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- 3y
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- 3y
oh man, i kinda relate. i personally haven’t asked my boyfriend for breaks. we’re super close and what we do when i’m not feeling good with my rocd is that we leave the romantic stuff if you will, for later. it was hard for him maybe the first three episodes i had because he felt powerless and useless to me, and maybe that’s happening to your girlfriend in a way. i know you can feel super guilty, i feel that way too. also, id say try and sit with her and talk abou how she feels towards your situation, because i think that if she understood that it’s not real and it’s some time that you need to get better, i don’t think it should be a problem. it’s gonna be hard for her yes, but i think that could make it less of a problem. reply to this comment if you wanna keep talking :)
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- 3y
I am sorry and don't know if that's ok but do you really believe that breaking from your relationship will actually help you in a healthy way or just in a way that feels comfortable? I am married and we were in a relationship for 5 years. From the beginning of our relationship I had thoughts of breaking up, acuse my boyfriend etc and many times considered to break up and solve this on my own to get a better person for me and the other person. However when I sat down with clear thoughts this didn't make sense because we who have Ocd deserve a good relationship and full acceptance even if we bring troubles and negativity to our relationship. I know it is too hard for your girlfriend to fully understand your issue but as long as she loves you and has serious thoughts for your future I think she would prefer be with you or at least I believe this is the most healthy. What if you tried to go through this together and united, accept the fact that Ocd is a part of your lives and move on trying to do the best you can. Ocd wants us apart and not together, wants us to be alone and figure out things that may never be explained logically, it gives us false solutions about wrong issues. Even being alone Ocd will be probably there if we don't get therapy or some kind of treatment. You could try treatment but also stay in your relationship which will only get stronger this way. You will prove Ocd that together is better than alone and love can overcome mental issues and many other human problems. These are my thoughts and wanted to share with you as i have severe Rocd and my life is full of these horrible, torturing intrusive thoughts but still persist to stay and fight for my marriage even when there are days when everything seems black and pointless. My inner self knows that what I love is my family and have to fight for it. Stay strong and don't let ocd take the lead
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- 20w
Hi everyone. I’m really struggling and I need to let it all out. I’ve been dealing with ROCD (or what I think is ROCD) for a long time, and I feel like I’m at my breaking point. I’m in a loving relationship with a boyfriend who is kind, understanding, and patient. But ever since I started reading a lot online, googling symptoms, talking to AI like ChatGPT, searching for reassurance, things have gotten worse and worse. And now… I feel completely disconnected from my feelings. I don’t know what’s real anymore. My boyfriend told me that he believes I’ve convinced myself that I have something that needs to be treated, and that all this constant researching is making me feel worse. And honestly, I think he’s right. Before I fell into this cycle, I could be more intimate with him. I used to say “I love you,” I used to feel warmth. Now I don’t say it anymore. I haven’t in a long time. And it hurts him. And I know I’m hurting him, and that makes it even worse. He also said that maybe I’m having these obsessive thoughts because I don’t have a daily purpose, that I need to get occupied, to stop being consumed by this. And others in my life have told me the same. He even suggested taking a break from each other for a week, just to give me space. But I’m terrified of that. I’m scared that the thing I fear most will become “the truth.” I’m scared I’ll feel relief, and that will mean everything I fear is real. But he told me that if I don’t want the break, maybe it means I still care. Still love. Still want this. The problem is, I don’t know anymore. And that’s what’s killing me. I’ve also had a psychologist who told me that just because I feel guilt or “care,” it doesn’t necessarily mean I like him — and that sent me spiraling. She said that maybe I care about people in general, but it doesn’t mean I love him. And it made me feel like I’m just lying to myself. That maybe I’m holding on out of obligation, or because I set in my head that I “have to be with him.” And even when he tells me beautiful things — logical things — things that SHOULD make me feel safe and seen… I don’t feel better. I just feel more empty. And then I start spiraling again: “If this doesn’t help me feel better, then something must be wrong.” “What if I’m just pretending?” “What if I’ve been lying to myself all along?” I feel like there’s something wrong inside of me. Like no matter what anyone says, or how much love I’m given, I can’t feel it. I just want to know what to do. I want someone to tell me what this is. I want to stop feeling like I’m running after a version of myself that used to feel, used to love, used to be calm. I don’t know if this is ROCD or if I’m just slowly facing a truth I’ve been afraid to accept. Please, if anyone has felt this way, I need to hear that I’m not alone. And if you’ve come out the other side… how? My relationship is perfect and he is perfect, i just deal with this and i am far from happy.
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