Y’all I have horrible ROCD and so many people in my life are always telling me about how my concerns are valid, and that if I think I can do better I should break up with him. I just get bored when he talks, I’m not always excited to see him, and sometimes our relationship seems so boring and I literally don’t want to talk to him or I get super standoffish. I’m afraid that the only reason I don’t leave is because he loves me so much. And it’s like if he didn’t would I fight for our relationship?

Hey I’m sorry you’re struggling, but it sounds like you might be reassurance seeking. Also looks like you’ve been doing a lot of rumination. Are you seeing a therapist?

Yes I am. I just started. I know I have ocd but it doesn’t mean that my thoughts aren’t true - it just means that they give me anxiety. It’s just literally so hard. Like crippling.

Yeah I know how it is. I also used to struggle with rOCD (and occasionally still do), but I’ve since gotten much better. You’re right, it doesn’t mean you’re thoughts aren’t true. They could very well be true, that’s why rOCD is hard. But trust me, I’ve been there and I’ve done the work and ERP and therapy works. My anxiety is much lower and I’m happier than I’ve ever been, and I’m still with my gf

okay. i just have to trust the process. i’ve been in the psychiatric ward for ocd so it’s just so hard for me. like i know everyone’s ocd is horrible and i’m not trying to compare but mine was so so bad. and it still is. i’m actually on antipsychotics. i also have manic bipolar with psychosis though … sorry over sharing

Yeah that sounds rough, definitely sounds like your case is tougher than most. But I hope you’re able to take it slow and make it through 👍🏼

sometimes i don’t even want to try to get better because i’m like this is so stupid and i don’t like him and i always knew it. it’s like i push for it. anyways. thanks for your help!

I will say to watch AnxiousLoveCoach on YouTube because she talks about this!

like do we even get along in conversation that well????

also - i’ve looked into anxious love coach and i feel like there’s nothing on there that pertains to my thoughts. because at least the people on their are fighting for a relationship. i don’t even know what’s right anymore

there are so many times that i’m like yes it’s gonna get better! and then i hype myself up to see him and it’s literally 10x worse. this is literally so discouraging

Fight for it with everything you can before it’s too late love isn’t always a feeling it’s hard work and dedication to one another and I understand how you feel completely but deep down I’m sure you have feelings but my ROCD is very similar. Im truly sorry you have to deal with this but you aren’t alone anymore and neither am i