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I will say to watch AnxiousLoveCoach on YouTube because she talks about this!
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Fight for it with everything you can before it’s too late love isn’t always a feeling it’s hard work and dedication to one another and I understand how you feel completely but deep down I’m sure you have feelings but my ROCD is very similar. Im truly sorry you have to deal with this but you aren’t alone anymore and neither am i
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dude . thank you .
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Hey I’m sorry you’re struggling, but it sounds like you might be reassurance seeking. Also looks like you’ve been doing a lot of rumination. Are you seeing a therapist?
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Yes I am. I just started. I know I have ocd but it doesn’t mean that my thoughts aren’t true - it just means that they give me anxiety. It’s just literally so hard. Like crippling.
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Yeah I know how it is. I also used to struggle with rOCD (and occasionally still do), but I’ve since gotten much better. You’re right, it doesn’t mean you’re thoughts aren’t true. They could very well be true, that’s why rOCD is hard. But trust me, I’ve been there and I’ve done the work and ERP and therapy works. My anxiety is much lower and I’m happier than I’ve ever been, and I’m still with my gf
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okay. i just have to trust the process. i’ve been in the psychiatric ward for ocd so it’s just so hard for me. like i know everyone’s ocd is horrible and i’m not trying to compare but mine was so so bad. and it still is. i’m actually on antipsychotics. i also have manic bipolar with psychosis though … sorry over sharing
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Yeah that sounds rough, definitely sounds like your case is tougher than most. But I hope you’re able to take it slow and make it through 👍🏼
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sometimes i don’t even want to try to get better because i’m like this is so stupid and i don’t like him and i always knew it. it’s like i push for it. anyways. thanks for your help!
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like do we even get along in conversation that well????
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also - i’ve looked into anxious love coach and i feel like there’s nothing on there that pertains to my thoughts. because at least the people on their are fighting for a relationship. i don’t even know what’s right anymore
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there are so many times that i’m like yes it’s gonna get better! and then i hype myself up to see him and it’s literally 10x worse. this is literally so discouraging
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- 20w
I don’t understand why I don’t feel happy, why my mind keeps making me think so negatively about him. Nothing makes me feel joy anymore. I keep thinking that he’s stupid, that I don’t like him, and when he speaks kindly to me, I feel nothing. The worst part is that I feel completely numb, like I have no emotions at all. And that makes me think that maybe I really don’t like him, that I will eventually reach a point where I realize my worst fear is true. I keep fighting with him because of my attitude. I treat him badly, and I know it’s because of my thoughts. I can’t see the good in anything. Today, he told me that I would be better off without him because I always seem so sad. He moved to my city for university just to be with me, and instead of making his life better, I feel like I’m making it worse. The thoughts don’t stop, even when I’m with him. I see people posting about how they feel calm when they’re with their partners, but I don’t. I can’t look at him without having intrusive thoughts, and I can’t even kiss him. Today, he told me that he doesn’t feel loved by me anymore, that I treat him poorly. I am constantly afraid because I feel nothing when he says things to me, because I don’t feel like I care. When I look at pictures of us from when I was in a better place, I feel like I was a completely different person. I start thinking that I’ve “matured” and that’s why I don’t feel anything anymore—like maybe I only liked him because I was young and naïve. Everything he does and says irritates me, but he loves me. What if I’m only with him because I don’t want to hurt him? What if I’m just used to him? I feel scared all the time. I don’t understand what’s happening. He keeps trying to apply logic, but it doesn’t work on me. So many times, he has tried to make me feel better, to tell me that I still care about him and that I don’t need to feel love all the time. But my heart breaks when I see how attached he is to me while I feel like I don’t feel the same way. I feel like I’m hurting him, and I don’t know how to get out of this dark place . He keeps trying to apply logic, but it doesn’t work on me. So many times, he has tried to make me feel better, to tell me that I still care about him and that I don’t need to feel love all the time. But my heart breaks when I see how attached he is to me while I feel like I don’t feel the same way. I feel like I’m hurting him, and I don’t know how to get out of this dark place
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- 19w
I feel like I want to break up with my partner and go off and experience things like falling in love and butterflies and magic again. My partner is my home and my family and my rock and we’re compatible but sometimes it feels like I have these unfulfilled needs. And then ocd comes in and SCREAMS about these things and pulls me away from my partner. We’ve been together ten years. It says leave leave leave leave leave. And I feel like deep down I don’t want to stay. But I know love is a choice. How can I choose to stay when my body is screaming rub. I know I have ocd, and this is what ocd feels like, and I also have a lot of trauma regards to attachment. Am I being a coward??? Will this ever end?
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- 18w
Does anyone else struggle with object permanence in relationships? Like whenever my partner is out of the house I immediately think negatively or I find things wrong with the relationship or him… For background my partner and I always fight over chores (I know it’s common but it’s annoying) I definitely pull more weight than him and I think he has ADHD, which makes him struggle to help and be aware of helping. Lately we’ve been somewhat good with splitting meals and dishes whatever, I know it can change with work stress, fatigue whatever. But last week my partner was out of the house watching his uncle’s dog so he was barely home. He was sleeping over at his uncles house and would come home for meals sometimes and stuff like that. I started becoming super fixated on him not helping with the dishes before he left and would constantly feel urges to yell about it. Even though the week prior everything was good when it came to that (sometimes with my ROCD I’ll even question myself and be like was it?) so I have started 4 separate fights arguing about dishes and chores and mentioning that he doesn’t help enough and if this continues I’ll have to leave… it’s so hard for me to snap out of it and just realize that he was going back and forth and didn’t think to help because he was busy with helping his uncle. And then I get such a negative view of him in my head that I nitpick his appearance, I make comments, etc, because my underlying fear is he doesn’t care to help, he will never change, and we will fail. So it’s almost like I’m looking to have a reason to run before I actually need to? It’s a constant cycle for me and I’m truly so exhausted by myself. But also relationships are so hard for me because I struggled SO much with trying to depend on others that I almost don’t let myself depend on others…. Any advice is appreciated but also just like do you also experience this? Thank you & pls be kind 🥺🥺🥺
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