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Yes. I hate thoose deep and strong beliefs. "The one." Have you ever think about how the one will make you feel instead of if your bf is the one? Because for me was a game changer! I realised how high and impossible were standards I used to put for men... like the one will ALWAYS make me feels great and happy. (How that can be even possible, every human beings have bad moments, how could he not have them, and also makes me feeling good in mine???). Or with the one I will never fight. (Impossible and unrealistic.) With the one, I will always feel the sparkle (reality isn't that, sparkles comes and goes) And I can go on and on!! Thoose are all standards that are unrealistic and impossible. And thoose are the standards that fed my rocd for months! My bf couldn't keep always with thoose impossibile standars (what a news); so I question myself if he is the one! An example. For some reason, I feel angry with my bf. My mind will tell me: with the one you should always be happy, so he is not the one. You should take distance and broke up with him. But in my heart I want to stay, so hey! Loads of anxiety and depression!
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- 3y
Thats literally what im feeling. Im 19 i rrally want him in my future and i would have so much fun and i would be so happy with him but its gonna br such a long journey. My rocd keeps questioning can you make it? Im willing to push through it for him.
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- 3y
Im so upset bc hes my love and it feels like its so real...
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- 3y
I'm sorry you have to experience that... the key is not answering. And not taking decision while flaring up! I'll tell you this! Let's picture an hypothetical situation. You have a doubt right, let's say it's "do I love him enough?" You start to search for answer. Maby you check your feelings at the idea of him, you only feel anxious so you take this as a no. But then you remember how great was when you did something in past, so maybe yes, you love him. But again, you don't miss him at the moment, so ... nope! Than you would be sad; and you can't be sad for someone that isn't important for you, so yes you love him enough again!! See? For every option, you can find proofs. And you have too find proof for having an answer! So you will find an answer, but then you have to prove that this answer is true, by finding proof. But because there are proof for every option, you couldn't never be sure about an answer!! Even if you are, let's say the answer is "yess I love him enough, because I enjoy spending time with him" than more question will follow your answer !! "Do I really enjoy time with him?" "Is someone out there more enjoyable! And so on and on!! +THERE AREN'T ANSWERS FOR THOOSE QUESTIONS. "Does he really want me?" "Do I really want him?" "Will be happy together?" Etc... only future can answer!!! The only way to get out of this is to break the circle! To not answer, to accept that he could or couldn't be the one!
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- 3y
But i get those feelings where I feel like he is the one then i doubt and ask questions this is rocd or me?
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I just has anotger one where i invisioned me hugging him didnt like it and my brain its because i dont like him—then i cyt off started getting hot and was saying wait no no no. I do i do. Then i invisioned it afain and loved it.
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I'm 20! Hey. It's hard I know. But it is like that for now, things can get easier with effort; therapy, erp; cbd ... there are a lot opportunities to improve! You seem strong! I know you got this!! Hope thing will be better for you, for us!!
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- 3y
I just had a huge Rocd attack. I was asking myself deep questions like do i really love him? Am i only doing this for him? He makes me so happy. Is it normal to have mixed feelings for a minute. I got hot and im pacing and i qm walking back and fourth trying to find a solution
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- 22w
Getting myself into a spiral trying to figure out if I actually am in love with my boyfriend. Have I just been pretending? How do I know I ACTUALLY love him and not just the idea of him or his love and affection? It just feels like this pressing and intense question lately. I know I can’t solve it by ruminating bc I have been in the same themes for almost 2 years and have never gotten closer to “figuring them out”. Just so hard to stop trying to figure out if I actually love him or not today.
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- 22w
Is anyone here going throughbSOOCD while being in a relationship? If yes, do you feel like “something is missing” even tho everything is great? My OCD keeps on telling me “you’re settling” or “yeah you’re happy with what you have but its nothing compared to what you would be feeling if you were with a girl, but you’re with your bf for society!” Im soo tired!! When I look at him I find him so attractive and handsome but i dont know if im attracted to him or if he’s just attractive!! And while growing up I was never “pulled by guys” but I thought that everyone was this way! I also used to look at girls because I found them Beautiful but I thought that everyone used to look at them this way! I think what truly bothering me is “comphet” and the “lesbian masterdoc”. Like I feel like I can relate to some points! Yes I used to choosw my crushes growing up but it felt like everyone used to do the same thing! As for my current bf, we started out as friend and then it turned into something else but now im scared I just agreed to being his gf because “that’s what I had to do” and im scared that he’s my “beard”. I particularly got triggered yesterday because my friends were talking about their celebrities crush and I couldnt think about anyone without forcing it! Instead I could easily think about kristen stewart or someone with the same vibe. All of this + my feelings must mean something no??? I just want to feel “in love” my bf is perfect!
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- 17w
I’m like 90% sure I’m just bi, more romantically inclined to men, mainly my bf who I wanna marry. But now my brain is like “if you lean into liking women or keep circling and circling for answers you’ll lose all attraction to men and your bf. You’re practically already a lesbian” I feel so tense and anxious I will admit I am talking to chat gpt out of desperation I’m scared of losing all attraction to him I don’t wanna be thinking about women. I don’t unless I’m really stressed cuz when I’m stressed my ocd can take advantage of that I can usually ground myself when I’m in the city with him but I’m back home for most of the summer and I can’t be physically close to him which usually reminds me that hey this is real this is what I really want in life. Him But then I panic and question I haven’t been here in a while tbh. I’m worried I don’t feel enough. I don’t like magic Mike all that much, I like softer guys. But now the fact I don’t like/get turned on by random men on tv but do women in lingerie really stresses me out and makes me worry I’m truly a lesbian but I’m not. Once I started getting to know my bf and my ex bf’s I really did truly genuinely like them and wanted to make out and everything. Idk can anyone relate to the not liking big buff men All my brain is repeating rn is “when he dies you’ll be able to date a woman, when you break up you’ll only wanna date women” and it’s stressing me out. It’s making me nauseous. I was doing well for about a couple days after I initially left but being at home has been so incredibly draining This might give you a vision of how stressful home is: I’ve been on nexplanon for 7 months ish? Only had very minimal spotting during a stressful school period. Today: fully bleeding, like a usual period. I haven’t had my period since having it put in. I wanna go back to my bf so badly rn. I’m so worried I’m faking or don’t feel enough. I’m learning what a healthy relationship looks like and I’m terrified I’m gonna up and leave him when we’re older cuz I’ll finally figure out that I’m a lesbian or smthn. Idk. Someone pls just help me out a tad
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