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but it makes me anxious when i think about needing to break up with my boyfriend. That makes me so sad because i don’t want to break up with him. I love him so much but it’s making me feel like the love i have for him could be something else and not romantic attraction. i’m so tired of this i feel so guilty i just want to be with him and not worry
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I will not allow myself down the comphet rabbit hole. I think it will destroy me. When I'm with my girlfriend I feel very good like it all makes sense. Then when I'm without her, or we have a disagreement, or I'm high anxiety it's like I have to be gay in order to relieve the anxiety. I was doing pretty good for awhile but have fallen back into a spike the past couple of days.
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- 3y
Hey do you mind if I ask what signs you related to? I felt like I related to some as well, so I’m freaking out.
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yeah so i don’t remember a lot of them rn and i don’t wanna go back and look cuz it’ll just freak me out again lol but i’ll try to remember. Basically i’ve just always been a really big supporter of lgbtq like i’ve always been an ally which it just said that that could be a sign. also it says that u confuse feelings of really just wanting to be a boys friend with romantic feelings. personally i don’t think it’s that i want to be there friend it’s just that i feel like i always want to be protected and comforted by a man so i’m scared that that’s all i want and i’m not really romantically attracted to them. I saw a video of someone saying they thought they liked guys but they really just wanted a guy there to protect them when in reality they didn’t really like boys. It’s just hard to get past that because it seems like it could be true. I know there were other ones but i can’t remember rn. If u wanna share what stuff u relate to we can talk about it. It’s nice to know people are going through the same thing!
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also i just remembered one more. All my life i feel like anytime a guy was nice to me in any way and i thought they were cute i would be attracted to them or i would feel like it was always flirtatious even if they were just being nice. I know that could be from many things like i could just have been having a lack of attention at the time which i wanted i guess but i saw that it said if you just assume every kind of feeling u have towards a guy is romantic then u could be comphet
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- 25w
I was trying not to think abt it and honestly inwas doing a great job until a woman came on my fyp on tiktok and said “if u think women are objectively more attractive u re not straight” and now i’m so anxious and distressed and am scared i might be comphet. When i was little i remember being obsessed with the “i cant remember to forget u” mv so i rewatched it and thought it was sensual but nothing more. Idk. She also said that if u use a fantasy to get arroused around men u might not like them. Idk anything anymore Im so tired
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- 23w
I cant afford therapy which is why i’m not diagnosed with ocd. The first time i had heard what ocd was truly abt was 6 years ago when i overthinking my sexual identity and it fit. Additionally, i struggle with debilitating health anxiety and when i was in a rlt i was extremely anxious that i might not love my partner. This is the third year i experience distress around my sexuality but this year it feels real. And it could also explain my rlt anxiety. Comphet is a concept that really scares me. I dont want to be with a girl. I would rather die than discover i was lesbian. I cant accept uncertainty cz i dont want to be homosexual. Chat GPT told me it wasnt ocd + the thoughts dont distress me anymore. I experience 3 intense weeks of anxiety prior to now. Maybe its internalized homophobia. Maybe its comphet. I do find women to be attractive but i dont wanna be with them. Maybe i’m in denial. Idk anything anymore. I’m remembering times where i would find an actress attractive and try to shift my focus towards the man cz it would make me anxious. I’m not well at all.
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- 13w
Chat GPT told me its more likely comphet than ocd Idk im scared Im scared that if i accept the uncertainty to know the truth once and for all 1) i end up actually turning out to be lesbian 2) I lose the guy i love (or i think i love idk atp) I’m remembering so many moments of same sex attractions from when i was little Im so scared im so scared Its too much
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