Im a little sad. When my ocd was really bad and i was wasting away pushing people away and all that my parents and i had numerous fights to the point that my didnt wouldn’t get me anything for my birthday. He was upset that i was taking a brak from school and sleeping all day. Now im back to school and i finished my first semester with all A’s and one B (which was due to attendance) and he was like tell me what do you want for your birthday? I feel like i needed that love then when i was struggling more than now…. And its nice that he asks but i know he will only get me something that he thinks is ok. Example he doesn’t support me gaming for stress relief so he didn’t help me purchase any of the things i asked even though he said he would. I feel like i sound spoiled but i just wish that his support was unconditional and hed trust me.

"Pure" OCD

Ambiguous

Date posted: 3y

I understand its never about the things but the support or the idea that you have to prove your worth to someone it hurts and right to be upset. Show him this community if you wish or watch ocd relates content with him about people's who's life went down hill as well. It won't make up for what he did, it will let him see the big picture. People tend to think about themselves the most and only see things thru thier eyes.not an excuse for them I know. I only think if they saw what it was like for a bit they'd understand more the need to be supportive.

Ambiguous

Date posted: 3y

that way if the future it is more likely they will be there for you. It's hard telling them what u feel so just let them watch with you if you can , it porbably will make them think for a bit. Here's one about a parent son relationship it's not much but it will reflect that ocd is very very horrible and destructive and in no way your fault. The fear of losing you or falling you is real tho they are neurotypival and can't even begin to know what ocd is. I don't and I think I have it

Ambiguous

Date posted: 3y

Anyway forty for the ramble but maybe just to keep it simple if they don't already know a quick overview over it and then a youtube video of people who have it could help :)

Coul.C

Date posted: 3y

You encapsulated that perfectly. That’s literally how i feel. I’m not sure if there is a link there but I couldn’t see it. The thing is,my dad is very open to hearing and helping about my illness. He even joined a family therapy session. I just think its too much for him. Whenever i do things that bother him (like washing my hands too much or for too long) both him and my mom get annoyed and might snap . And honestly sometimes that helps stop the compulsion for a second, but it stil sucks. Idk when things are bad i would just appreciate him not getting upset automatically or like expecting things to go his away and say hurtful things. Hes done so much good and been there for me at my lowest but there were some pretty hurtful things he’s done as well. I appreciate you being here for me after writing this though i realize this isn’t something that i can change. Either way thank you for your words you make me feel heard and supported here 😊 i can never express to you how much your words mean . Thanks bud.

Ambiguous

Date posted: 3y

Your welcome for sure Coul I don't know your exact situation and I can only offer words for comrfot but I hope things do get better. If he really does want to help it's important he reliazes the struggle and learns to control himself as well. I get the whole anger and snapping can and do shock you out of compulsion I wish they realized it's not a healthy way to go about it. They'll be back and it just hurts. If anything the family therapy for him and your mom to help them is a good thing , it sadly just takes time a lot of it to even begin to understand a bit. Keep at it tho and help them realize ocd is a part of who u are and it won't go away at least that quickly. I think they just don't want to believe it especially with a lll thier turmoil in thier in relationship I feel like u having ocd is a final staw so to speak. It isn't your fault tho it can never be even if you weren't trying to recover from it it is a disorder, a plauge and nightmare to have. It's not your fault your suffering and I hope things do get better with your family life since I know I've had trouble with mine in general. I'm glad I'm able to help you out even if it's only a bit. Remember your valid and we're all here for you. God bless you and keep you safe :)

Coul.C

Date posted: 3y

Youve been with me for quite alot now and it can be seen with such comprehensive and thoughtful answers. Litterally at one point i thought my ocd pushed them over the edge and at times i still dont know if my illness played a part to where they are now ( kinda conceited I know) it just sucks. Unfortunately i dont think my dad can handle his angers. He’s a loving guy but he snaps alot. There are a lot of stressors in his life and in my moms life i just think they couldn’t change if they wanted to at this point and there are some things that I just cant speak to them about. Im sorry you’ve had to go through family woes as well. Its not a fun thing to go through for anyone involved. God bless you as well you’re awesome and an amazing person to have in life

Blueberrycows

Date posted: 24w

Not really OCD related

So I’m so bored lately I have everything I want and could ask for but I’m a dopamine junkie so I jump from item to item and I’m still bored and I have “toys “ stay with me I’ll explain … so I have actual toys like dolls and stuffed animals because I still enjoy younger things at times … yep I’m still an adult … but that being said I won’t “play “ or interact with younger toys because I feel it’s not age appropriate and I want to fit in with society’s norms … that being said I have a Xbox s I have a Nintendo switch … a legion go hand held system … a portable dvd player and I’m sure other things I can’t remember… no I don’t act like a spoiled brat and want or need for everything and I’m very grateful…. But that being said out of all the things I have nothing really keeps my attention I just impulse buy them… I obsess about buying them for months I buy them and use them for a little bit and get bored …… then I feel ungrateful for not using an expensive item or gift.:. Go back and use that item and then the cycle repeats … I just can’t find anything that truly keeps me entertained and engaged … and keeps me wanting to fool with it every day or interact with it …. I want to find something that gives me a sense of accomplishment and excitement… and game systems and whatever else just don’t do that for me … like I said I promise I’m not a spoiled adult /brat ❤️

shirleyCstar

Date posted: 22w

Advice and Unbiased Opinions Please!!!

This isn’t OCD related so I’m sorry, but I don’t know another platform like this where I can talk to other people and actually get responses. OCD has been a huge fucking setback for me in life. I had to drop classes, wasn’t able to do things, and just felt so shitty all the time because of it. I feel like I blame OCD for everything I’m not. I constantly feel like I’m not good enough. Just today I saw someone I once knew and felt all of those feelings I used to have that made me miserable. Anyways, I tried taking my driver’s test a couple days ago but I wasn’t able to. The DMV only accepted cash. I felt upset but it was whatever. I’m almost 19, and I don’t have a driver’s license. So passing it would mean a lot to me. I compare myself to others my age; they have cars, hobbies, friends, go to college, etc… I don’t have any of that. Maybe comparing myself and all of that is my fault. My family says it’s my fault I’m sad because I just wallow in it. Hearing them say that makes me frustrated and hurt, but maybe they’re right. My mom texted a couple of my siblings in a group chat I wasn’t a part of, “He wants to wallow and be depressed. And woe is me, wah wah wah.” That made me really angry because my siblings were agreeing with her. Maybe they are right. Maybe I am selfish and think the world revolves around me. My sister tells me I need to advocate for myself more, I just don’t want to be a burden. I’ve only been a burden my whole life. My OCD created this whole issue in my family and I hate that. I don’t know what to do anymore. I just want an answer. Am I really a loser? Do I really wallow in it? Am I not trying like my family says? I just want to talk to someone.

flyana

Date posted: 20w

My mom keeps getting mad at me for obsessing

Listen, I totally get it. It’s hard to hear a loved one obsessing over small, insignificant things. My mom tries to be supportive, but she gets so mad when I tell her what’s on my mind, and she just yells at me and says I’m crazy for thinking like this. So, I just sent her this, and I hope it helps: Mom, I know it’s really hard, but when I’m suffering with OCD thoughts, all I need is sympathy. Getting mad at someone for having OCD is like getting mad at someone for having a head injury. Please understand that I can’t help it, or else I would stop it. I need someone to say, “I’m so sorry that’s bothering you this much. It must be so overwhelming. It must be so hard to cope with this.” You could even ask me questions, like “What does it feel like? How much are you thinking about this? What helps you feel better?” I just need someone to validate my experience and sympathize, not tell me that I’m crazy or say my problems aren’t real. I’m aware these thoughts are crazy — that’s why I feel so alone and sad and scared. When you tell me my thoughts are crazy, it makes me feel even more like a freak. Sometimes, I just need someone to hold my hand and tell me I’m not alone.

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