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it was like when i first met my boyfriend it was more anxiety toward him and what he was doing.. now its more me :( i fear i find other people attractive but i know i dont..? its the weirdest thing, thank you for talking to me
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Well what I’ve learned is that it’s okay to spot an attractive human being, we have eyes, we’re human, that’s just how it is.
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I fear my ROCD turning into HOCD or SOOCD, sometimes i get worried. I asked some people about what a certain astrology placement meant and someone said it could relate to polyamory, obviously i am not polyamorous but now i cant stop thinking about it… i love awakenintolove so so much though, when i first found out about my rocd i binged every last one of her videos. are you currently with a partner?
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Saaame I love awakenintolove too. She really helped with my ROCD. I have a wonderful boyfriend:) and before him, I went through a lot of relationship trauma so I think that’s how my ROCD and SOOCD manifests, because of course the thoughts didn’t start until I started dating him.
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i think ive had some thoughts in my past “relationship” but i just left because i believe they were partially true… the partner im with now is completely worth fighting for though :) its just hard being 16 and having something like this. no one takes it seriously
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Yeah! When I was 16 I heavily dealt with ROCD, and it felt like no one believed me..but I’m still with my lovey at 18🤗💕
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wow thats amazing! i truly wish you two the best!! did you ever struggle with like cheating ocd?
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Yes yes yes heavily. I would get so scared that my boyfriend was cheating to a point where I actually thought he was. I would also get really scared that I would cheat on him!
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When I dealt with ROCD so heavily astrology was my biggest trigger. Angel numbers, meaning of dreams, compatibility, etc.
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are you over rocd? for me its on and off, but recently astrology and the fact i havent had much physical anxiety are my main themes. i also contribute the fact i havent seen my partner much and pms to my recent flare up 😅
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@gigi12 I’m not completely over, it’s on and off for me too. But it transitioned into major SOOCD, that was once on and off but now it’s all I’ve thought about for MONTHS. There’s this account called @awakenintolove on Instagram who helps me immensely with ROCD. She put out a podcast talking about how astrology can be so triggering. I used to take everything as a sign, and when it was a bad sign I felt like my relationship was just doomed. Also PMS definitely does not help😐
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i understand that point, i guess for me its mostly difficult because im pretty sure i dont actually im just stressing myself out about it
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I’m scared
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Lately my ROCD has been flaring up, making it difficult to even be around my partner. I’m having so many troubling thoughts with the one that bugs me most being, “maybe this isn’t my OCD, maybe I’m just in a bad relationship and I’m trying to cover it up and blame it on OCD”. This thought really scares me because there are valid doubts in my relationship but my boyfriend and I have openly talked about them and are trying to work through. My OCD won’t take that as an option tho. It makes me feel like I need to be 100% certain that these things can NEVER happen again or else we need to break up immediately. So anything he says in that moment about trying to do better, my OCD will not trust anything he says and just wait until the next “bad thing” happens. When I continuously bring these things up to my boyfriend even tho nothing has happened between these conversations, it exhausts him making it feel like he can never do enough. I feel so bad because I know it’s just my OCD getting in the way. But then that thought creeps in saying I can’t trust him because I need to protect myself. It’s just an ongoing cycle that is so tiring. I don’t even know what I want anymore. We are very opposite when it comes to emotions. I am very in tune and very emotionally intelligent, and he is not. He is the opposite. I do recognize that my anxious attachment style may be hard for him too but I can’t stop thinking about all of his flaws and all of the things he needs to do to make our relationship better. It makes me feel like I’m the only one putting in effort when in reality that is not true. But my OCD does make me feel like he doesn’t really love me or want to be with me and that he feels forced to be with me or do things for me. It makes me feel like him being with me is like a chore. Can anyone relate? My OCD just makes me feel like I can’t trust anything he says to make our relationship better.
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I’m freaking out that I still have love for someone from my past. Of course showed up in my dream last night. I haven’t even thought about this person for the past year while being with my partner. What????? Ugh this never ends does it
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Hey, I really need your opinion – I think I might be struggling with Relationship OCD, and these thoughts are driving me crazy. I’ve been officially diagnosed with OCD, and I believe I also have ROCD. My obsessive thoughts often focus on one specific girl from my boyfriend’s past. She had messaged him a few times, and I think she liked him – but he never liked her back. He barely knew her, never found her attractive, and never wanted anything with her. She’s just a good friend of his best friend – not an ex or anything like that. He told me that he happened to be in the same group as her a couple of times – once at a birthday party and once at a fair – just because his best friend brought her along. He made it clear several times that she’s not his type at all, neither in looks nor in personality. He described her as someone who likes to go out and party a lot, and said that’s just not what he’s into. He also said he didn’t ask about her – these things were mentioned to him before our relationship. Almost all of this happened before we met – except for one thing: the fair. That was just one day before our second date, back when we had just started getting to know each other. She was with his friend group that night. He said he only said hi and bye to her, nothing more. The next day, when we met again, we were talking about his friends’ heights. He casually mentioned that his friend was the same height as that girl – 1.70 m. Ever since, I keep wondering: If she meant nothing to him, why did he even talk about her? Or did he actually talk to her that night, even though he said he didn’t? I know he said they barely exchanged a word, but somehow he still knew that detail. I just find that strange. Another example: He once said she was “kind of slutty.” Then, one or two months later, when I brought it up again, he said he didn’t know if she was or not, and that he didn’t care at all. That really confused me. I keep wondering: Why did he say something like that in the first place if he supposedly doesn’t care about her? I also notice this really frustrating cycle: When I talk to him about something that doesn’t make sense to me, I feel brief relief. But then, almost immediately, another thought or detail pops up that feels “off” again – and I feel like I have to bring that up, too. I can’t tolerate the uncertainty. It’s like an endless loop. These little “inconsistencies” – or what I perceive as inconsistencies – make me spiral, even though I do believe he’s being honest with me. I want to trust him. But I have this constant urge to bring up every little thing that doesn’t feel logically right. Every detail stays in my head for days, and it’s really hard not to talk about it. Does this sound like Relationship OCD to you? Do any of you go through this constant analyzing and doubt? I’d really appreciate your thoughts. I’m slowly ruining my own relationship..
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