- Date posted
- 506d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
This is the biggest issue with my hocd? Does it feel like real attraction to you?
@cc97 I need some advice on how to cope with this I know I don’t want to be with them but if I even think they are attractive I think omg I’m lesbian and have to leave my husband
@Tan??? I’m so sorry I’m still struggling with this as well so I don’t have much advice to give. The most advice I can give is too remember that thoughts don’t equal truth. Try to sit with anxiety. You’re stronger than this!
This is one of the biggest triggers for me. It always makes me feel lonely bc I’ve seen no one talking about it. I’m trying to learn how to not give into the compulsions because I feel like I’m always trying to “figure it out” until I “feel right” ???
This is literally my biggest trigger! I mean is ot okay to say that they are attractive in a way but not want to be with them romantically or sexually?
@Tan??? I’m scared about giving reassurance but I also know that as humans it is completely normal regardless of your sexual orientation to find people of not your preferred SO attractive. Like I think women are beautiful but that doesn’t mean I want to be romantically involved with one….even though SOOCD lovessssssss to latch onto that. I still struggle with this too, everyday is difficult. I’m learning alongside you:)
@linds💕 (Like saying that women are beautiful is really triggering and messes with me, but I’m trying to lean into the uncomfortableness and uncertainty!)
@linds💕 Like with me I can say girl women are beautiful but when I see a masc lesbian I mean I am a girly girl so I’m not thinking they are attractive because I admire or want to be them so it makes me like I really find them attractive
@Tan??? I understand that so much. Honestly, I don’t know why. Attraction is broad,and it doesn’t mean you want to be with them. But with SOOCD it feels so so real, like right now talking about it I feel a lot of resistance and like I want to avoid talking about it because it’s so triggering. But we just have to learn to lean into the uncertainty. Like when these feelings pop up being like “ maybe, maybe not” and doing our best to just let the thought and anxiety (or not) be there. I understand your struggle deeply. This has been my biggest ruminating thought recently. And every time I see a masc lesbian I spiral and get super triggered. It makes it feel so incredibly real. But you aren’t alone, we got this:) Also I’m not a specialist but this is just what I’ve learned (and am still practicing)