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Don't change how you live your life to accommodate your fears and anxiety. There's nothing wrong with feeling attraction. It's just part of the human experience. You can choose to live based on what you value rather than on what you feel.
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Thank you very much for your answers ❤
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It's hard! I recently went through a phase where my ocd was really set on convincing me that I'm attracted to girls, even though I'm happily married to the man of my dreams! Let yourself feel the feelings. Feelings don't have power to determine our values and choices. You can just let yourself feel all the feelings, and let yourself feel the anxiety associated with them. In my case, I was avoiding getting together with friends or even texting them because I was so afraid I'd fall in love with them and cheat on my husband. But I had to face those fears and just get together with the friend anyway and send them a text anyway. If you just keep living your life based on your values (rather than your anxiety) then eventually it gets easier and the anxiety fades. You can handle this!
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Thanks for this. This has been my issue because I have always anxiety accociated to the feelings and I have hard to accept the feelings of that mean I need to leave my wonderful boyfriend. Do you have any advice How I can accept thoughts and feeling and still dont choose to act out ?
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@Stroomie It helps me to just agree with the intrusive thought! "Yep, I probably WILL ruin my life! Yes, this probably will ruin my relationship." It sounds so sad but it throws the OCD off and stops fueling the OCD.
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