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oh, I FEEL YOU! As for my personal experience, it's about learning that negative thoughts ≠ negative intentions and it's okay and absolutely not shameful to have such thoughts. Like... We don't need any permission to be angry or feel sad/frustrated/ANYTHING, it's our feelings and our thoughts and if we feel it - it's already valid. It won't just go away if we'll try to feel remorse for it. The thing is how to cope with it, how to treat it and how to keep it all healthy. And that's where we need professional help. Hope you'll cope with it safely! Take care!
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Thank you for commenting! I really appreciate it. It’s like my brain is saying “ah yes now we can finally think about how our partner is annoying or ponder if we ever found him very funny or not.” And just all sorts of things like that and it’s making me upset😅 I don’t like thinking these things and feeling less anxious by allowing my brain to do this. I feel more anxiety trying to be positive about him and our relationship, but the brain just shoots it down and says “mmm gonna have to stop you right there, that’s a compulsion.”🙄🙄im so annoyed by all this
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@crc_1394 Oh i can relate! 😣 This can be REALLY frustrating. Though i think no one have to be always positive about anyone or any kind of relationship. No one's perfect and we don't need to look for any excuses if we feel bad or unhappy about them (which is also completely fine). What we need is to find a reason WHY we feel that way and try to do something about it. I guess 😯 I mean, it's not your fault if you feel uncomfortable. It's perhaps not anyone's fault at all, but there always must be a reason. I once heard such a nice thing, that nowadays there is a huge "tyranny of positiveness" in all aspects of our lives and we mustn't submit to it. It's okay to feel not happy and question anything, the thing is to look for reasons and keep it healthy 😌 I'm not an expert, but it seems pretty valid to me xd Hope someday we'll forget about this anxiety like it was all just a nightmare 🙏
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@Apostate Omg I’m glad I’m not alone! I think the thoughts stem from my obsessions about our differences and how my brain views differences as annoying or too much to handle. I think it tries to use his happy go lucky and silly demeanor as a threat to my more mellow and calm demeanor. Granted those two are very different but they can still exist happily. It’s like he’s a dog and I’m a cat😂and we do have different senses of humor, so what he seems as hilarious I sometimes find super annoying or just too goofy lol. But I don’t like to feel judgy or less comfortable with him when he’s in those moods bc he’s my man and I truly love him. He’s a commited and devoted person and so am I. It’s just that I have stupid ROCD. Maybe my brain wants a reason to be annoyed or upset at him or it’s always scanning for annoyed and upset feelings and then projecting them onto us? I also have a fearful avoidant attachment style, so a sarcastic woo hoo for me!
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@crc_1394 Oh, i understand that truly! 😆 And i believe that everything will be just alright. You have each other no matter what and that's a huge power in this struggle. Human brain can be such a weirdo sometimes, but it also learns from our priceless experience and that's great i guess
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*deems as hilarious
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Ii spoke w my bf this weekend and he mentioned that he has thoughts just like me, but his don't bother him like me. I then felt a lot better and he tried dissecting one of his thoughts like I usually do and realized it felt more real for him after. That made me realize that none of my thoughts were ever true and I blew them up. However, yesterday I had a thought ab “wait wut if you liked that one guy? How dare you bc youre supposed to love your bf and not secretly like someone else” and treated it as I usually did bc I accidentally wanted to see if it was true but didn't rlly but I would check to see if it was there and now that thought feels so so so real now and I feel really bad how do Ik it's not real? I feel so bad and guilty bc lividly this makes 0 sense but it feels so prominent. It felt pretty real when it happened yesterday too. And now I feel awful bc how is it possible after my clarity the other day? Why does it feel so prominent 😞😞😞
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- 11w
Does anyone else’s OCD convince them that bad thoughts are not actually that bad…. Like I know they are so why do I feel like they arent😭😭
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Is there something wrong with me if I’m not disgusted by my intrusive thoughts anymore like the disgust feeling has been gone for months now and why are my thoughts feel like they’re literally so close happening inside my brain why can I lowkey physically feel the images of that makes sense,Why do I get adrenaline why do I get a weird tingle my lips sometimes make an awkward like position when I get the thoughts it’s like I’m having a glitch idek which thought is intentional which one is intrusive but there bad thoughts and I don’t want them to be the truth about me but I literally cannot get myself to just feel relaxed even if they’re present like I actually get genuine headaches and feel uneasy for hours after having intrusive thoughts and I hate how it’s always the same kinda thoughts and sensations feelings etc around those thoughts out of nowhere when I’m just chilling they come in before when I had it is be like okay ew weird thought now I’m like what if I actually like this and I’m in denial uGHHH HATE MY BRAIN
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