Anyone else's OCD not able to handle bisexuality? Like its got to be one or the other, despite the fact I've had crushes on males and females at various points of my life?

Yes, I did identify as bisexual for about 2 years before I got obsessed with my sexuality

@Kaylaaaa I’m so sorry you’re going through this too. I’m not sure if I was bisexual before his or mostly straight or whatever. But this having to constantly choose one or the other, is so distressing

@Legallyocd I have trans OCD as well, and relationship OCD. I'm just so tired

@Kaylaaaa I have rocd too and I get it. I cried to my therapist today because I told her that I just want to feel like I know who I am

@Legallyocd Same. I'm so tired

@Kaylaaaa What was it that triggered your ocd ?

@Legallyocd Anxiety surrounding romance turned into what's my swxuality turned into I'm trans. You?

@Kaylaaaa I had also been scared of being gay then because my core fear since I was little was that I lie. That and the fact that I always jump to the worst case scenario because I don’t want to get my hopes up and be wrong (to make clear being lgbtqia+ is not the worst case scenario at all, but for me it was like really scary because then you would be different and you wouldn’t be able to like boys). However, I never really spent time on it until one day a random stranger asked me if I was a lesbian and that set off ever since

@Legallyocd Always *

@Legallyocd That's so interesting. I identified as bisexual for years, and then one day had a panic attack because a male best friend liked me so I assumed that meant I was a lesbian and boom

@Kaylaaaa Wow it’s crazy how this stuff gets stuck !

@Legallyocd It somehow turned into trans OCD last February, which was officially when I couldn't cope.

@Kaylaaaa You know kaylaa in way the fact that it changed themes is a good thing because that means that the soocd doesn’t bother you as much anymore so now your ocd is looking for something else that you care about to attack. So whatever you did for the last theme you should try on this theme.

@Legallyocd Idk if that would work. Because it went away because I accepted being a lesbian. (Turns out I was wrong). I cant accept being trans. I've come close a few times, when I feel the most awful and feel the only way out of the pain is to live as a man. But every time something holds me back

Yeah. But its just so hard for me to accept I want to be a boy because I do care. So much

@Kaylaaaa I understand you. Because that’s how I feel about my SOOCD. I just can’t pick a side there’s always something that gets me ruminating again. How did you accept being a lesbian?