Anyone with ROCD.. would love to chat. I’ve had a tough day. I didn’t bring up my irrational thought of the day to my boyfriend which is a win but I’ve been struggling all day and in a sour mood. These thoughts are untrue, but yet they scare me so bad and they make me mad/upset. It’s hard for me to control my emotions.

Sorry you’re having a rough day. You are definitely not alone in this battle against rocd. And definitely be proud of yourself for not bringing the irrational thoughts to him. Progress isn’t linear so some days the win is feeling so amazing and happy in your relationship and other days the win is just taking care of yourself and getting by today so you can start fresh tmrw. Anyways, if you need someone to listen, I am here

And youre being very strong for him by not letting him into this cycle

Hi! Thank you. I don’t want to say anything without triggering you or anyone else, I’m not sure how to go about this?

What thoughts are you having specifically? Ive struggled a LOT with ROCD so maybe I can offer some advice

Thank you! Sooo I struggle with irrational thoughts. Sometimes it’ll stem from social media, or a tv show, or just when I’m in a more negative mood. Today it was from social media. I noticed some girl followed him and the thoughts just overflowed today. He didn’t follow her back (yep.. I kept checking like a fool) but it just kept nagging at me. And it’s put me in such a foul mood

I think the checking is making it worse. Your anxiety is bothering you so checking is the compulsion. Perhaps you would feel better if you limited the amount of times you check? I know how you feel though, I have a habit of checking my boyfriend's things, and I never find anything. Be happy he didnt follow her back instead of upset someone else followed him. Shes not a part of your relationship, but he is and he didnt engage with her. Thats awesome

Yep, you’re so right. I wish I didn’t even look this morning. Social media isn’t even real.. like it’s a screen. I wish I didn’t put so much weight into it ? I was feeling AMAZING earlier in the week. I felt so confident of myself and us. And then I felt less productive at work so therefore it triggered a bad mood and anxiety... and ocd.

Yeppppp if youre sitting around at work not doing much its a perfect time for the OCD to creep in because your mind isnt occupied. Resist the compulsion and dont react, and your brain will eventually consider the thought useless because you ignored it so many times.

Yeah... next time I definitely will have to resist it so it doesn’t start a new cycle. I’ve also I get more irrational when I’m more tired and it’s late at night

dont we all? xD

Now I’m getting irrational about a old cycle/issue that I thought was in the past.... maybe it’s just time for bed

I agree, and me too. Best choice for you 100% get some sleep. You will feel better for it

hello! i’m super late to this conversation and i don’t want to re hash anything or trigger anyone but i have a question bc i’ve just been diagnosed and was wondering why we’re not supposed to bring up the irrational fear to our significant other? i thought we were supposed to communicate in relationships and if i don’t tell him then i feel so lonely and worse and then when i tell him he makes me feel so much better bc it affirms that the fears are false- what am i supposed to be doing instead?

You can explain to him your ocd makes you feel this way. However, I would avoid bringing up the irrational thoughts. I’ve started telling my boyfriend “I’m struggling today” but I don’t tell him the thought or anything. This has been helping a lot