lilyluna
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- 3y
gracedomingogracedomingo
- Date posted
- 3y
I agree.. I practically broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago because of the thoughts.. + Ive been disconnected which wasnt helping but.. during all of that I realized how much I loved him and that I didnt want us to end… it’s definitely a compulsion! Do not! If you’re in an episode(having consistent thoughts). Dont give in.
Sero82Sero82
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- 3y
It's so hard to not think these thoughts aren't validating. Like how do you distinguish? I know oftentimes my boyfriend and I disagree and I end up questioning his morals often (as part of one of the things I obsess over) and he gets very upset because he says I'm trying to paint his character a certain way. But I don't understand how which makes me feel like I'm weaponizing his defensiveness to fuel my intrusive thoughts and its made me feel disconnected and uncomfortable. :( how do u differentiate bc I really want to fix it but I'm scared that my thoughts would be right if I did?
lilylunalilyluna
- Date posted
- 3y
@Sero82 omg yes, like the thing i obsess the most is about me losing feelings. but like, am i losing feelings for real? or is it just my thoughts and sensations?? idk but it’s very tricky
Sero82Sero82
- Date posted
- 3y
Sorry, meant hard to think these thoughts aren't validating *
Sero82Sero82
- Date posted
- 3y
@lilyluna It's an emotional whirlwind!
lilylunalilyluna
- Date posted
- 3y
@Sero82 totally. i’m sorry i can’t help you with what you wrote but i hope you find peace
Sero82Sero82
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- 3y
@lilyluna Thank you :)
Jman70Jman70
- Date posted
- 3y
@Sero82 Same here. My wife and I differ politically
gracedomingogracedomingo
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- 3y
For now.. I think educating yourself is great.. I am still but we need to start prioritizing ourselves.. and getting back to our happy selves..
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
Do you love him? Do you want to be with him? The thing is if it’s only thoughts about breaking up don’t that is your compulsiveness trying to give in be strong and don’t be like me I gave in to my urges and now I’ve lost everything my heart desired
lilylunalilyluna
- Date posted
- 3y
yeah like we’ve planned so much and i don’t wanna lose that
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 3y
@lilyluna Just sit with anxiety and think what it would feel like if you did just that and sit with anxiety and as you do so look over at him and let him know what he means to you don’t hold back
gracedomingogracedomingo
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- 3y
Lemme just ask.. how are you doing physically?! Cause Ik I really let the thoughts take over and start crying on the daily when I am now taking care of myself… Before I definitely nip picked my partners flaws.. so that it something I have went through.. I definitely believe that with ROCD it makes you analyze everything.. even things you normally dont do while in a healthy mindset. OCD is based in fears and worries.. It honestly hard for me to distinguish but I just can tell by my anxiety.. My chest starts hurting.. Also, if you’re constantly obsessing over them.. you’re ruminating over them.. you’re panicking.. youre trying to figure them out.. solve them.. you do feeling checks.. thats how yk they are intrusive thoughts and they are just thoughts.. give by OCD that arent real.
lilylunalilyluna
- Date posted
- 3y
yeah you mean like if i think about the thoughts a lot?
Sero82Sero82
- Date posted
- 3y
Have you ever felt numb when having intrusive thoughts? Like a point of emotionlessness where you feel that means you don't care about the relationship?
lilylunalilyluna
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- 3y
@Sero82 yeah, like i sometimes feel like i wouldn’t even care so much if we broke up! but like i was so ok like five days ago
gracedomingogracedomingo
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- 3y
@lilyluna Yes if you consistently think of them.. but do compulsions to give yourself some sort of relief and or if you panic and if its something youre ruminating on the entire day where you are unable to do your normal activities.. I have relationship anxiety and when I let intrusive thoughts get to me I numb myself and dissociate. My body goes into fight or flight mode.. its basically protecting me..like “thank you” but that means i dont feel no emotion.. no nothing.. and it sucks
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