I am 19 years old have been with my boyfriend for 1 year I love him deep in my heart but I have so many obsessed thoughts about do I love him , is he the one for me , do I really love him it’s drowning me I can’t go on like this . I don’t want to break up with him I get into these episodes where I get so far in my head . I don’t wanna give up on me and him because I know he makes me happy and just I hate these doubts I obsessed over them . and it kills me and worries me if these thoughts are true why would I still be with him . Please help me through this and better cope . And it hurts so much to think I don’t love him I break down and cry and cry about it I just want to feel the happiness I know is there with my partner . It started out of no where and I don’t understand why . The more I read about relationship ocd the more I think I have it . Then I get intrusive thoughts do I really love him for the rights reason am I just using him for my happiness do I really need this I’m so scared and I cry and cry and cry because it just can’t be true

Relationship OCD

raccs

Date posted: 3y

sounds like rocd. the only way to really heal from ocd is to become comfortable with the fact that you will never know or be able to predict the future. you can obsess for hours and the ocd will still never be satisfied with your answers, you just have to see how things play out. maybe he’s the one and maybe he’s not. i tell myself “I’m happy in the moment and won’t worry about the future” because I have no control over it anyways. does that make sense?

lexi1347

Date posted: 3y

Yes it makes sense I just sometimes I don’t feel happy then soemtimes I do then I think do I love him do I really love him is it for the right reasons am I just using him for my happiness when I ever even thought about these things before and it kills me and makes me cry so mcuh he tells me it’s just intrusive thoughts babe you know the reason why u can’t break up with me is because you love me and don’t wanna lose me

lexi1347

Date posted: 3y

Also like my intrusive thoughts say “am I really happy “ “do I really love him “ “is this really what I want “ and it circles and circles my head and I cry so much because I think what if that’s true

lexi1347

Date posted: 3y

@raccs No he’s telling me the reason why I don’t break up with him is because I know deep in my heart I love him and I’ll regret it he said if I truly didn’t love him or care that it would be so easy to let him go or so easy just to call it quits he’s not saying I can’t leave

raccs

Date posted: 3y

@lexi1347 I think you should focus less on why you know for sure that you love him and more on embracing the unknown, maybe it won’t last forever, maybe he’s not the one, but maybe he is! you can’t know until the future arrives, but you will be ok either way.

lexi1347

Date posted: 3y

@raccs My mother and everyone around me always says if you can’t let him go or want to give up or leave him it’s love . you will be able to let someone go easy and not want to work on things with someone if it wasn’t love

lexi1347

Date posted: 3y

I don’t wanna break up with him I don’t wanna lose him he means so mcuh to me . I just I put him through so much with all this questions and intrusive thoughts and he tells me they are just intrusive and don’t mean anything and I try to understand that but thank u.

raccs

Date posted: 3y

The nature of ocd is to attack the ones you love and make you question your feelings and intentions towards them. Ocd will always make you question something even if you know it for sure. Good luck

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