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I get this way too! I've always wanted a boyfriend but I get so anxious going on dates or if a cute guy even talks to me. Then I worry that I'm too awkward or something to date.
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Yes same !! And my OCD uses this as āproofā
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@cc97 Yes same! I then I get where I have no energy to even try and date from loss of attraction and because of how anxious I get. I'm sure it doesn't help that I don't have great self confidence about how I look, etc.
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@Mak46 Literally same!! Also find myself worrying like āare the the oneā āis this gonna lastā āwhat if I find someone better?ā Itās never ending
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@cc97 Yep! Or if I go on a date but don't really like them anymore I worry that then I will find no one because I'm too picky. Or what I have built up in my head about this amazing hot guy won't ever come true so I will always be disappointed.
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@Mak46 YES!! I agree
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@Mak46 Oh god itās so nice to find someone who relates
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@cc97 Right?! It makes me feel a little better knowing I'm not alone in how I feel. Possible trigger warning: I also worry so much about how people say that they are in denial when they know their sexuality and deny it. So, I worry that I know it but I'm just denying it.
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@Mak46 Me too
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@cc97 Yeah and it's so frustrating. I can't get this out of my head and I was doing okay a couple of days ago where I thought I kind of felt normal and some of my attraction for guys back but now I'm freaking out again.
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@Mak46 Yes!! Same itās always back and forth
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@cc97 Yep, yesterday and today haven't been great for me. It really feels like I like the thoughts and don't like guys anymore which goes against what I always knew about myself.
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@Mak46 I feel that too š
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@cc97 And I have such a hard time sitting with uncertainty and anxiety. So I feel stuck
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@Mak46 The uncertainty is the worst!!! Also ruminating
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@cc97 Yep definitely. I tried to do therapy but I was so worried it wasn't going to work because I didn't have ocd. Then I also couldn't continue because it was too expensive.
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@Mak46 Thatās the same issue I have
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@cc97 See like today I went out and was worrying about paying attention to girls and if I like them. But then having a moment where I thought about having a boyfriend made me happy which is normally how I feel.
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@Mak46 Omg yes! One time I read something Where it said ālook at what gender you pay attention to moreā and then I started to try to figure it out :( I really feel more at ease when I think of having a boyfriend and husband but my anxiety makes it so hard to go through wjth it bc Iām so scared of rejection and intimacy
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@cc97 Yes! I'm sure for both of us when we aren't worried or thinking too much about it we pay way more attention to guys and wanting a boyfriend and husband. But since we are so on alert we basically force ourselves to notice girls and how we feel all the time. When I know before this I barely paid attention to girls besides maybe like oh I like her clothes.
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@Mak46 Omg I know!! It was things like ugh I wish I was her not I wish I was with her
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@cc97 Exactly!
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@Mak46 Random but how old are u
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@cc97 I am 22. What about you?
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@Mak46 24
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@cc97 How long have you been dealing with this?
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@Mak46 About 3/4 years how about you
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@cc97 Well I realized that I have ocs honestly pretty recently but I'm pretty sure I have had it much longer but never knew it wasn't normal and something else. Has so-ocd always been your main theme?
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@Mak46 I believe I probably have had other themes in childhood but as of rn yes soocd is my main theme
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@cc97 Yeah same. I think it's hard to pat attention to as a kid if no one else recognizes what might be happening. Then trying to remember anything that might have been ocd is so difficult. I do remember that I was so terrified of my family dying and I think me dying. Way more than other kids and I don't think that fear ever went away.
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@Mak46 Yes! I was the same way. When I was younger my mom worked overnight and I couldnāt sleep until she got home or else I thought she would die and it would be my fault. Also the thought of death and after death tormented me for years when I was younger I would literally spiral and panic
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@cc97 Yes same! Occasionally my parents would bring up a topic that involved it and I wouldn't even be able to listen to the conversation because of how much it would freak me out. Which very recently I watched a video and they briefly mentioned that being so worried all the time that family was going to die as a child is actually common with kids that have ocd
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@Mak46 Honestly back then I thought it was so normal ... but now Iām like definitely not
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@cc97 Yeah me too. And now I'm like oh not every child was terrified of dying, etc. I even remember thinking at some point that I couldn't fall asleep before midnight or else something bad would happen. Which I don't know how I ever thought that was just a normal way of thinking
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@Mak46 Literally same !!
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So it's crazy how we can have stuff like that happen that seems pretty obviously ocd and yet we still doubt we even have it.
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Itās frustrating :(
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@cc97 Yes very frustrating. And with how convincing it can be to make you think your thoughts are true
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@Mak46 Literally all the time. It feels like Idk who I am at all anymore
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@cc97 Yeah I have dealt with that a lot too. It really strips away important bug aspects of your personality. So you don't feel like youself. Since we were happy with how we felt before the ocd got much more intense.
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@Mak46 Yes I agree! Have you found anything that helps
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@cc97 I did find that kind of sarcastically replying to my thoughts helps occasionally. Or finding something that I enjoy to do to get me out of my head helps. Because I can definitely tell it gets worse when I am not busy and have so much time to just sit and think. I also have the skin picking part of ocd which has been going on for a long time. And I tried get help with that but it's been hard.
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@Mak46 Yes I try to stay busy too
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my ocd and anxiety has been so bad a couple of days⦠so i started liking this guy that i am friends with and we also went to prom together⦠after prom, i caught feelings for him even more because heās so respectful and nice⦠but he is also a boy that acts like one⦠but overall heās rlly sweet.. the other day though since we go to the same school we were in the parking lot after school with our friends just talking and socializing⦠but once he was leaving i went to go give him a hug and hugged me⦠my other guy friend was with us whoās also friends with him and hugged him too and whispered in his ear and said āyo u and sav would be a good coupleā and he nodded saying āyesā (my guy friend told me that) so eventually i told him saying āyeah i like himā blah blah but there is a problem that bothers me so badly⦠my friend likes him⦠i didnāt tell her for a while until i think my OCD was just bothering me sm if i didnāt tell her so i told her how i felt and i was just saying like āi donāt want this to ruin our friendship or anything but i have feelings for himā¦ā yada yada⦠she was like āi understand but if iām honest with u if u ask him out i will be upsetā iām just like i wasnāt planning to rlly i canāt tell if he rlly likes me anyways but i didnāt say that⦠i said āiām just telling u how i feelā and she goes āi mean i would see u guys anyways because u guys are closerā then she says ācan i ask u something and a non rude wayā and i was like sureā¦. she goes āsince iām the first person that liked him can i give it a try if it doesnāt work thatās thatā and i was like girl idk itās Gods plan if it doesnāt work it doesnāt if it does it doesā and iām saying that in the most mature and respectful way yk? because i am christian iāve been praying about it also. so we were good after that but my anxiety and OCD has been so horrible⦠iām uncomfortable around them because she flirts with him but i donāt and she did it on ft when i fell asleep on ft and my best friend was on there and had to hear itā¦.she told me that he does it back she just canāt tell if heās joking or not⦠but iām so overwhelmed about it iām having thoughts like āwhat if u and him stop being friendsā ⦠āwhat if something bad happensā ā¦. āwhat if ur not confident in yourself enough where he wonāt like youā ā¦. āwhat if this is a love triangleā iām just so sick of this and i donāt wanna be so distraught over a stupid boy because iāve been through sm with my past talking stage thinking it will work but now im like rlly cauious over being in a relationship nowā¦
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iām so scared to get into a relationship because i think iām a avoidant attachment⦠like i have a fear of losing myself and being too attached to where i wonāt love myself but love them more than i love myself⦠like iām thinking about the guy i like and thinking about the opportunity to be with him but something tells me iām gonna back away because of my ocd⦠i wanna love myself before i get into a relationship⦠especially this generation of relationships get me really anxious.. itās like i wanna be in a relationship but i also donāt because of losing myself⦠i wanna have confidence in myself and like the person and have a relationship with God at the same time⦠i think iām doing a compulsion which isnāt good because my ocd themes keep switching
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I keep overthinking about the guy I go to church and stuff with and we have had talks about relationships and heās aware of everything but I feel like Iām not being completely honest. Heās a great man but I doubt because of his looks. Heās not ugly but Iāll see another guy and find that guy super attractive. My heart is so heavy because of my anxiety. I looked on google if you should tell someone honestly that you donāt find them attractive. I donāt know what to do! I feel like crying because what if Iām leading him on. I see post that say looks donāt matter and I agree but I doubt this guy a lot. What if Iām not being completely honest with him. After church we held hands and we hugged. When Iām near him I want to be close and hug not too much touchy stuff though but when Iām at home Iām doubting everything. I feel like a horrible person. I feel like Iām just making excuses or not getting to the point Iāll call my mom when my anxiety and mind starts acting up and then Iāll be calm and now itās up
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