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Don’t worry! I’m a bi girl with OCD and let me tell you - attraction is funny! It works in strange ways. But I promise you that sudden loss of feeling attracted to guys was your OCD. Just breathe and remember as long as you WANT to be attracted to guys, and you know deep down you have been - then you are. The thing about labels is that you get to decide what label you want to use. If gay doesn’t feel right (which if it’s giving you anxiety, I promise it doesn’t) then you’re not gay! End of story :)
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You’re probably not fully accepting the fact that you could be a lesbian if you’re still afraid of it then. Acceptance of bi is a start.
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It’s such a complicated thing. Trust me when I say I understand. My advice would be to try and shift your attention to the positive aspect of this! Discovering you’re bi can be super fun. There’s a really beautiful community out there who will welcome you, and I’m so proud of and happy for you for realizing!
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Awwww. Thank you again! I don’t fear being bi at all which is great. I guess I do fear that calling myself bi is just the first step to gay because I’m in denial or something. But it’s nice to know that I’m accepted by such nice people like you!
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I think I have HOCD and this is all brand new to me even these thoughts, I’m confused as to why this happened and what’s going on. I question everything about myself now and second guess everything
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Yeah, because that is called arousal non concordance, and don’t worry, women get it more with sexual stimuli they aren’t actually into, even more than men. I read that women get aroused in combination with what they actually are into only 10% of the time. But anything that’s sexual, even if it’s two women having sex and they don’t want that, they can still feel aroused.
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How do you know that you are bisexual?
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Of course! I know we don’t know each other at all but I’m very well versed in both the bi community and my OCD experience. If you ever need any help or have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask. Idk if there’s a way to dm on here, but we can figure it out and if you ever need support, I’ve got you. This must be a very complicated and confusing time because OCD makes literally everything complicated and confusing.
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Hey. Have you been having thoughts about being the opposite sexuality?
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Yes and it’s really weird. I’ve never been attracted to males in any way, have never gotten erect from a man and have never fantasized about being with one
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KBright, that’s so great to know, and I’ll let you know if I ever need some help and once again, thank you! I still don’t complete know if I’m bi or not because the idea of not liking guys is scary as heck, but I don’t mind being able to love EVERYONE, ya know?
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AFord15 that sounds like HOCD, especially since it’s just come out of nowhere!
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Yea I’ve overnanalyzed everything and I’ve read so many denial and coming out stories and none have any consistencies to my background. I’ve never thought I was different from my friends and have always crushed on girls since I was small. I’ve never watched gay porn on anything. But for some reason I can’t rid myself of this thought that I’m gay or I’ve suddenly changed or been this way all my life.
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I fear that I’m conditioning my mind to be ok with it and I will eventually be gay or be attracted to men
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Emilia1234, thankyou! I’ve never actually been attracted to girls before so maybe I’m not bi haha. I think I find boobs attractive, but don’t really have sexual fantasies about girls. In the past I’ve only ever liked guys, but I guess I wanted to be bi so that I could accept HOCD. But now I’m scared I am bi because I don’t want to stop liking guys! Wow my brain is annoying.
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Someone just flagged me for “reassurance seeking.” ONCE AGAIN. Done with this app, goodbye.
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Oh I hate that!
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Kbright, hey I know it’s been a while but can I have some help?
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I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with a girl or even had a crush on a girl. But I find boobs attractive, and I think they might arouse me. Nothing else on a woman though. Does this make me bi?
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@Eden, I’ve read that, I think around 98% of women, experience sexual arousal towards other womens bodies at some point. So all women are basically a small percentage of bisexual, even if they identify as straight. It’s normal, and it’s how the female brain works. Men who identify as straight do not usually experience the same thing towards other men though. Look it up.
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Or maybe don’t if you’re paranoid.
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Thanks! It’s just weird because boobs themselves (with clothes on) don’t necessarily turn me on, but the naked body would. But nothing else on a woman. I’m glad it’s more normal than I thought though!
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I was probably mistaken with that study. What is actually more relevant that I found out after posting, is a term called “arousal non concordance.” You know the groinal syndrome with OCD? Those unwanted sensations in the groin are actually very common in general, even without OCD. Even things that are just sexual in nature without you liking it, can set off arousal. This is because your body and your mind are separate in this area.
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Yeah, I guess it just doesn’t really feel like the groinal syndrome with this. Of course it makes me anxious, but they aroused me even before my OCD was present.
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Yeah I guess. I’m not too anxious about it, as long as it means I’m not gay. I just don’t want to lose my attraction towards guys!
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it feels like i accepted being gay and thats part of who i am but i still feel that tension and fake attraction whenever i see a man and i feel like i could be able to have a sexual intercourse with a man even though i dont want it is it still hocd or just denial? like i am feeling okey but there is still that doubt that how can i know that im not gay if i dont get disgusted by gay things or gay personality traits and at the same time i want to feel normal again like before
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I’ve had hocd for around 11 months now. It’s gotten to the point where I’m just convinced that I am bi. I still like boys like I always have, but I feel like I like girls too. I have no anxiety either or active thoughts. It’s just kinda there like yep I’m bi and ok with it. Anyone else? Just curious.
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- 5w
I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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