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- OCD Conqueror
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I’m sorry you’re going through. I’m glad you’re sticking to erp!
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That is a great idea
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Thanks!! I am going to just ignore what she says. She is not the expert.
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Period
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Is there any support groups near you or over zoom she can attend to hear other people talk about their ocd and the erp therapy. There is a support group in new hamspahire over zoom on Thursday nights and there was a mom who attended last week to get info because her 25 year old daughter has it and the mom did not understand. It seemed very helpful to her.
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I love your idea. That might be beneficial for us.
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@AA16 I hope it helps. It’s so hard for people who don’t have ocd to really understand. For that matter I have trouble understanding mg own ocd. Best of luck 💜
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Oh thank you.
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- OCD Conqueror
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I’m not sure why she thinks it’s wrong but perhaps try using the addiction metaphor with her? Ask if she would give you drugs if you were in pain and going through withdrawals.
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I tried explaining that to her and she kicked me out of the house. Then let me back in. I try to explain to her she does not listen. I will not listen to her. Thanks
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Sounds toxic to me :( try explaining to her how ocd works and why u need ERP for it .
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@Brian :) Oh just now read ur comment sorry
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Try looking over these support groups and hopefully she can attend one https://www.treatmyocd.com/support-groups I am so sorry that you are struggling with this. It is very difficult for a parent to see their child struggle and in pain- and with ERP, initially there may be an increase in anxiety and discomfort but that is actually a good thing- it sounds counterintuitive but that is what makes it work. Maybe your therapist could meet one on one with your mom and explain the intent behind the exposures, if they haven't already done so and give education about why ERP works and how.
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- NOCD Alumni
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Do you have the NOCD app? You can access groups in the app and I would encourage you to sign up for the supporting others with OCD group and the new to NOCD group. And you guessed it! Have your mom there for the groups with you. I think she will learn a lot. However, if she is not accepting then if you have been diagnosed with OCD please stick with ERP. It is the standard for treatment and talk therapy makes OCD worse. Also, is it possible that she thinks you are worse because when you start ERP it does increase your anxiety before you start seeing a reduction? I think she needs some education. You can also let your therapist know and ask if they have any resources to help educate her.
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I have contamination ocd, and one of my compulsions is avoiding eating non-cooked food prepared by other people. I had a session with my family to plan accommodation reduction two months ago, and this compulsion was on there but we decided to focus on other accommodations first. Tonight my mom made fresh food (totally fine), but acted very offended and angry when I couldn’t eat it. I get where she’s coming from, she worked hard on the meal and it sucks that I couldn’t make myself eat it. But it also sucks that she knows this is a compulsion and can’t be understanding. Maybe I need to explain this compulsion to her better? In the family session we talked about the compulsion but not about the specific underlying obsessive thought (today my mom specifically said that I had to explain why I wasn’t eating and I didn’t). I’m really sad that OCD is affecting my relationship with her in this way.
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Hello, I’m a mother. My son is 17 and he has contamination OCD. We have been trying different ways to support him but he refused to see any therapist. He is struggling with paranoia and intrusive thoughts. Those thoughts make him so angry that he get yelly, throwing and breaking some furniture, and just yesterday he put a hole in the wall. He admitted that these didn’t help him feel any better, in fact it made him feel worse (because he didn’t want to act as such). We are doing our best to support him, talking with him but he refused to talk about those intrusive thoughts and paranoia. What do you suggest me to do? What would be helpful for me to do so he can talk with me more? We desperately want him to get help but he wouldn’t. Thank you in advance!
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- 9w
I have been diagnosed with OCD by a therapist on NOCD for about 4 years now. I went through therapy here and I was officially diagnosed. My mom knows about the diagnosis because I’ve pretty much told her all my struggles and unfortunately confessed a lot of what I was dealing with in the past. She was not understanding at first and told me there was no way I could have OCD that I don’t “clean and organize” like people she has worked with before or been around. I told her that I wanted to go through therapy at the time and she said no and really said some mean and hateful things. Eventually though she did start becoming understanding but not in the way you would think. My mom isn’t exactly emotionally supportive. So talking to her about everything was really hard to go through. Well getting into what’s bothering me….in the past I have thought maybe there was a possibility that I could have autism. I’ve seen people on TikTok talk about it and what they have experienced and it was similar to me but I pushed it aside and never talked about it with anyone. I do struggle with “misophonia” and my mom is also aware of that even though she doesn’t believe in it either and that I’m just “misdiagnosing” myself. Well today she randomly says “There’s a video I watched earlier that I think you should see. I think you have autism. I don’t think you have OCD. You were misdiagnosed and it’s your trauma that is making you think you have OCD.” And it really hit me the wrong way and was quite triggering. The things that I have put in my head and all the hate towards myself before I was diagnosed came back because I was starting to second guess myself. I told her you can have OCD and autism at the same time. There’s no way for me to know unless I’m diagnosed and she said you don’t need to be diagnosed you kind of just know or something like that. But it really put it in my head that I’m making the OCD symptoms up and what if I really was diagnosed and it confirms that I’m a “bad” person. Sometimes I wish I never told my mom anything. She has never really shown care or understanding towards how I have been feeling for years. Who knows, maybe I do have autism but I know for a fact I have OCD. I just hate she put it in my head that theres a possibility I’m an imposter and I’m really what my mind tells me I am. If anyone relates to this please reach out. I’m not really asking for reassurance I just don’t know if I should listen to my mom. Yes I’m an adult. I’m 26 and still live at home. Now that she thinks I have autism, is she going to use it against me too? This sucks so much 💔
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