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The only thing that helps me is replacing the thought with another one or several others. I hope this helps .
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Hey friend! It's been awhile! I'm sorry to hear that you've had the same thought for 3 months now. Personally I don't think I could handle anxiety for that long. 😕 I know what you mean though about it logically not being a big deal, I have thoughts that aren't logically a big deal either yet they drive me crazy. I'm assuming that you're also doing ERP? I don't really know what to say in terms of advice, I'm working to learn to just sit with the anxiety right now, it's really difficult at times, and I'm not good at going for long periods of time without seeking reassurance, but I'm really trying to do better. I want to handle anxiety better. I really hope things will get better for us both. How is life with your husband and child? :)
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Hey Drew! So good to hear from you. I had a session with my therapist just now and we figured out some other exposures I can try to work on this thought. But yes, it is so tortuous when you like know something doesn’t matter but it’s like but what if it does??? Lol. My son is 2 months old now! He is such a wonderful little bundle of joy. And my husband is such a great father to him. I hope you are doing well! 😊
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No need to be sorry, I haven't been on here much recently either, I'm replying late too. 😅yeah, that's what causes me the most stress, just the anxiety and stress that I'll have the anxious thought on my mind forever! Its so annoying that OCD doesn't seem to care about logic at all, lol. Your best friend made a good point though, it doesn't matter if the thought is there, the more we might want the thought to go away the more power we're honestly probably giving the thought and also keeping the thought alive. And you're right, it is subtle, but I think it all makes a difference over time when we keep working on it! :)
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Glad to hear your therapy session went well and that you figured out some other exposures you can do to work on the thought you're having. :) but yes, it really is very torturous in the mind... I just want to work on handling anxiety for longer periods of time, but I keep finding myself giving into seeking reassurance a lot because I just get so scared that I'll feel anxious forever. If that makes any sense. I'm glad that you and your son and husband are doing well. I'm happy to hear it. :) I'm doing good though, I'm just trying to take my OCD one day at a time.
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Sorry for the delay! That is exactly the thought we are doing exposure around… what if I never stop feeling anxious about this thought? And then I keep subtly checking to see if it still makes me anxious, even though I logically do not think the thought matters. I was talking about this to my best friend yesterday and was telling her I just want my anxiety to go away, and she said I think that’s the problem, you want it to go away but it’s there. It doesn’t matter if it’s there. And she’s right. I have to take responsibility and recognize that checking it and feeding into caring about whether or not it still makes me anxious keeps these thoughts alive. It’s difficult because it’s so subtle but I think we will get there if we keep working on it.
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