I feel helpless. I have had sexual fantasies about women(I am a woman) but always desired to be with a man emotionally, physically, and romantically. I’ve never been with a woman in real life and never desired to. When I was single the thought of hooking up with a woman never entered my mind. I am married to my wonderful husband now and he knows all of the fantasies I have and it doesn’t bother him at all. However, I can’t stop feeling the obsessive need to define it and I feel it’s not right. I have this perfectionist in me and the need to have answers and define it. It sends me into this dark, depressive, OCD spiral I feel I can’t come out of. Does anyone else feel this way? I hope I’m not alone someone please help! Any advice at all is appreciated!

We think things about ourselves that no one else thinks and our biggest fear is what others would think. Well guess what?! They don’t need to know and who knows what is going on in other people’s minds! Most people don’t share this stuff and so we automatically think that others aren’t thinking anything close to what we are thinking and we start judging ourselves. We are our own worst enemies.

Yes it is very painful and isolating. I hate that others feel this way because obviously I know how it feels but it’s comforting to know I’m not alone. I am anxious to see my therapist from NOCD this week to start getting help. I just want to be happy- go on and live my life without feeling this way.

Same here! I got married March of last year and had horrible ROCD and SOOCD, it latched on to everything and then gave me the intrusive thought “im gay”which I got stuck in my head on repeat, but I know isn’t true Haha. I have thought about it and come to the same conclusion sexuality is on a spectrum, and I feel like of course women are beautiful and so forth but I only am romantically attracted to males. Makes me feel like people would judge me on my sexuality and that I’m a weirdo 😂

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Wow, I relate so much! I am also happily married to my husband. I have sexual fantasies/dreams about women and my husband knows and isn't bothered. But it's painful, confusing, and isolating.

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I am starting to realize that my fantasies about women have stemmed from being a teenager and I think they are because I was never confident in myself when it came to guys- I had many crushes on guys. I think fantasies about women were more comforting because well it’s a woman’s body just like mine and it wasn’t as intimidating. Then once I started having them I just did it because I knew it was what I could get myself off to without feeling intimated or not attractive about myself. Anyone else feel this way?