i have never had a real relationship, but it’s because of me. i will be interested in someone, and then the moment they show interest in me im over them, like they have too low of standards. i obsess over it too, like they’re settling. i fear i am incapable of loving someone else and that fear inhibits my ability to be involved with someone. i also have intrusive thoughts that im settling because i won’t find someone who will put up with my problems.