on my ig. I am Suzy.
i used to fixate on my husbands appearance. my ocd would tell me "he has a ugly nose" or "he has a big head" and convince me that i was no longer attracted to little things about him. i used to get so anxious and think "i need answers, why cant i love him the same". but that was what OCD wanted me to do, it wanted to trick me. it wanted to convince me that there was something i didn't love about my partner so that i would confess or find reassurance. i had to learn that when i got these thoughts, there was no reason to give answer to them. i just learned to accept that he wasn't perfect and neither was i and some days i didn't like him as much as other days. this is the same in any relationship.