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oh man, i kinda relate. i personally haven’t asked my boyfriend for breaks. we’re super close and what we do when i’m not feeling good with my rocd is that we leave the romantic stuff if you will, for later. it was hard for him maybe the first three episodes i had because he felt powerless and useless to me, and maybe that’s happening to your girlfriend in a way. i know you can feel super guilty, i feel that way too. also, id say try and sit with her and talk abou how she feels towards your situation, because i think that if she understood that it’s not real and it’s some time that you need to get better, i don’t think it should be a problem. it’s gonna be hard for her yes, but i think that could make it less of a problem. reply to this comment if you wanna keep talking :)
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I am sorry and don't know if that's ok but do you really believe that breaking from your relationship will actually help you in a healthy way or just in a way that feels comfortable? I am married and we were in a relationship for 5 years. From the beginning of our relationship I had thoughts of breaking up, acuse my boyfriend etc and many times considered to break up and solve this on my own to get a better person for me and the other person. However when I sat down with clear thoughts this didn't make sense because we who have Ocd deserve a good relationship and full acceptance even if we bring troubles and negativity to our relationship. I know it is too hard for your girlfriend to fully understand your issue but as long as she loves you and has serious thoughts for your future I think she would prefer be with you or at least I believe this is the most healthy. What if you tried to go through this together and united, accept the fact that Ocd is a part of your lives and move on trying to do the best you can. Ocd wants us apart and not together, wants us to be alone and figure out things that may never be explained logically, it gives us false solutions about wrong issues. Even being alone Ocd will be probably there if we don't get therapy or some kind of treatment. You could try treatment but also stay in your relationship which will only get stronger this way. You will prove Ocd that together is better than alone and love can overcome mental issues and many other human problems. These are my thoughts and wanted to share with you as i have severe Rocd and my life is full of these horrible, torturing intrusive thoughts but still persist to stay and fight for my marriage even when there are days when everything seems black and pointless. My inner self knows that what I love is my family and have to fight for it. Stay strong and don't let ocd take the lead
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