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This isn’t cheating at all, everyone I know including myself does this, if you tried to do it the first time and then got it wrong, check to see how to do it and then learn it, it’s not cheating at all
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My professors tell everyone to do this while studying and doing homework
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Oh seriously? All I did was look back at my notes and see if I was doing the homework assignments right. So it's not cheating at all?
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@BigGip09 It really isn’t cheating, it’s homework, you’re more than allowed to look back at your notes, homework is meant to try and get you to understand the material but by no means is it cheating, it’s practice to understand what you’re doing. I would understand your worry if it was a quiz or exam, but don’t worry, my OCD has had me worry about things like this in the past, it’s really no big deal at all, you’re actually doing exactly what you should be doing
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@OCDHaver Alright, I see now. Though it makes me sick that I would let myself get this riled up over things I felt like I already knew. I knew this was OCD, I knew this was somehow that normally wouldn't bother me, but I let it anyway. Thanks though. By the way, I just noticed that I'm not following you, but I am now. So this is just something everyone does when it comes to homework. Now that I think about it, it was encouraged in another class that I'm enrolled in. I'd never do something like this for a test or an exam though, that would be totally unfair to everyone else who studied and prepared themselves for something that big. How have you been though, my friend?
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@BigGip09 I totally get this, and that’s totally true, if you’re not doing it on an exam or quiz I get it, but homework is meant to be work to help you understand the concepts, which is why calculators in a math class for homework is alright. And I’ve been doing okay, as far as my other obsessions, but I’m going through major health OCD, hoping through “Do I have cancer or not” everyone is telling me to relax, but I’m going to the doctors just to be safe and if they tell me it’s nothing, I’ll try to let it go
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@OCDHaver Sorry to hear about that OCD theme. It really does suck that reassurance and other compulsions give you that short relief only because sitting through that uncomfortable feeling of guilt, shame, and worry just hurts like hell. I'm glad you've been better though. I would say I've been better as well. Cutting out most compulsions has helped me but I still have work to do.
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@BigGip09 Definitely, I still have my days where I’m panicking or anxious, but I definitely see why people say that once you give up on compulsions and try to push past them it helps, it really does. There’s still shame and guilt there, but I try to see it as a learning experience and just know that I’ve learned from it and that I know better now
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@OCDHaver Yeah same. I'm really trying to use what happened to me at such a young age as a learning experience to be more safe and kind to myself now that I know what circumstances I'm up against. I just wish it could stop there though. One thing I could do is expand on things I do or don't want, which I think will help. It's good to chat with others that know exactly what that's like.
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That's not cheating. Cheating is stealing a copy of the answers or having someone else do your homework for you. You are way overthinking this
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I seem to overthink pretty much everything, even if I know it's bonkers unfortunately :(
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@BigGip09 I get it. I do that too. It's part of having OCD.
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@Lms526 The hardest part of to not ruminate about the thoughts especially since it's real event. I hope you're holding up with OCD okay. Sorry you have it too
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My OCD is continuing to have me constantly check and check and check! I keep doubting and am very confused! How can I get out of this trap!!!!!
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Input please. Whenever I have a thought or come across something like news about pedophilia or other awful things, I feel like I try to make it okay in my head. Like I am trying to explain it away, excuse it. And when I look at that from a more compassionate lens, I think maybe I am just trying to process something bad. Maybe I am trying to make something horrific feel a little less horrifying so I can keep existing in a world where it happens. Because the truth is, whenever I hear about something terrible, it does not just go away. I do not have that ability to shove it aside and move on. I have to live with it. I carry it. I live my life alongside these awful things that exist. But then, when I look at it through a different lens, it gets darker. Maybe I am not trying to process something bad. Maybe I am actually trying to justify it. Maybe I am trying to convince myself it is not that bad… because deep down I agree with the people who do it. Or maybe I am afraid that if it were not so stigmatized, I would somehow be okay with it. And that thought worries me. I know that why someone holds moral values is not as important as the fact that they do. I know that what matters is your actions and your commitment to being a good person. It still scares me. I keep asking myself: am I trying to justify something awful just so I can mentally survive it, or am I trying to justify something awful because some part of me agrees with it?
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I was at a house party a month ago and everyone was taking photos of silly moments. I took two photos that had an attractive person in them. I deleted the photos a few days later because I felt guilty and anxious that I had taken them. I keep ruminating and thinking about my intentions. I do believe I took them because they had an attractive person in them. I worry that this makes it count as cheating. I am very very open with my partner and I tend to constantly confess things like this to him. I have confessed so many things to him, and he always holds the same stance: he believes that fantasizing and crushing is okay. He said he has had his own crushes and he said “fantasizing is nice as long as it stays a fantasy.” I agreed. I told him about my crush and how anxious I was about it and how I was afraid that it was emotional cheating. He told me that it really doesn’t matter and that it’s only wrong if it’s physical cheating. I should note that I have taken VERY VERY good care to never even attempt to become friends with this person. I’ve seen them a handful of times at group gatherings but I never ever message them on my own, I ignore all their messages in a group chat because I don’t want to give them special attention, I never even speak to them in person unless they speak to me first. We are barely even friends. He said he doesn’t need to know what goes on in my head and as long as an action seems innocent to an outsider, it’s not cheating and he doesn’t need to know about it. One time I confessed an action where I also felt like my intentions were wrong, and he told me “Who cares about intentions? It’s outcome that matters.” My therapist also told me not to worry about these actions. He said that if I keep ruminating on whether an action is right or wrong, I should just try to sit with the discomfort and not confess. He told me that if an action were really wrong, I would KNOW it intuitively and “my body would push me to confess.” I’m just so worried sick about this. Do I confess or not?
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