lenxiety
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- 3y
lenxietylenxiety
- Date posted
- 3y
I follow @wisdomofanxiety on Instagram and it’s helped me with some of these thoughts! I hope that helps ❤️ we got this
eoideoid
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- 3y
Yes always. Litterally always. He doesn't give me always his attention? =he doesn't love me anymore. He sand a message without emoji? = he isn't intrested anymore. Even if he said something like "this will be the last one" for example talking about rollercoaster; episodes of a series etc, my mind will tol me "it's the last one because he doesn't want you anymore, he is planning to leave, so there will not be an another one" THAT IS HOW MY ROCD MIND WORKS AND ALWAYS WORKED! Then I will start my defensive mechanism! Fearing of getting hurt, I want take distance, because my mind says "he can't hurt you if you don't want him" and turn off my feelings! But that makes me feel guilty and more anxious; feeding even more my doubts! Well it was always like that, before starting therapy. Now I started to understand my mechanisms, and how to deal with them! ( I still have a lot to do but hey! Some improvements!!)
lenxietylenxiety
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- 3y
Literally what I go through. I overthink every single statement or reaction in a very hyper vigilant way to find proof that he doesn’t wanna be with me. It’s so hard to believe that this is not the truth. Are there ways that you remind yourself that this is not factual and that it’s just our OCD brain? I wish I could afford therapy right now but I can’t.
eoideoid
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- 3y
@lenxiety Well, i don't know If I'm the right person to ask, I keep doubting a lot, If he actually doesn't want me or not, if I should leave because he doesn't love me enough etc. I don't even know if it is right to ask him to change some of his behaviour to make me feels more wanted. Like I said, I still have a lot of things to figure out. But If you want to complain to someone that understands you well, don't hesitate to write me!
eoideoid
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- 3y
In therapy they don't give me answers. Because I am the only one who can and should decide for me; and I should do what makes me happy. BUT therapy was really useful for me, because I learned how to manage all the doubts that out of nowhere comes in my mind; that aren't started by actions. Doubts like "do I love him enough?". The advices was to let them be there without trying to find proofs or answer them! Or maby write them down, and "posticipate" the answer! Like "I have this doubt now; I will answer at 10 pm!" But for me; this doesn't works with doubts started by his actions, like the one that I wrote before. So MEH
eoideoid
- Date posted
- 3y
To understand that is just ocd toughts, I use the feelings that they give to me ( if I felt super anxious, or overwhelmed by this thought is rocd) or frequency (if this toughts keep coming back)! Thank you for the instagram account! I find really useful following @anxiouslovecoach, hope that could help you too! Thanks again!!
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