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This is one of the biggest triggers for me. It always makes me feel lonely bc Iāve seen no one talking about it. Iām trying to learn how to not give into the compulsions because I feel like Iām always trying to āfigure it outā until I āfeel rightā ???
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Yes!!
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This is literally my biggest trigger! I mean is ot okay to say that they are attractive in a way but not want to be with them romantically or sexually?
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@Tan??? Iām scared about giving reassurance but I also know that as humans it is completely normal regardless of your sexual orientation to find people of not your preferred SO attractive. Like I think women are beautiful but that doesnāt mean I want to be romantically involved with oneā¦.even though SOOCD lovessssssss to latch onto that. I still struggle with this too, everyday is difficult. Iām learning alongside you:)
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@lindsš (Like saying that women are beautiful is really triggering and messes with me, but Iām trying to lean into the uncomfortableness and uncertainty!)
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@lindsš Like with me I can say girl women are beautiful but when I see a masc lesbian I mean I am a girly girl so Iām not thinking they are attractive because I admire or want to be them so it makes me like I really find them attractive
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@Tan??? I understand that so much. Honestly, I donāt know why. Attraction is broad,and it doesnāt mean you want to be with them. But with SOOCD it feels so so real, like right now talking about it I feel a lot of resistance and like I want to avoid talking about it because itās so triggering. But we just have to learn to lean into the uncertainty. Like when these feelings pop up being like ā maybe, maybe notā and doing our best to just let the thought and anxiety (or not) be there. I understand your struggle deeply. This has been my biggest ruminating thought recently. And every time I see a masc lesbian I spiral and get super triggered. It makes it feel so incredibly real. But you arenāt alone, we got this:) Also Iām not a specialist but this is just what Iāve learned (and am still practicing)
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This is the biggest issue with my hocd? Does it feel like real attraction to you?
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@Tan??? Yes
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@cc97 I need some advice on how to cope with this I know I donāt want to be with them but if I even think they are attractive I think omg Iām lesbian and have to leave my husband
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@Tan??? Iām so sorry Iām still struggling with this as well so I donāt have much advice to give. The most advice I can give is too remember that thoughts donāt equal truth. Try to sit with anxiety. Youāre stronger than this!
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Iām 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Donāt get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you wonāt prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you havenāt tried it: and itās that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I donāt want I donāt want I donāt want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I donāt wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now theyāre just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself itās two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself itās alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if itās just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but itās confusing. On top of that Iāve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like Iād be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk Iāve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that Iām straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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So Iāve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a womanās body disgusting. Looking back in my life Iāve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I canāt remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people canāt get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations donāt mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when ātesting my reactionsā and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. Thatās not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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