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Yes that's soudns like OCD! I had that really badly aswell when I started dating my boyfriend. It got better with time, when i felt more secure about what was happening. Have you tried telling him about it? I tried delaying checking messages, when I noticed he replied I'd just wait 5 minutes longer every time and build up that tolerance.
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Yea... I told him about it!^^ He was really understanding, he cares about me a lot... I reassure myself with that it's just my OCD... Sometimes it's working, sometimes it's not... I lost all of my friends, i don't feel safe... It was the trigger... I guess... Because if i lose him, i'll be alone...đ
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