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- 3y
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- 3y
I am the same way. I love my bf very much but there is always this... doubt. This uncertainty. This 'what if he's not the one?' 'what if we aren't really compatible?' 'what if-' and it all goes on. Don't even get me started about the moments I worry about our interests differing. But all I know is that I don't want us to end and I have to remind myself that these thoughts are just thoughts. On top of that, I've realized that I've been holding unrealistically high standards for interpersonal relationships my whole life, both friendship and especially romantic. With friendships, it was easy to be like 'well... I don't expect this to last' but I realize now that I've probably never quite had a good attachment formed with my friends and maybe I've only had a good one with a few. I'm just now realizing that there's a good chance that part of it also has something to do with the way I've formed attachments to people. I would always have second thoughts about people for having differing opinions or interests and those would be in the shadows even if we still got along great as friends! However, the moment a fight or conflict would come up, I would sit here and think maybe we'd be over as friends and it would hurt but I would be like 'well... this is exactly what I was afraid of so maybe we just weren't meant to be friends.' I lost sight of the fact that every interpersonal relationship with friends, family, and romantic partners will have it's tough times and moments of conflict. But with a romantic relationship, I kinda want it to last but I've held it on such a high unrealistic standard that the uncertainty of it hit me like a train and suddenly I find myself crying on my bed in the fetal position as all of the thoughts of uncertainty consumed me. I realize now that I need to just get better about how I form connections in general, accept that yeah, uncertainty is apart of being in a relationship and it'll never go away but it has gotten easier in time. All in all, I just want me and my boyfriend to make it and I want us both to be okay.
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- 3y
I want me and mine to be ok as well. I have a good feeling we will be togethee forever cause it sounds right and definitely feels right. He makes me so happy. Sure i get these doubts and invisions of other people but i still always go back to him. The rocd makes you doubt everything and makes you think outside of the box to make you think its not rocds fault its yours.
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Literally same with me . He is everything I could ever want. But I feel constant discomfort, doubting, anxiety . Wish it would stop
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- 3y
R u getting the doubt that u actually dont want to. But u really do
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- 24w
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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- 22w
For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..
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- 9w
Recently my ocd keeps asking me if I love my boyfriend enough and that if I don’t love him enough I should breakup with him. It’s really bothering me and idk what to do about it. Sitting in the uncertainty is too much and I fear sitting with it too long I’m just gonna crack and give in to a compulsion.
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