- Date posted
- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
Sorry you’re having a rough day. You are definitely not alone in this battle against rocd. And definitely be proud of yourself for not bringing the irrational thoughts to him. Progress isn’t linear so some days the win is feeling so amazing and happy in your relationship and other days the win is just taking care of yourself and getting by today so you can start fresh tmrw. Anyways, if you need someone to listen, I am here
- Date posted
- 6y
And youre being very strong for him by not letting him into this cycle
- Date posted
- 6y
Hi! Thank you. I don’t want to say anything without triggering you or anyone else, I’m not sure how to go about this?
- Date posted
- 6y
What thoughts are you having specifically? Ive struggled a LOT with ROCD so maybe I can offer some advice
- Date posted
- 6y
Thank you! Sooo I struggle with irrational thoughts. Sometimes it’ll stem from social media, or a tv show, or just when I’m in a more negative mood. Today it was from social media. I noticed some girl followed him and the thoughts just overflowed today. He didn’t follow her back (yep.. I kept checking like a fool) but it just kept nagging at me. And it’s put me in such a foul mood
- Date posted
- 6y
I think the checking is making it worse. Your anxiety is bothering you so checking is the compulsion. Perhaps you would feel better if you limited the amount of times you check? I know how you feel though, I have a habit of checking my boyfriend's things, and I never find anything. Be happy he didnt follow her back instead of upset someone else followed him. Shes not a part of your relationship, but he is and he didnt engage with her. Thats awesome
- Date posted
- 6y
Yep, you’re so right. I wish I didn’t even look this morning. Social media isn’t even real.. like it’s a screen. I wish I didn’t put so much weight into it ? I was feeling AMAZING earlier in the week. I felt so confident of myself and us. And then I felt less productive at work so therefore it triggered a bad mood and anxiety... and ocd.
- Date posted
- 6y
Yeppppp if youre sitting around at work not doing much its a perfect time for the OCD to creep in because your mind isnt occupied. Resist the compulsion and dont react, and your brain will eventually consider the thought useless because you ignored it so many times.
- Date posted
- 6y
Yeah... next time I definitely will have to resist it so it doesn’t start a new cycle. I’ve also I get more irrational when I’m more tired and it’s late at night
- Date posted
- 6y
dont we all? xD
- Date posted
- 6y
Now I’m getting irrational about a old cycle/issue that I thought was in the past.... maybe it’s just time for bed
- Date posted
- 6y
I agree, and me too. Best choice for you 100% get some sleep. You will feel better for it
- Date posted
- 6y
hello! i’m super late to this conversation and i don’t want to re hash anything or trigger anyone but i have a question bc i’ve just been diagnosed and was wondering why we’re not supposed to bring up the irrational fear to our significant other? i thought we were supposed to communicate in relationships and if i don’t tell him then i feel so lonely and worse and then when i tell him he makes me feel so much better bc it affirms that the fears are false- what am i supposed to be doing instead?
- Date posted
- 6y
You can explain to him your ocd makes you feel this way. However, I would avoid bringing up the irrational thoughts. I’ve started telling my boyfriend “I’m struggling today” but I don’t tell him the thought or anything. This has been helping a lot
Related posts
- Date posted
- 17w
I am in an endless battle to figure things out. I think I figure something out that makes me feel better about my thoughts and then I find something else to prove it wrong and the cycle continues. I have so much discomfort I want to confess to my partner so bad. How do I handle this. I don’t think I’ve ever sat in this much discomfort. Why does it feel THIS BAD.
- Date posted
- 17w
I wanted to talk about my experiences with rOCD since I currently do still suffer from it but I know if I talked about them. My thoughts are just gonna get stronger, but I’ll do it for the sake of talking about my experiences to others who feel like they’re alone. I have a very loving relationship actually my first healthy relationship we are currently still dating one year and six months. I would say these intrusive thoughts started to happen once I hit the one year mark with him. Nothing in the relationship has made me think these thoughts, but it just came. Like when my mind tried to make me think I liked another guy other than my boyfriend and that I was losing feelings for him. I started to panic because I knew that my heart belonged to my boyfriend and having thoughts that were against that belief it made me really anxious cause I never had those thoughts before. I was in and out of the care center at my school constantly having anxiety attacks, and it was affecting me day by day. I talk to my boyfriend about it because my mind can never keep secrets from him because then I would feel like that I’m lying to him… my mind just kinda works that way and I believe it’s due to the situation I have with rOCD. Luckily, he was really supportive.. in thoughts I’ve had was what if I don’t like him anymore or if he doesn’t do this does that mean he likes me or if he’s even the one just a lot of doubts about me and him in the relationship. And for anyone who’s experiencing stuff familiar to this you are not alone invalid only what you believe is what is true. And I know it’s gonna be hard to know what’s true or not because these thoughts that you have versus what’s in your heart you get confused but if you know that you love that person then that’s what true. Also, the only reason why it affected me a lot was because I kept trying to solve it and the only solution is to let those thoughts in and accept that you have those thoughts. I don’t mean as an accept that these thoughts are true, but accepts that those are the thoughts that you’re thinking because if you keep on trying to find a solution to remove them, it only just get worse.
- Date posted
- 12w
I really need help rn but I feel like a horrible person. For context: I am on my period right now, 2 hours of sleep last night because cramps were so bad, haven't eaten until now and it's 7pm, had to work all day, so it's kinda just a perfect storm. On top of that my ROCD has lots to latch onto: 1) Me and my bf of almost 2 years just renewed our lease for another year and that just is obviously triggering for ROCD. 2) Somehow the biggest trigger is the fact that he shaved his beard last night, and he often wears a thick beard and when he shaves it's like he shaves 10 years off his face and I feel like I'm dating a teenager. My ROCD is really latching onto this and I'm struggling to feel attracted to him and that's opening a whole Pandora's box of ROCD fixations for me and I HATE that my brain blows up such a tiny thing into the end of the world. On top of that, I'm feeling the INCREDIBLY STRONG URGE to confess (which is a compulsion) to him that I'm having these thoughts but I know that would only give me temporary relief and would make him feel deeply insecure about himself for no good reason. I hate myself and I feel like he loves me unconditionally regardless of how I look and I'm just being so nitpicky and shallow.
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond