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- 6y ago
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Sorry you’re having a rough day. You are definitely not alone in this battle against rocd. And definitely be proud of yourself for not bringing the irrational thoughts to him. Progress isn’t linear so some days the win is feeling so amazing and happy in your relationship and other days the win is just taking care of yourself and getting by today so you can start fresh tmrw. Anyways, if you need someone to listen, I am here
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- 6y ago
And youre being very strong for him by not letting him into this cycle
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- 6y ago
Hi! Thank you. I don’t want to say anything without triggering you or anyone else, I’m not sure how to go about this?
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- 6y ago
What thoughts are you having specifically? Ive struggled a LOT with ROCD so maybe I can offer some advice
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Thank you! Sooo I struggle with irrational thoughts. Sometimes it’ll stem from social media, or a tv show, or just when I’m in a more negative mood. Today it was from social media. I noticed some girl followed him and the thoughts just overflowed today. He didn’t follow her back (yep.. I kept checking like a fool) but it just kept nagging at me. And it’s put me in such a foul mood
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- 6y ago
I think the checking is making it worse. Your anxiety is bothering you so checking is the compulsion. Perhaps you would feel better if you limited the amount of times you check? I know how you feel though, I have a habit of checking my boyfriend's things, and I never find anything. Be happy he didnt follow her back instead of upset someone else followed him. Shes not a part of your relationship, but he is and he didnt engage with her. Thats awesome
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- 6y ago
Yep, you’re so right. I wish I didn’t even look this morning. Social media isn’t even real.. like it’s a screen. I wish I didn’t put so much weight into it ? I was feeling AMAZING earlier in the week. I felt so confident of myself and us. And then I felt less productive at work so therefore it triggered a bad mood and anxiety... and ocd.
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- 6y ago
Yeppppp if youre sitting around at work not doing much its a perfect time for the OCD to creep in because your mind isnt occupied. Resist the compulsion and dont react, and your brain will eventually consider the thought useless because you ignored it so many times.
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- 6y ago
Yeah... next time I definitely will have to resist it so it doesn’t start a new cycle. I’ve also I get more irrational when I’m more tired and it’s late at night
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- 6y ago
dont we all? xD
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Now I’m getting irrational about a old cycle/issue that I thought was in the past.... maybe it’s just time for bed
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I agree, and me too. Best choice for you 100% get some sleep. You will feel better for it
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hello! i’m super late to this conversation and i don’t want to re hash anything or trigger anyone but i have a question bc i’ve just been diagnosed and was wondering why we’re not supposed to bring up the irrational fear to our significant other? i thought we were supposed to communicate in relationships and if i don’t tell him then i feel so lonely and worse and then when i tell him he makes me feel so much better bc it affirms that the fears are false- what am i supposed to be doing instead?
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- 6y ago
You can explain to him your ocd makes you feel this way. However, I would avoid bringing up the irrational thoughts. I’ve started telling my boyfriend “I’m struggling today” but I don’t tell him the thought or anything. This has been helping a lot
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- 19w ago
1. Thoughts about Not Loving My Boyfriend: • “What if I don’t love him?” • “I feel like I’ve lost my feelings for him.” • “I don’t feel love the way I used to.” 2. Fear of Changing or Being Different: • “What if I’ve changed and this is the real me now?” • “What if I’ve grown out of the relationship?” 3. Doubt About Attraction: • “I’m not attracted to him anymore.” • “I feel numb when I look at him.” 4. Thoughts of Disconnection and Irritation: • “I feel irritated when he shows affection.” • “I feel bored or disconnected when we talk.” • “Why do I feel like I can’t stand him sometimes?” 5. Fear of Denial: • “What if I’m in denial and I’m just pretending to love him?” • “What if all these thoughts are true?” 6. Fear of Being a Bad Person: • “I’m a terrible person for feeling this way.” • “I’m ruining my relationship and hurting him.” 7. General Anxiety About the Future: • “What if I’ll fall for someone else in the future?” • “What if I’ll never feel love again?” 8. Intrusive Thoughts from the Past: • “I had violent thoughts about my dad.” • “I worried I was a pedophile after seeing a video.” Feelings Associated with These Thoughts: 1. Numbness and Emotional Disconnection: • Feeling emotionally flat or unable to access love or joy. 2. Guilt and Shame: • Feeling like a bad person or partner. 3. Hopelessness and Despair: • Feeling like things will never get better. • Believing i am stuck this way forever. 4. Irritation and Frustration: • Getting annoyed when my boyfriend shows affection. 5. Fear and Panic: • Experiencing overwhelming anxiety when questioning my feelings. 6. Sadness and Confusion: • Crying frequently, feeling lost, or not understanding why i feel this way. Compulsions I Engage In: 1. Reassurance Seeking: • Constantly asking others if everything is okay or if your feelings are normal. 2. Researching and Googling: • Searching for answers about ROCD, anxiety, and relationships online. • Checking forums like the NOCD app for reassurance. 3. Mental Checking and Analysis: • Constantly checking if i feel love, attraction, or connection. • Analyzing every interaction and emotion to see if they’re “right.” 4. Confessing: • Telling your boyfriend or others about your thoughts to relieve guilt or doubt. 5. Avoidance: • Pulling back from conversations or interactions with my boyfriend due to anxiety. 6. Comparing: • Comparing your current feelings to how you used to feel at the beginning of the relationship. 7. Self-Criticism: • Judging yourself harshly and believing i am a terrible person. FEELING SO REAL I’m struggling with ROCD and it’s consuming me. My intrusive thoughts make me feel like I don’t love my boyfriend, that I’ve changed, or that I’m a terrible person. These thoughts make me feel numb, disconnected, and hopeless. My compulsions include constant reassurance-seeking, analyzing my feelings, researching online, and confessing my fears. It’s exhausting, and I’m desperate to feel like myself again. Does anyone relate to this? How do you cope?
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- 10w ago
Really struggling today so far. I have partner-focused ROCD so I’m constantly picking apart my partner and looking for warning signs that he doesn’t love me enough and doesn’t want to be with me or care for me. Valentine’s Day is really hard for me because it’s not a huge holiday for the two of us but of course my ROCD takes it and runs with it. It tells me that he doesn’t love me, things won’t get better, he doesn’t care, he’s lazy, he’s the worst boyfriend, etc. This sucks so much because I just want to accept the fact that my brain wants to tell me these things…it is just so hard!!! :(
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- 7w ago
Currently I have several different OCD fears that pop up throughout the week depending on the situation. I've noticed a commonality between all of them are the fears relating to memory/false memory. Today is the ROCD struggle I've been dealing with. I know OCD has been trying this on me lately because of how much I love my spouse. They are my absolute best friend and she's my world. I value our marriage and friendship more than anything. OCD has latched onto one specific female coworker. And I don't even know why because even if I were single I wouldn't be into her. Even still, OCD makes me think I've cheated on my wife every time I'm alone with this coworker at work. Always starts as a what if, followed by imagery, followed by feelings that I must've actually done something and can't remember it. Usually fearing I've kissed her. It hurts because I know I'd never do that to my wife and I love her so much...the idea of losing her kills me, especially if it were the result of something I did. Just wanted to vent. Feel free to share your experiences or vents as well
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