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The guilty feelings is once again another tactic ocd uses to get you stuck. Don't trust the guilt and this is another tactic for the ocd to get you to do your compulsions and feel like you've done something wrong. Don't take the thoughts serious Say in a funny way- ya ok ocd! IiI Don't negotiate with terrorists Thoughts are just thoughts Do not ruminate Oh I just had a thought who cares!! I am not noticing the content of the thoughts. This is meaningless When what if comes in treat it as ocd Make fun of the ocd thought Make a game out of it! Get excited to feel the anxiety. You get to practice your skills!! You can't get me no.matter who you are! I'm not listening to this anymore I want to get back the life I used to have!! To get my life back I have to be uncertain and go toward the anxiety Be courageous! Get up and do your steps and the results will be good Hey come on give me your best shot!! You wanna take me down then take me down! I'm taking my life back! If you wanna get me you go ahead sucker, I'm going forward! Don't use the first thought and the anxiety as a gage or the guilt as a gage. These are the things ocd uses to dominate you! But remember we are not playing the ocds game, we are playing ours! If you are aware of a situation you will be confronted with, prepare yourself as to how you are going to act! Ex-girlfriend kids walking near me- I won't move. Or I'm going to pass something between two people, I'm not going to freak out and I'm going to just to it! Gooooooddddd I want to be anxious! I want to be scared! I want to be uncertain! I'm going for this! I can do this! Accept it As an OCD moment. Don't accept it based on the content Yep but I love my wife and she is the best thing ever! I've had enough I'm not doing this anymore. Who cares if ocd tries coming from a different angle. I'm not paying attention anymore! We need to follow the protocol when these issues come up. Not focus on oh did I do something wrong I've made a mistake. No we want to do our protocol. It will never get better if you dont do the protocol. You will always feel anxious Will doing this lead me closer to recovery or further? We don't want to pay attention to the symptoms of ocd. We want to change the way we respond. If it gives you extreme guilt then it's ocd! Your ocd always surrounds the feelings of guilt! Don't buy into it! YOU PROMISED YOUR WIFE YOU WOULD NOT GIVE INTO OCD! KEEP YOUR PROMISE!DO YOUR STEPS! IF NOT FOR YOU THEN FOR HER!! Winning strategy Don't pay attention to the content. Content is useless When the obsession pops up accept that you just had an obsession. Don't accept that you may have inappropriately touched some one. Accept that you just had a doubt that came up it's fine that's just my ocd producing a fearful doubt. I expect that. This is normal Want to make yourself uncertain! Ocd wants us to be certain but to beat it you need to be uncertain! We want to stay anxious
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- 6y
Hey! Just wanted to give you a little encouragement. Everyone feels it's so real and everyone feels that the thoughts mean something but they really don't. Of course your mind is gonna be full of these thoughts! You keep giving your ocd something o grab hold of. But if for thirty days you decided nope I don't care what the ocd tells me I'm moving forward then the mind will let go. But you have to give it that chance to do that
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These are sayings you can use when you are anxious. Some of them don't make sense cause they are specific to my needs haha but if you need any clarification on any just ask!
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- 6y
It feels like it will go on forever, it’s been everyday all day for over 30 days straight. I can’t break free from it. I can’t even go to the gym or do things I normally would do. It wouldn’t bother me this much if it wasn’t real I feel like. Maybe it’s fate. I could have thoughts tomorrow that I’m a killer and it wouldn’t sit with me for 30 days. I don’t get myself.
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- 6y
It’s hard not to doubt yourself when your mind constantly runs and you feel sick. If everytime you think about a woman you think about a man yea I’d say it might make you question yourself and why it’s happening. That type of stuff doesn’t just happen at least not with me
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- 6y
But in reality that happens to everyone with ocd..this happened to me and it made me think crazy thoughts but when I did my steps it got way better and now (cause I didn't give it validation) it's clear it's OCD
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What were your steps?
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Ok I'll send you an entire list. Cause over the years I added a ton. Most are from a PHD and the others are from another PhD guy. So it's legit
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@aford15 I could have written your posts myself! Trust me, I know how hard it is, and how completely and utterly real it feels. I also understand the urge to just give up. I’m having similar feelings of exhaustion and defeat now, except with ROCD. Just now that you are not alone in your OCD, and that there is hope! Hardest thing you’ll ever do, but just try to let it be. We can’t let OCD rule our lives! Take a risk, accept that certainty is not a currency we work in, and keep going. It will all be okay :)
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- 6y
I’ve never struggled with OCD before as much as I can remember. I feel like Im grabbing ahold of it to make myself feel better like a cop out. There are people who have been struggling with this for years. I have no idea why it happened or where it came from but everything got turned on it’s head. I don’t even recognize myself when I look in the mirror. I’m in mental trances half the day that seem real. My mind goes but “I’m gay” to “you want to be gay” to “you’re not attracted to women anymore”. I want to beat it but I just don’t know if it’s life trying to turn on it’s head. Maybe after all these years I’m having a sexuality crisis. I’ve never struggled with this before but my mind is trying to make me like men. I can’t force myself to be sexually attracted to men but still it doesn’t care, it zaps all my sexual attraction for women and the moment I fantasize about a woman it intrusively inserts images of a man. I still have dreams of women but when I wake up the shit is hell.
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- 25w
I feel awful that I keep coming on here whenever I’m down bad but oh my gosh OCD is the most painful shit that I have EVER experienced in my life and I have a physical chronic illness…. I hate to say it but I hate living right now it’s too painful… im crying as I type to the point where my stomach is hurting, I have pretty severe ocd I do have generalized anxiety and idk if that is connected with ocd but because of that I have most of the subtypes REAL EVENT OCD,POCD,ZOCD,ROCD,SOCD HARM OCD, you name it and I got it!!! a lot of also why I have have those theme is trauma growing up and involving those things^ as of right now i’m 25 and a women with the most loving boyfriend in the entire world before my ocd hit me I NEVER questioned my love and care and attraction with the love of my life I always knew I was going to marry and be with this person the rest of my life! Now with ocd it confuses me soooo much and now I think I’m gay and didn’t realize or indenial and listen I get it “don’t look for reassurance!” “It’s not the thing ocd is attacking that is the problem ocd is the actual problem!” Here’s the thing with that if I’m in a relationship and I’m gay that would mean I would have to leave that said relationship and to say that “oh yeah that stuff happens and you’ll move on” is absolutely devastating to me this is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE and your telling me that iv been lying to myself this whole time or that I didn’t realize?!?!? And that sexuality can change (even though some say it can’t google says otherwise and some people have said it can’t idek anymore) and all this other BULLSHIT I can’t take it WHY?!?! why does this have to happen why can’t I just be with my love the rest of my life?!? and yes before anyone says anything I have been attracted to girls more so when I was younger watching lesbian porn liking the body’s and fantazing them sexually it stopped when I got older but I still don’t get disgusted with women who are pretty it just makes me uncomfortable because I’m with the love of my life and before I remember talking to my partner and discussing certain childhood things I experienced and we discussed that we both could be a little bi and for certain I’m (demi sexual so I don’t even really care about looks) and I truly didn’t care!! NOW I do care even with being bi because again I don’t like thinking about anyone else but my partner but I do also know my parents are homophobic and I do think about if I am gay they wouldn’t be okay with that and I also dont want to deal with that so now I sound like in indenial right?!???? I didn’t even care about labels before my ocd it just didn’t matter but now it’s effected my sex life and it’s hard for me to enjoy sex with being so confused I’m so confused I googled everything can you still have sexual fantasies with same gender but still be straight? Can you fantasize about same gender or imagine marrying them all of it !!! And non of that disgusts me it just makes me uncomfortable AGIAN only bc I just love the partner I’m with right now!!! I’m so fucking confused do I have to leave my partner and accept that I’m gay is that going to happen in the future if I get better with ocd and find out it’s been true all along?!???
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- 14w
I’ve completely lost myself. I can’t focus on my studies, I can’t go to the gym. Dang it I can’t even be around my male friends normally anymore. I got no idea why or how this happened but the only thing I know for sure is that I never questioned my sexuality neither doubted it. I never cared in general. I just liked girls. I keep testing and keep testing and keep testing my arousal but no matter how many times I see but I don’t feel the same way for guys that I do with girls my mind will always try to make me believe that I am gay. It’s like it’s forcing me into an identity I never asked for. But at the end of the day like my psychologist told me. Sexuality doesn’t change. So since I never felt anything for guys in my life it’s ocd. I’ve been up and down for 5 months now and while the last week I was feeling way better. Monday now and I’m back to zero. I just want to go back when everything was normal. I can’t keep living with this.
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- 14w
Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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