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When I did it it felt like I was coming out even though I’m not gay, my mom was not freaked out and I told her the symptoms and why I was scared of it. She searched it up and we got a therapist.
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I only told my mom I had ocd. Not what subset.
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- 6y ago
The people closest to you know your tendencies and know your attributes. They will help you understand clearly who you have always been and what they see in you. Keep them close to you because you go through a lot of dark period in OCD and you need to hear who you are! If they truly thought you were gay they would surely tell you. The people who love you want to see you happy. If they thought you were gay and thought you’d be happier gay, then they would share it. The best medicine and healing for us is through our loving support.
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The thing is even your closest friends may not understand because it was even hard for me to understand it myself. I told my friends and some were supportive, others thought that their may be a "meaning" as in I was trying to come out of the closet but now I know they were just trying to support me and didn't want me to feel afraid. We've talked about it more and they have opened up. It's a confusing thing for most people but remember that you don't need reassurance from people - you just gotta accept the what if
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- 6y ago
I told my mom and a close friend of mine. My mom doesn’t really understand the OCD part, but she was understanding about the intrusive thoughts and panic and knows me well enough to know that what I was experiencing wasn’t my usual self. I was super nervous to tell her though!! I felt like I was going to throw up and I started crying afterwards. And when I told my friend they were actually really understanding too (they and their sister both have OCD). At first I didn’t tell them the theme but when I finally did they already knew that this was a theme of OCD. I was mostly afraid that they would misunderstand me or think I was a bad person. I’m going to an OCD specialist soon so I guess we’ll see what’s up.
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I’ve come out as both queer and having ocd. They’re not really the same, although there are similarities .
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Can you explain the differences ?
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I mean I don’t have HOCD exactly I think, although my Ocd makes me doubt many things. But for one thing coming out as queer is different bc people tend to understand it better? Less explanation required right? But I think the similarities are that you join a community and stuff. Also coming out is not a one time thing regardless of what you come out. You have to keep doing it. Idk if that helps. I think people are nicer about being queer if you’re somewhere liberal than they are about having ocd .
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