I’m tired guys. I have ROCD and now I don’t even feel like I do. I fixated and obsessed for 3 months now on my parents “physical appearance”. I never wanted to do that I never cared before nor did I feel they were flaws. I feel so guilty that I spent this much time about it and she knows about my thoughts and now she is insecure. At what point do you let the person you love go. Anyone with Partner focused ROCD.

i used to fixate on my husbands appearance. my ocd would tell me "he has a ugly nose" or "he has a big head" and convince me that i was no longer attracted to little things about him. i used to get so anxious and think "i need answers, why cant i love him the same". but that was what OCD wanted me to do, it wanted to trick me. it wanted to convince me that there was something i didn't love about my partner so that i would confess or find reassurance. i had to learn that when i got these thoughts, there was no reason to give answer to them. i just learned to accept that he wasn't perfect and neither was i and some days i didn't like him as much as other days. this is the same in any relationship.