Does any females with hocd worry they find butch or masculine women attractive

Yes!!

This is literally my biggest trigger! I mean is ot okay to say that they are attractive in a way but not want to be with them romantically or sexually?

@Tan??? I’m scared about giving reassurance but I also know that as humans it is completely normal regardless of your sexual orientation to find people of not your preferred SO attractive. Like I think women are beautiful but that doesn’t mean I want to be romantically involved with one….even though SOOCD lovessssssss to latch onto that. I still struggle with this too, everyday is difficult. I’m learning alongside you:)

@linds💕 (Like saying that women are beautiful is really triggering and messes with me, but I’m trying to lean into the uncomfortableness and uncertainty!)

@linds💕 Like with me I can say girl women are beautiful but when I see a masc lesbian I mean I am a girly girl so I’m not thinking they are attractive because I admire or want to be them so it makes me like I really find them attractive

@Tan??? I understand that so much. Honestly, I don’t know why. Attraction is broad,and it doesn’t mean you want to be with them. But with SOOCD it feels so so real, like right now talking about it I feel a lot of resistance and like I want to avoid talking about it because it’s so triggering. But we just have to learn to lean into the uncertainty. Like when these feelings pop up being like “ maybe, maybe not” and doing our best to just let the thought and anxiety (or not) be there. I understand your struggle deeply. This has been my biggest ruminating thought recently. And every time I see a masc lesbian I spiral and get super triggered. It makes it feel so incredibly real. But you aren’t alone, we got this:) Also I’m not a specialist but this is just what I’ve learned (and am still practicing)

This is the biggest issue with my hocd? Does it feel like real attraction to you?

@Tan??? Yes

@cc97 I need some advice on how to cope with this I know I don’t want to be with them but if I even think they are attractive I think omg I’m lesbian and have to leave my husband

@Tan??? I’m so sorry I’m still struggling with this as well so I don’t have much advice to give. The most advice I can give is too remember that thoughts don’t equal truth. Try to sit with anxiety. You’re stronger than this!

@cc97 💕