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I understand its never about the things but the support or the idea that you have to prove your worth to someone it hurts and right to be upset. Show him this community if you wish or watch ocd relates content with him about people's who's life went down hill as well. It won't make up for what he did, it will let him see the big picture. People tend to think about themselves the most and only see things thru thier eyes.not an excuse for them I know. I only think if they saw what it was like for a bit they'd understand more the need to be supportive.
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that way if the future it is more likely they will be there for you. It's hard telling them what u feel so just let them watch with you if you can , it porbably will make them think for a bit. Here's one about a parent son relationship it's not much but it will reflect that ocd is very very horrible and destructive and in no way your fault. The fear of losing you or falling you is real tho they are neurotypival and can't even begin to know what ocd is. I don't and I think I have it
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Anyway forty for the ramble but maybe just to keep it simple if they don't already know a quick overview over it and then a youtube video of people who have it could help :)
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You encapsulated that perfectly. That’s literally how i feel. I’m not sure if there is a link there but I couldn’t see it. The thing is,my dad is very open to hearing and helping about my illness. He even joined a family therapy session. I just think its too much for him. Whenever i do things that bother him (like washing my hands too much or for too long) both him and my mom get annoyed and might snap . And honestly sometimes that helps stop the compulsion for a second, but it stil sucks. Idk when things are bad i would just appreciate him not getting upset automatically or like expecting things to go his away and say hurtful things. Hes done so much good and been there for me at my lowest but there were some pretty hurtful things he’s done as well. I appreciate you being here for me after writing this though i realize this isn’t something that i can change. Either way thank you for your words you make me feel heard and supported here 😊 i can never express to you how much your words mean . Thanks bud.
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Your welcome for sure Coul I don't know your exact situation and I can only offer words for comrfot but I hope things do get better. If he really does want to help it's important he reliazes the struggle and learns to control himself as well. I get the whole anger and snapping can and do shock you out of compulsion I wish they realized it's not a healthy way to go about it. They'll be back and it just hurts. If anything the family therapy for him and your mom to help them is a good thing , it sadly just takes time a lot of it to even begin to understand a bit. Keep at it tho and help them realize ocd is a part of who u are and it won't go away at least that quickly. I think they just don't want to believe it especially with a lll thier turmoil in thier in relationship I feel like u having ocd is a final staw so to speak. It isn't your fault tho it can never be even if you weren't trying to recover from it it is a disorder, a plauge and nightmare to have. It's not your fault your suffering and I hope things do get better with your family life since I know I've had trouble with mine in general. I'm glad I'm able to help you out even if it's only a bit. Remember your valid and we're all here for you. God bless you and keep you safe :)
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Youve been with me for quite alot now and it can be seen with such comprehensive and thoughtful answers. Litterally at one point i thought my ocd pushed them over the edge and at times i still dont know if my illness played a part to where they are now ( kinda conceited I know) it just sucks. Unfortunately i dont think my dad can handle his angers. He’s a loving guy but he snaps alot. There are a lot of stressors in his life and in my moms life i just think they couldn’t change if they wanted to at this point and there are some things that I just cant speak to them about. Im sorry you’ve had to go through family woes as well. Its not a fun thing to go through for anyone involved. God bless you as well you’re awesome and an amazing person to have in life
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- 22w
I feel super sad and depressed i'm tired of feeling so scared it's really changing me. My mom is a pretty difficult person she's a borderline narcissist. Over the years our relationship has changed a lot and recently i've been pretty hard on her because i feel so angry that she's not able to support me mentally in the ways that i need. I see now that she's mentally ill herself and i should be nicer and more understanding. she doesn't know better and she's trying her best. she was just a girl once and i feel bad that i said she lacks a motherly instinct. i love her a lot and i love seeing her laugh and be herself. she's super beautiful and unique and she deserved so much more out of life. I think my ocd makes me super angry towards the people in my life because i know i deserve the love i give. I would be so willing to have a really deep loving conversation with the people close to me yet i get such surface level support.
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- 17w
Having ocd is so incredibly exhausting and depressing- my mom and dad argued with me for over an hour talking about how im a pain to be around, go in too many loops, and ruin everything and everyones mood… this conversation started with me saying im stressed out because of school and that i dont want to go because im exhausted- and idk if this is like ocd directly but it takes me like 2 hours to get ready in the morning because i need to look PERFECT and the same everyday literally 😭 and that process feels so exhausting every morning at 6am but i will NOT go to school without going through with it- i will literally be crying and shaking and wanting to go home the minute i get to school if even a single strand of my hair is not perfectly straightened or any blemishes or flaws are showing- and i cant even walk to school or anything bc im scared the humidity will mess with my hair and everything- and it just really affects my life? And yeah its freaking exhausting. And i have two more years of highschool and I dont know if im going to make it 😭i get super stressed over grades too because i need them to be extraordinary otherwise its a fail. Nothing below 95%. And thats also tiring! 😁 and my mom told me today “medication IS NOTTTT AND OPTION!!!” Like oh okay so im just cooked 😭 and therapy isnt really helping me at all- i feel like what im being told is so basic and generic and it doesn’t help me when im in a huge ocd episode- which is often… and what i hate most is like my mom says “don’t come to me with your problems after 6pm…” im sorry i cant schedule my feelings 😭 im so tired
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- 17w
LONG VENT POST: This is my second post of the day. Seriously, I am SO sorry. I have therapy tomorrow, I promise I will shut up after this lmao. Anyway, for Memorial Day weekend, I spent it at my aunt/uncles vacation house. Fortunately it wasn’t a big crowd - just my mom, grandmother, aunt, uncle and I. For context, I come from a pretty big family, and I am the youngest of 7 cousins and a younger sister to two brothers. All my cousins are in their early to mid 20’s, each very successful in school and their careers. My half brother is 29, and absolutely crushing it. My full brother is turning 23, he’s also doing amazing with school. I just turned 20 in April, I feel very lost. I know I want to be a forensic psychiatrist one day, and that I want my PhD. I want to be the best therapist I can be, but the fact that I barely get by with ocd/adhd has been discouraging me, so I currently feel like a flop. Anyway though, spending time with my aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents triggers my ocd the most, as majority of them can be on the judgmental side. ESPECIALLY my aunt, she’s on my moms side, and she and my mom are total opposites. My aunts a very calculated, straightforward, logical, stern, sassy buisnesswoman. She’s successful, but lacks a lot of understanding and can be so cold and just mean. My moms a kindergarten teacher in a struggling community, and she’s always thinking about others before herself, extremely emotional, caring, but neglects her own needs a lot. They’re sisters, and they bump heads a ton. My aunt and all of her kids aren’t neurodivergent. They simply don’t understand mental health. My mom does, thank god. My aunt and uncle think that if a kid is having a psychotic break, then that kid should be kicked out of the house and not helped at all. My mom and I entirely disagree with this idea, and that someone clearly mentally suffering NEEDS mental health help asap, and they need to be home. The streets are the last place someone suffering should be. While we were vacationing at the house, my mom argued about this with my uncle. I was asleep, thank god, but I seriously hate having people in my family like this. I can never tell them about me having ocd, they’ll think it’s just an “excuse” for not getting things done, or just me trying to feel special. The reality is, they don’t get it. My full brother went through the worst psychotic break a few years ago. It lasted two years on and off due to bipolar disorder, but thank god he got himself help and he’s doing absolutely amazing now. He’s frustrated and embarassed with himself but now he’s on track, and as I said, crushing it with school. But the entire time he was going through this, my aunt and uncle just didn’t understand. To keep it short, they thought his mental problems were behavioral, and that he’s a “crazy” kid. The reality is, he was coping with the loss of his childhood best friend and our other uncle who was like a second father figure to us. He had manic episodes from the grief and self medicating with drugs and alcohol. This was all the while Covid was happening and he was a freshman at a college states away. He was so vunerable. I’m saying all this because, well, how am I to seriously be forward about my mental struggles when they couldn’t even show the slightest amount of empathy to my brother, who was struggling, so much more intensely than me? I’m quiet at family gatherings when they’re around for this exact reason. I have so much resentment toward them for it. I try to avoid them when I can, because I love them, I just hate their actions/views. What do you guys do with these kinds of people?
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