Did anyone else ever try to figure out if other women were gay to try to avoid them because you were scared they might turn you gay? I’m sorry if that sounds super insensitive or reassurance seeking, I just want to know if I’m alone or not

I would always try to figure out if other women were gay, but I’m not sure if it was too avoid them or compare my story with theirs or whatever reason, which makes me nervous.

Sorry I don’t want this to make you nervous! I actually have multiple friends who identify as lesbian and I love them so much, but never wanted to like be with them. But I’m thinking back to high school now where there were girls who people suspected might be gay and I would be like nervous around them because I was scared they would make me gay…idk it was weird and feels like terrible to admit. I think the fear came into my mind because of some movies and TV shows that had this trope that a lesbian would turn a straight girl gay..and it instilled so much fear in me that “what if that happened to me” …so idk I’m just venting and trying to figure all this out which I guess I probably shouldn’t do if this is OCD

@Anonymous No, don’t apologize! It made me nervous before you said anything. It’s almost like I check to see if women are gay, and if they’re straight, I feel relieved. If they’re gay, I’m panicked. I don’t understand why.

@missbluesky I wish I could just stop trying to understand all of this and just live life the way I want to authentically