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For me I obsess about how often my partner and I have sex, whether we’re close enough, spend enough time together, whether I have a feeling that we should be together, etc. When I’m feeling anxious about any of these things, I often engage in a compulsion: I reach out to my partner or complain to him, I ruminate, I compare and contrast goods and bads in the relationship, or compare to a past relationship. My biggest fear is that I “should” break up with my partner and I’m in denial. It’s been really hard :(
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I recovered from this theme!
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That’s amazing! Does anything I wrote sound like what you felt? Any advice?
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@daph619 Some of it does. Whenever I would go out to eat with him, I would think to myself horrible thoughts. Not sure why but whenever we would go out to eat I would just think horrible stuff. And honestly what happened me was going to a therapist who got to the root cause of the fear which was trauma from my parents marriage. Speaking to her about that helped me a lot.
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Absolutley horrible. I ovethink my feelings for him, his for me, loyalty and commitment, facial features and personality, our "rightness" for each other, every single little comment, whether I'm attracted to somebody else, bodily reactions or discomfort near certain people that give intrusive thoughts, and then I also experience numbness which makes me feel like I could care less about what I think which I could say is the worst of all. Literally, I don't know how to escape it.
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THIS
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Following
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Would you mind sharing how it’s been for you?
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Literally this! Thinking my feeling towards them aren’t real and I start acting funny and I actually don’t like them it’s all in my head
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I’m new to the app and wanting to know who else experiences this form of ocd. Some background I was a therapist for over 10 years now I am out of the clinical space. So I have background knowledge of ocd but never knew much about relationship ocd. I realized over the last several years with my now fiancé, that I have a hard time just letting go in general, whether that’s an argument or statement or feeling. I want to be able to just accept things at face value and move on (and talk later if my partner is ready as needed). But when conflict arises I can’t disengage till there is a clear resolution. It’s causing serious strife as he can feel trapped and it escalates the argument. I am reading more and this sounds like relationship OCD. Anyone else experience this? Curious on what others have done to work on this for themselves. I do have a therapist but we are not doing work in this area yet as I am realizing this is an actual concern.
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Relationships can be challenging for everyone. What are some ways OCD has come into your relationship and added extra struggles?
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I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.
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