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- OCD Conqueror
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I’m sorry you’re going through. I’m glad you’re sticking to erp!
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That is a great idea
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Thanks!! I am going to just ignore what she says. She is not the expert.
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Is there any support groups near you or over zoom she can attend to hear other people talk about their ocd and the erp therapy. There is a support group in new hamspahire over zoom on Thursday nights and there was a mom who attended last week to get info because her 25 year old daughter has it and the mom did not understand. It seemed very helpful to her.
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I love your idea. That might be beneficial for us.
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@AA16 I hope it helps. It’s so hard for people who don’t have ocd to really understand. For that matter I have trouble understanding mg own ocd. Best of luck 💜
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Oh thank you.
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- OCD Conqueror
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I’m not sure why she thinks it’s wrong but perhaps try using the addiction metaphor with her? Ask if she would give you drugs if you were in pain and going through withdrawals.
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I tried explaining that to her and she kicked me out of the house. Then let me back in. I try to explain to her she does not listen. I will not listen to her. Thanks
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Sounds toxic to me :( try explaining to her how ocd works and why u need ERP for it .
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@Brian :) Oh just now read ur comment sorry
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Try looking over these support groups and hopefully she can attend one https://www.treatmyocd.com/support-groups I am so sorry that you are struggling with this. It is very difficult for a parent to see their child struggle and in pain- and with ERP, initially there may be an increase in anxiety and discomfort but that is actually a good thing- it sounds counterintuitive but that is what makes it work. Maybe your therapist could meet one on one with your mom and explain the intent behind the exposures, if they haven't already done so and give education about why ERP works and how.
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- NOCD Alumni
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Do you have the NOCD app? You can access groups in the app and I would encourage you to sign up for the supporting others with OCD group and the new to NOCD group. And you guessed it! Have your mom there for the groups with you. I think she will learn a lot. However, if she is not accepting then if you have been diagnosed with OCD please stick with ERP. It is the standard for treatment and talk therapy makes OCD worse. Also, is it possible that she thinks you are worse because when you start ERP it does increase your anxiety before you start seeing a reduction? I think she needs some education. You can also let your therapist know and ask if they have any resources to help educate her.
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- 23w
Listen, I totally get it. It’s hard to hear a loved one obsessing over small, insignificant things. My mom tries to be supportive, but she gets so mad when I tell her what’s on my mind, and she just yells at me and says I’m crazy for thinking like this. So, I just sent her this, and I hope it helps: Mom, I know it’s really hard, but when I’m suffering with OCD thoughts, all I need is sympathy. Getting mad at someone for having OCD is like getting mad at someone for having a head injury. Please understand that I can’t help it, or else I would stop it. I need someone to say, “I’m so sorry that’s bothering you this much. It must be so overwhelming. It must be so hard to cope with this.” You could even ask me questions, like “What does it feel like? How much are you thinking about this? What helps you feel better?” I just need someone to validate my experience and sympathize, not tell me that I’m crazy or say my problems aren’t real. I’m aware these thoughts are crazy — that’s why I feel so alone and sad and scared. When you tell me my thoughts are crazy, it makes me feel even more like a freak. Sometimes, I just need someone to hold my hand and tell me I’m not alone.
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So I’ve been going to an ocd therapist for abt 2-3 months now and she’s starting to make me feel very nervous and anxious I even started crying, she wanted me to do exposures that were to much for me and I got rlly upset and Burt out into tears and she just didn’t say anything and just sat there for a good 10 seconds doing nothing this is starting to repeat nearly every session and I’m very frustrated should I get a new therapist or do I just be nice and tough it out?
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- 9w
I have contamination ocd, and one of my compulsions is avoiding eating non-cooked food prepared by other people. I had a session with my family to plan accommodation reduction two months ago, and this compulsion was on there but we decided to focus on other accommodations first. Tonight my mom made fresh food (totally fine), but acted very offended and angry when I couldn’t eat it. I get where she’s coming from, she worked hard on the meal and it sucks that I couldn’t make myself eat it. But it also sucks that she knows this is a compulsion and can’t be understanding. Maybe I need to explain this compulsion to her better? In the family session we talked about the compulsion but not about the specific underlying obsessive thought (today my mom specifically said that I had to explain why I wasn’t eating and I didn’t). I’m really sad that OCD is affecting my relationship with her in this way.
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