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Sorry you’re having a rough day. You are definitely not alone in this battle against rocd. And definitely be proud of yourself for not bringing the irrational thoughts to him. Progress isn’t linear so some days the win is feeling so amazing and happy in your relationship and other days the win is just taking care of yourself and getting by today so you can start fresh tmrw. Anyways, if you need someone to listen, I am here
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And youre being very strong for him by not letting him into this cycle
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Hi! Thank you. I don’t want to say anything without triggering you or anyone else, I’m not sure how to go about this?
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What thoughts are you having specifically? Ive struggled a LOT with ROCD so maybe I can offer some advice
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Thank you! Sooo I struggle with irrational thoughts. Sometimes it’ll stem from social media, or a tv show, or just when I’m in a more negative mood. Today it was from social media. I noticed some girl followed him and the thoughts just overflowed today. He didn’t follow her back (yep.. I kept checking like a fool) but it just kept nagging at me. And it’s put me in such a foul mood
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I think the checking is making it worse. Your anxiety is bothering you so checking is the compulsion. Perhaps you would feel better if you limited the amount of times you check? I know how you feel though, I have a habit of checking my boyfriend's things, and I never find anything. Be happy he didnt follow her back instead of upset someone else followed him. Shes not a part of your relationship, but he is and he didnt engage with her. Thats awesome
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Yep, you’re so right. I wish I didn’t even look this morning. Social media isn’t even real.. like it’s a screen. I wish I didn’t put so much weight into it ? I was feeling AMAZING earlier in the week. I felt so confident of myself and us. And then I felt less productive at work so therefore it triggered a bad mood and anxiety... and ocd.
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Yeppppp if youre sitting around at work not doing much its a perfect time for the OCD to creep in because your mind isnt occupied. Resist the compulsion and dont react, and your brain will eventually consider the thought useless because you ignored it so many times.
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Yeah... next time I definitely will have to resist it so it doesn’t start a new cycle. I’ve also I get more irrational when I’m more tired and it’s late at night
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dont we all? xD
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Now I’m getting irrational about a old cycle/issue that I thought was in the past.... maybe it’s just time for bed
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I agree, and me too. Best choice for you 100% get some sleep. You will feel better for it
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hello! i’m super late to this conversation and i don’t want to re hash anything or trigger anyone but i have a question bc i’ve just been diagnosed and was wondering why we’re not supposed to bring up the irrational fear to our significant other? i thought we were supposed to communicate in relationships and if i don’t tell him then i feel so lonely and worse and then when i tell him he makes me feel so much better bc it affirms that the fears are false- what am i supposed to be doing instead?
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You can explain to him your ocd makes you feel this way. However, I would avoid bringing up the irrational thoughts. I’ve started telling my boyfriend “I’m struggling today” but I don’t tell him the thought or anything. This has been helping a lot
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Hi, I'm 17,about to be 18. I've been struggling with these thoughts for the past 8 months. I was wondering if someone experienced ever the same because I feel im "different". BACKGROUND: (I'm not diagnosed with Ocd but seeing a local counselor) About 9 months ago I cheated on my boyfriend with this guy S (who blackmailed, manipulated and molested me). Since then when I realized that what i did was very WRONG and so I started ruminating picking apart every single interaction and telling my boyfriend, i tried to remember every single detail because otherwise I felt like i was being a fraud and hiding things to save myself, i had many crisis about it because I had also what i think was false memory ocd. My boyfriend forgave me idk how tbh I still wonder. CURRENT STRUGGLE: Months ago I was sure I didn't wanna S in any way and i was sure even when everything happened. For the past 2 months tho I've been having thoughts like " Do I love S?" "I love S" "S is hot" "Would S find me hot?" "What if I want S?" " What if I don't love my boyfriend enough?" "What if I secretly want S?" "What if I see my boyfriend as a friend only?Do I?" And I tried testing my reaction to intimate scenarios with S, I'm scared I like it i dont really wanna love S or have any secret attraction, I wish I didn't have any of this and I want to be sure of my feelings for my boyfriend because I know I wanna be with him and I see a future with him like he brings me comfort. But a part of me keeps trying to convince me otherwise. Sometimes I think I'd rather die than have these thoughts. Im so scared of not being able to control my feelings, im scared I can't resist S and its giving me anxiety and making me cry. Sometimes when i think of those sexual scenarios with S or I get those thoughts my mind tells me to smile because i like it because I find it funny. It makes me doubt myself all over again. Like I'm always like I need to test if I'd feel aroused to intimate scenarios with S, lately im trying to fight this urge to test and test but my mind is like "just do it this once so you can be sure. I can never watch anything romantic or sexual or whatever because my mind would be like "you and S" or sometimes I'm just enjoying time with my bf and im like " yes we can just have a sneaky cheating thing thats ok" and it makes me want to figure it out to find an answer a solution because idk it just does like I need to find the meaning of it if it means the truth and all. Im worried im just an awful person and these thoughts just ruin my quality of life . Today i had a crisis where i ended up doinf swlf harm, I'm so scared of finding someone that's not my boyfriend desirable or sexual appealing or whatever it is, I also have bodily reactions when I try to imagine and test my reaction to scenarios. Now i keep groing everytime and I dont know why but i have this sensation and I dont want to havebit especially when its something S related. Does someone experience the same thoughts? Am I alone in this? Is this ROCD? What should i do?
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Hi everyone☀️ has anyone ever vented to a friend without knowing it is a compulsion? Meaning like you believe the thoughts so much in your head you vent to them and they agree with you? Which then fuels your obsessions about your relationship even more? I have really done that less lately the more I have learned about my ROCD, but wanted to know if anyone else experiences this? It’s so hard when we think we are just venting and then someone agrees or goes along with the obsession because they don’t understand the OCD..which then fuels my ROCD 😭 idk if I’m making sense lol hopefully someone understands
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- 9w ago
Currently I have several different OCD fears that pop up throughout the week depending on the situation. I've noticed a commonality between all of them are the fears relating to memory/false memory. Today is the ROCD struggle I've been dealing with. I know OCD has been trying this on me lately because of how much I love my spouse. They are my absolute best friend and she's my world. I value our marriage and friendship more than anything. OCD has latched onto one specific female coworker. And I don't even know why because even if I were single I wouldn't be into her. Even still, OCD makes me think I've cheated on my wife every time I'm alone with this coworker at work. Always starts as a what if, followed by imagery, followed by feelings that I must've actually done something and can't remember it. Usually fearing I've kissed her. It hurts because I know I'd never do that to my wife and I love her so much...the idea of losing her kills me, especially if it were the result of something I did. Just wanted to vent. Feel free to share your experiences or vents as well
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